Has anyone noticed more people are negative, less people say please and thank you, and no one cares?

Question

It just seems that so many people will stir themselves to complain, criticize, gossip or judge others, but won't lift a finger to help others, or compliment someone, or be polite. Many don't even bother to answer when someone says hello to them, etc. Do we all fail their Turing Tests? In other words, do we seem somehow less human to them, that's why they feel justified in this treatment? Or are they merely stuck in the 80s 'me generation' where their first consideration is 'what's in it for me?'

It just seems that so many people will stir themselves to complain, criticize, gossip or judge others, but won't lift a finger to help others, or compliment someone, or be polite. Many don't even bother to answer when someone says hello to them, etc. Do we all fail their Turing Tests? In other words, do we seem somehow less human to them, that's why they feel justified in this treatment? Or are they merely stuck in the 80s 'me generation' where their first consideration is 'what's in it for me?'

p.s. I live in a very small town. About 2500 people. And I think it's even worse here than in the metro area an hour away.

Answer 1

I think it's because there are getting to be so many more people. And even though it seems even more necessary to use 'social grease'- our poiliteness - to make things go more smoothly, it's used less and less. Because people are a dime a dozen lately. 'Who cares about offending this one, I'll probably never see him/her again.'

It's strange, because there are so many more people, it's more necessary to 'weed out' a greater percentage of the people we come into contact with, as undesireable, as unworthy of our time, as 'worthless.' At the same time, there's an even greater need to find places to belong, at least in our own minds. Online chatrooms and clubs have filled that need, to a great extent, which only insures less and less politeness, social skills, and courtesy, as more and more people get out of the practice of face to face discourse.

Of course, once we all become stay-at-home people, never leaving our homes for any reason (what for, when the Internet will fill all our needs, and we can have anything we need or want delivered?), politeness won't be required as much, and will be forgotten. In the year 2525. Or something. :)

Answer 2

I know,it also seems like whenever something positive happens it isn't noted or taken into account so much,whereas if someone was to do something negative then their would be more of a fuss.or instance I know this is minor but say someone say and thought another person's hair looked nice there is a fair chance they wouldn't say anything,but if it was a bit messy then they may gossip with others about it,sometimes I think people do that because giving compliments may sort of 'weigh them down on what they don't have'.

Answer 3

Depends on where you live. There are still some areas that people are still good-hearted, will say hello and how are you in the street, and will do favors out of the goodness of their hearts. In a lot of the metropolitan areas, people are so busy and stressed out, they want to get as much done with as little effort and obstacles as possible. You can get caught up in it, even if you are a positive, caring person. Money is the driving force behind US culture, and people will do whatever they have to to have it. Until you visit small towns, or countries in Europe where things like family and happiness are most important, you'll find impatient, critical, and impolite people, scratching and clawing each other to get their piece.

Answer 4

Its all because of people are becoming poor and homeless in this country. Who can act like they're happy when they have 3 or 4 kids that could go hungry after being laid off from a job that used to pay 70k + a year and given to someone in another country for like 12 bucks an hour..

I understand the point of your question, it's very important to show courtesy to others but main problems are at the top of our society (if the word society is really what you want to call it) that are more important than putting on fake smiles. I truly do hope people open their eyes and realize whats going on in this world.

Answer 5

People are more and more rude. Parents are not instructung children of moral, values and manners. Too many parents should never have had children and those people are mannerless and rude and therefore younger generations are picking up the same bad habits. No responsibility for themselves or actions. This is the products of the me generatin having babies. Plus the tv and papers are alll dom and gloom and never anything positive, only negatove and it affects everyone. If more people took more time to care about themselves and t]others it might improve.

Answer 6

A lot of parents are not insisting that their children learn and use good manners and each generation is getting ruder and ruder. Even some well educated people or people who are affluent lack good manners and respect for others. My mother always taught me that these were very important values to possess, regardless of how poor we were.

Answer 7

Yeah I know what you mean. I went through a drive thru and they forgot something I ordered and I went back around and told them and as she handed it to me I said thanks and she closed the window with out even saying "Oh sorry about that." or anything. Why did I say thanks?

I hate the employees that don't give a crap about the customers, even if it is just a fast food place.

Answer 8

We've allowed our society to become self-involved.
Parents aren't teaching polite behavior & there's only so much they can do with kindergartners while in school if the same rules aren't enforced at home.
Behaviour vs. function

Thank you for asking.

Answer 9

Please do not judge me you do not know me. Thank you.
Please do not call me I do not love thee. Thank you.
Please leave me alone I don't care for you. Thank you.
Please don't even come back through. Thank you.
Please don't remind me of what was. Thank you.
Please don't clear the fuzz. Thank you.
Please just let me move on. Thank you.
Please don't tell me I'm the one. Thank you.

Please, thank you are words of courtesy, but without the words in between what do they really mean?

Answer 10

Welcome to the new world. As people immerse themselves in electrical devices our social skill diminish. Do you notice how much easier it is to email someone than it is to call them or walk over to talk to them. It's going to get worse.