ok I have been seperated from my husband of 15 years for 2 1/2 months. He comes around little by little, He is not sure if he wants to come home or stay with the girl is living with. So yesterday he stopped by in the am and brought me some money and than he came by again in the afternoon w/ a friend of his. and was talking with me & my girlfriend for about 10-15 minutes and he left. My girlfriend said she can see in my husbands eyes that he is not happy & he is sad. but he made his bed--- so than after my girlfriend left she called me on her cell and said that my husband & his friend were parked down the road from my house for a few minutes and than after she pulled away he left and drove around the corner. whats up with him? why is he acting like this
2007-11-19 04:40:43 · 22 answers · asked by mm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he thinks you are seeing someone and now he wants you back, typical
2007-11-19 04:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by Offending Party 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like he and his girlfriend started to have a heated discussion when they left your house, and he pulled over to continue the discussion. The grass is not always greener on the other side of the fence, and I believe your husband is finding that out now. Whether he will accept responsibility for his inappropriate behavior and how it has affected you remains to be seen. If he should decide that he wants to come back to you, I would suggest that he and you get counselling before allowing him to come back and possibly hurt you all over again with someone else in the future.
2007-11-19 12:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Virginia B (John 16:33) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetheart, he's down the street to see if your seeing anyone men feels that they can do what they do and you can not do anything so do not think it is love if he was so unhappy he would be home but now. he just want to know if he lost or not .listen hold your ground even if you still love him do not, don't make it easy to him so if you take him back he will fear losing for good ,cause only know what your going to do with him . a women half stand strong no matter what even if it's hard. men are like kids so what would you do if your child went against what you believe you would forgive but you would give tuff love give it to him . and if you are willing to talk do not , for not answer the phone. do not make it easy for him to come home cause if you do you will be going though this again . i Promise you, you will!!!!!!!!! good luck if you do not take this advice...........
2007-11-19 13:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by LAMIKA P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read "Why Does He Do That" by Lundy Bancroft.
This book is a must read for all women.
Clears all the mystery around the very illogical man's behaviour.
It's more than you can imagine. You will be amazed.
2007-11-19 16:41:40 · answer #4 · answered by Happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants to keep tabs on you. he cant have you but he wont let anyone else either. its not love, its being jealous. he is almost sounding like stalking you. my ex did this. when my car wasnt home ,he was all over town trying to find it and me. let her have him. he made his choices and your better off without him. why would you even think of taking him back after he cheated ? once a cheat always a cheat. if you let him back in your life you would question everything he says and does. and when he got tired of you he would be looking around again. do you really want that ?
2007-11-19 12:55:04 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows why he is acting like this? He could be trying to break things off with this girl, but you don't know. All I can say is don't wait around to find out. Live your life and don't worry about him until he actually says he wants to come home.
2007-11-19 12:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I might just want to feel that you want him. He's trying to get attention from you and probably wants you to fight for him or your marriage. He may be very sad b/c he feels that you don't want him, or isn't interested in him anymore. Even though the way he went about handling the situation was totally wrong, thats probably how he feels. He doesn't want to be with the other girl, he misses you....
2007-11-19 12:47:34 · answer #7 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u 2 need to talk privately and if you both want to commit to each other set a time limit of 6 months and just live seperatly but date each other then go from there
2007-11-19 12:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because your friend is right...He is not so happy and sees that the grass isn't as green on the other side of the fence as he thought it was....I am willing to bet that he does want to come home...but is afraid that you will not even consider it.....
2007-11-19 12:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He loves and wants you back and he is undecided of what he wants to do or be with you or be with this other women he is going to have to figure things out. and you are also going to have to help him make a decision or you want him fight for him or leave him and not give him false hopes.
2007-11-19 12:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is probably wondering if you met somone else (which you should), and he is coming around little by little b/c he probably saw that the grass wasnt greener on the other side.
2007-11-19 12:46:36 · answer #11 · answered by Gmarie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋