i live with my boyfriend for almost 7 years, but i can't let him continue to play the games he plays. He is always hanging out with other females. He oftentimes comes home after work 5 or more hours after he gets off. I find telephone numbers all of the time in his pockets, most of whom I know but don't necessarily care for, he never takes me out anywhere except for breakfast or dinner (not fancy ever) and doesn't take me with him when he goes out @ about. We argue all of the time and I try telling him that it is not accptable to have female friends that I have never even met. And I don't believe that it is alright to have to hang out with them on a daily basis, especially when I am at home waiting for him. When he takes off, he says that he'll be right back, but doesn't usually come back for hours. He has called me to say that he'd be home soon and didn't for two or three days. No phone call, no reason whatsoever. And then has the nerve to question me why I get so pissed off.
2007-11-19 04:15:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should add that he is 53 years old and not a child.
2007-11-19 04:16:40 · update #1
I should have added this. 5 years ago I found out that my kidneys were failing, had a kidney transplant 4 years ago which rejected 2 years ago and I've been on dialysis ever since. I don't have the energy to fight. I've thrown him out, he won't leave or just comes back. Especially when I'm sick and needing someone. He got my car impounded so I don't have a car anymore. This just makes me more dependant on him. But I have initiated change. I am in the process of moving. I put my notice in and will be moved by December 1, without him. I am going somewhere where he can't stay-my ex-husband's house with my kids. (me and my ex are great friends).
2007-11-19 06:33:11 · update #2
Dear Piceschick,
I think you hope he's going to change but deep down you know he isn't. A word to the wise if I may: This relationship is a never ending saga of his lack of respect for you (he's got you right where he wants you), why do you tolerate such behavior? There are plenty other fish in the sea. Why don't you try being a little inconsiderate to him and see how he likes it (to the point of pissing him off)? Then I think you should dump his a_s to the curb; Move on! Best of luck.
2007-11-19 04:30:52 · answer #1 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your username says it all (j/k). Several reasons why you haven't left the bastard:
1. you think that he will miraculously change his behavior and start treating you better.
2. your scared to be alone
3. you don't think you deserve better
4. you have low self esteem
Dear this @$$hole is cheating on you. Don't wait until you catch an STD and you will have to go to the free clinic for treatment. What more proof do you need? This man does not love nor respect you. Why should he? Your allowing him to make you look stupid. He's just not into you. Your waiting for him to break up with you and he's not because he knows you'll always be there to take his sorry @$$ back. I'm sure your a beautfiul girl, but sweetie get some backbone!!!! You ever heard the phrase, "Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me."
2007-11-19 21:01:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of this asshole. You deserve alot better and even if you dont find someone else right off the bat its better than what you are dealing with right now. Men seem to think that when they have a female at home taking care of things that they can do anything they want without any explanations. That is bullshit and you need to get him out of your life. He is just using you and if you dont think he is cheating on you you are a fool
2007-11-19 13:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by jenniferk5683 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's cheating but I don't know the entire story.
You deserve to be treated better than that. Life is entirely to short to waste time with someone who does not appreciate you. He obviously not the right man for you if you are unhappy. You are only going to realize this until after you leave him. If you ever doubt leaving, just tell yourself that.
I hope you do the right thing :)
2007-11-19 12:24:17 · answer #4 · answered by MommyB 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Then he should know the rules of engagement when it comes to daing.He is old enough and has been around the block so he should know what the do's and don'ts of a working happy relationship are.
Personally it sounds to me like you're being taken for granted.I think you're past the point of putting your foot down especially if you've already expressed how you feel about these things and nothing has changed.
I'd find someone new if he hasn't changed after you've asked him,begged him,told him then he doesn't plan on changing his routine.Seem's to me he feels like he can do what he wants when he wants because like a good girlfriend you're always going to be waiting for him..
Maybe its time to stop waiting for him maybe its time for you to do your own thing....
Good Luck,
M.G
2007-11-19 12:25:01 · answer #5 · answered by Malia G 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Just ask yourself how much of your life do you want to waste being miserable and being abused by this lo-life.Be honest with yourself.This man cannot possibly have any respect for you and no matter what he tells you he cant be in love with you and treat you so cruelly.If you want to convince yourself to leave just ask yourself if you are happy and do you want this for the rest of your life.I think you know the answer to these questions.Good luck.
2007-11-19 13:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Julius C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think you have taken enough! How you tell yourself that...Ask yourself; Is this the kind of relationship that I want for the rest of my life? How long am I willing to live this way?
You yourself said he's in his 50's. Chances are he's set in his ways and is not going to change. You deserve someone who will treat you the way you wish to be treated. Good luck!
2007-11-19 12:34:47 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing with this man? Run girl run! Move out today and do not look back. Don't give him any way to contact you and make a clean break. That would be so awesome if he came home to see you've left without a trace and he has no way to get in contact with you. :)
2007-11-19 12:19:16 · answer #8 · answered by twinmom 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
oh my god baby girl listen to ALL of this advice!!!!!!!!!BE GONE I know thats not always that easy,, find something to occupy your time really occupy your time ..to bad we can't start a (i"m okay with my other) get together 'CLUB' I'm sure theres someone you could get hang out with, turn the tables around a little. I don't mean play games I mean ,go out , find something to do differant instead of 'waiting around !!BE GONE GIRL......
2007-11-19 12:52:02 · answer #9 · answered by TWIN-CITIES GREEN TEAM LLC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to accept the fact that you are a beautiful woman who deserves better than this boy can offer you.
Believe it because it is the truth.
Good luck.
2007-11-19 12:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by box of rain 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋