We have an argument in car two days ago....I got mad and didn't talk with him. I still prepared the dinner, the lunch and everything just didn't want to talk. But...he seems normal...watch TV..papers...yard work..etc. After two days...we didn't talk still. I don't want to be the first one to start the talk. I'm confused...angry...and upset. What should I do?
2007-11-19 04:18:10 · 18 answers · asked by bighug 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
just give him a kiss and see if he says anything then he will be the one who speaks first.
2007-11-19 04:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by glamour04111 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't open a conversation if you're still emotional. Think about the things that you're upset because chances are that you are part of what the problems are. You have to be able to put aside your emotions and be able to communicate. When there is no communication, emotions tends to bottle up until it burst (usually over something trivial) and makes it worse than what you began with. Open a dialogue even though it's very hard, saying "we can't continue like this...." and allow him to voice his opinion (very important), otherwise, this will blow out of proportion. Know when to swallow your pride for the sake of the relationship especially if it means anything to you. If you do this more and more, it will be easier to communicate.
2007-11-19 04:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! that's an exceedingly complicated subject. i comprehend this is going to be truly complicated, yet i'd strategies-set it this way: a million. set up a time to have a communication with him. 2. permit him comprehend which you like him and you're there for him. 3. tell him in no uncertain words which you're a married couple and area of that's displaying a uncomplicated point of appreciate for one yet another. My spouse and that i rely on one yet another's reliability with the intention to look after our youngsters, this form of habit is unacceptable and he could comprehend that. you have each and every stunning to anticipate that he would be totally modern on your dating and wont bypass away you in a lurch in case you have infants. that is one component to desert an person for 2 days, yet are you able to think of if he grew to become into meant to %. up the youngsters from college and merely vanished? 4. permit him comprehend that he would not could permit you comprehend what befell now (it is the complicated area), yet that if he has to come returned sparkling interior of a undeniable term (i'm undecided what's happy with you, yet i'm thinking consistent with probability each and every week?) 5. this may well be the toughest area: permit him comprehend which you will bypass away him if he maintains to handle you like this. good success... i've got self belief for you.
2016-12-09 01:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by ferranti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I've got to re-iterate what the other posters have said... This is a situation that you've created..
I'll wager it's not the first time that it's happened either..
If you instigate the silent treatment, then you're the one that'll have to stop it.. It's emotional terrorism..
I don't understand why you're describing yourself as confused.. You stopped talking to him, so he did the same.. You're carrying on with everything else as normal, so he's doing the same.. What is there to be confused about..
Why are you angry? - Because he won't capitulate and apologise like you want him too?
Maybe he thinks that you're in the wrong..
Maybe he doesn't care that you're not talking to him..
Maybe he's enjoying the peace and quiet...
If you want to talk, talk... If you don't, don't
But stop behaving like a seven year-old
2007-11-19 04:28:36 · answer #4 · answered by Lowlevel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
look at the big picture and see if it was worth it all. then keep in your mind when the next argument comes up if its worth it ?tomorrow he could or you could be in a accident. what if you never get to say im sorry to the one you love ? keep that in your mind. is it really all that important to be right or to make the other one feel bad ? do you get pleasure from hurting or upsetting him ?tell him that you see his point of view and hope he does yours too but you have the right to your own opinion as does he but that doesnt mean that one is right and one is wrong. no two people agree on everything.
2007-11-19 04:28:30 · answer #5 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you that mad that you would not talk for that long. could there be such and argument not to talk for 2 days.Do you know what the argument was about now? Is it worth not talking? He probably forgot all about it. Just thinks you are being quiet now.Go talk to him I would not apologize unless I was wrong. But talk to him There is no argument so big that you should not talk no matter what. Good luck.
2007-11-19 05:43:48 · answer #6 · answered by quinn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this answer but my wife tried this on me and on the first day I ignored it and let her huff.
After the third day I actually found I enjoyed the peace and quiet. Unfortunately she only lasted 4 days and then came over and blew up on me. I told her that this was her idea and I preferred the golden silence to her screaming. She was upset - but never tried it again.
2007-11-19 04:31:26 · answer #7 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
children! children! why can't you two get along? Now who start the argument in the car, you or him? Why don't to be the first to talk? Is this your pride, stubbornness or your childish behavior that prevent you to be the one who talk first? You can do two things, One you can be the first to talk. Second, don't perpare the meals until he ask you where is dinner?
2007-11-19 04:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've found in the past that guys don't respond well to the silent treatment. I'm sure he notices, he probably just doesn't want to start a big fight by asking what's up with you. Men don't like those chatty conversations about hurt feelings and all that, so a lot of them will avoid it until you bring it up.
This doesn't apply to all men, some are very sensitive, but in my experience it applies to most.
2007-11-19 04:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Eraserhead 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
He is probably thankful. Men don't mind the silent treatment, it means you are not annoying him to death.
Stop making his food. Make something for yourself and if he freaks just ignore him. Works for me if my hubby has done something REALLY bad. Jus tmake sure you don't do this too often. Once in a blue moon to show he has done something really wrong. Not over a petty argument.
Sometimes men just don't get what they did or the brevity of it.
2007-11-19 04:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by LifeLove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not talking and neither are you.
Both of you are behaving like children.
How do you ever expect to find a solution when you do not communicate?
So many people will tell you communication is the key to a successful relationship and there you are - BOTH of you - letting your stupid ignorant pride take control.
You are both as bad as each other.
2007-11-19 04:21:58 · answer #11 · answered by Paul M 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋