at me he doesnt come over to my house were he usually stays. he gets drunk and hes a total different person.he yells at me like i were a child getting scolded.i get very afraid of him when hes like this he makes me very nervous.what should i do?
2007-11-19 04:32:51 · 15 answers · asked by sandie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dump him, no one deserves the abuse from a drunk
2007-11-19 04:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Roadman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen... In the best interest of your child you need to leave him and explain everything to him in a later date. Get a restraining order against him and also have the courts to request him an AA class to take and also follow-up on him for his AA class, making sure that he attends all of the required class as scheduled.
This is not to keep him away from your/his child but this would be in the best interest of the child.
As a mother you never want a drunk to be a childs father. Think of it in the event that your not there when she visiting and he's drunk "WHAT COULD GO WRONG"?
Good Luck.
2007-11-19 05:04:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a drinking problem and until he gets serious and sees what this is doing to the relationship there will be no change. If you stay you are enabling him to drink. The only answer to your problem is for him to stop the drinking, otherwise look forward to a life full of pain and disappointments. You might want to get into a support group for people with partners who have a drinking problem. Start from there and see what insight you can get for your situation. Best of luck to you!
2007-11-19 04:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is so not cool...first of all if he does this when he is drinking you need to be concerned...they start off like this and it only progresses into something worse...you don't only have to worry about you but your baby as well...don't think he won't do it either...drinking is a bad disease that only gets worse over time...he needs to get help and anger management before anything else happens with you two...he has a child and he needs to start acting like a man...his drinking days are over!! If he doesn't straighten up then leave him...if you are scared of him when he is like that are you going to want your son growing up in that kind of atmosphere? NO WAY!!! Tell him to get help or get lost
2007-11-19 04:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would divorce him if ur married and move away from him and go to court for full custody cause thats what he'll try to do first when you move away from him! I live with my mom and my dad always threats to got to court and get custody of me but my mom has custody of me!! You prolly won't care what i say cause I'm only 15, but I've been through alot and took care of alot of babies and been around similar problems like urs my mom went out with a drunk till his 7th grade son got on my nerves and swore at me and i slapped him acros the face/head and he punched me in the eye and under my eye!!1 Just this past weekend!!! He really chose the wrong person to irritate!!!!
2007-11-19 04:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by hell raiser9392 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the beginning of a lifetime of hurt and sadness. And that's IF he doesn't start abusing you. Pick yourself up and start realizing that you deserve more. Your child definitely deserves more. Kids are very difficult at times...what is he going to do to your child when he is frustrated with him/her? Tell him if he doesn't get anger management or counseling that the relationship is over. But you have to mean it. Otherwise, no one can help you.
2007-11-19 04:39:33 · answer #6 · answered by lifeisgood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never have to be afraid of your partner. If you are, it's an unhealthy relationship. I would talk to him about his behavior and tell him that you will not be treated that way any longer. Abuse starts out with things like this in the beginning and as time goes on, it'll only get worse. Take control of it now.
2007-11-19 04:39:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
alcohol is not for everyone and certainly not for your guy it sounds as if he is drepressed and can only release his frustrations when hes had a few. This is dangerous not only for you but for your little one as well. Call a womens shelter get their advice and let him know that he needs help with anger management and to stay away from drinking if he cares he will follow through otherwise take care of your little one and yourself....good luck!!!
2007-11-19 04:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could never figure out why people in your situation don't ask these questions before you have children.Well now a simple answer like ,leave him immediately becomes a very complicated answer like,do what ever is best for your child.Only you can know the answer to that question.Good luck.
2007-11-19 04:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your first step is you need to accept the fact that he is an alcoholic. Anything short of complete sobriety and recovery and he is only going to get worse.
What you need to do is go to an Al-anon meeting. Once there you need to get a sponsor, follow her suggestions, and work the steps.
Good luck.
2007-11-19 04:37:49 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋