Why do women need to feel reassured and secure?

Question

...and men don't?

Answer 1

First , I miss u Belier and thx for the good questions.

I think men also need to feel reassured and secure , but not like women , that's the truth , and it will be like that .

Its how God create us , Woman always need to feel secure more than a man , that's also what some women search in their men , they need to feel secure through men.

That's my opinion , maybe its right , maybe its wrong.

Answer 2

In my case it is actually the other way around.
My husband grew up feeling lost or insecure because his family didnt stay in one place long. So he doesnt think he has friends. except for me..
Even though I dont have a job because of my troubles with my health. I know I can work somewhere other than here, As I have before when my health was worse.
I have made my husband insecure in someways because I've threatened to leave him the way people in the past have , or the way he has had to do as a child.
He feels I control his emotions and cause him to cave in if I dont get my way, but that isnt the case.
So this struggles can go both ways. I can feel secure in life , when my health is much better and things are at ease. Yet my husband never can as it is embedded deep in him that people cant be friends with him or do anything for him so why should he bother.
Sometimes it weighs heavy on me , but other times I try to help him float.
I tell my husband that I've stayed by him for 21 years , so I'll be here for another 21. I did leave briefly to gain some strength, and went to the hospital for preocedures and test a few times. Then went to care for my mom when she was dying. All those times, that I had to be away he called me daily and sometimes more than once a day or if I was nearby he'd show up and visit with me there.

So not all men are strong and sure. Just as not all women must feel the need to be reassured by others to feel secure in order to get through life.

Answer 3

hi Belier...
Do you think that is a matter of genders?? I dont think so.
Nowadays women have to take hard decisions, to face problems with the kids,there are many divorced couples where women havent any support and they depends on themselves.
In the other side, men have been raised "to be " stronger that women, but just bcoz of the time that they are living in, many "roles" are inverted..
We can see nowadays, that are so much men that get less salaries than their wives. Some of them assume that, but other ones dont, just bcoz of the way they were raised.
That men are so insecure. If you make a study about how many persons of different gender make therapy with a psychologyst, you'll realize that the number is almost the same.
So, for me, the stuff that men are more secure than women, is a myth.

MILO.....honey.....there was lot of time that I didnt agree with you, but have to say that i do it totally with your reply to this question.

Answer 4

You know that term "daddy's little girl" well I think it originates from that, growing up you get that feeling of being secure in all aspects and it continues as an adult, for some woman not all of course..
Daddy gives you a feeling of being secure and protected, men don't need that, men need a feeling of being taken cared of kind of like mom use to. Once again some men not all...

Answer 5

I think many factors affect that.
Some of these factors are their bodies where women bodies are not as strong as men, and maybe because they always looking for the family and children. To have children you must feel secure.
Note: I do not agree that men do not. Both of male and female do but women need it more.

Answer 6

Some men do... however, I know what you are talking about.

Once I read that it has to do with power-- before commitment (and sexual relations), the man is usually trying to 'win over' the woman. He showers her with assurances, security, gifts and compliments...

After she agrees and accepts him, he feels secure--she has chosen him. However, this is when she needs to be assured that she has made the right choice, and not given herself to someone who does not respect her and see her as he should.

I don't know if this is completely accurate, but I know that men feel more secure knowing that the woman cares enough to be with them. It is much easier for us to get insecure, maybe we analyze things too much.

Answer 7

I think men need to feel reassured and secure, too...

But, I know what you mean...in general, they don't seem to need it anywhere near as much as we do.

I kinda think one reason we need it more than men is because of our chemical makeup. For the majority of our lives our bodies are in a constant state of hormonal change...and these hormones have an effect on our emotions and feelings...I HATE it!

(Can you tell I'm a bit hormonal?? Grrrr....)

Answer 8

I think both women and men sometimes need to be reassured...i think if you care for the other person, a little assuring and a little security strenghtens the bond. imho!

Answer 9

Whattt?!? Where did you get that from? Men are insecure too, but they try not to make it so obvious, and they show it in other more subtle ways like jealousy, possessiveness, showing off, excessive trials of being 'manly' , calling another man GAY when a girl says he is cute ..etc.. -- those are all signs of insecurities.

Answer 10

um guys do need to be reassured and to feel secure...they just express it differently then women do...i have met many insecure guys