Who thinks you should be able to sue a woman slept with your husband and got pregnant?

Question

I think you should. Especially if you have children who were born before hers. She is after all taking money away from your kids. So why shouldn't you take it away from her. I think it is totally unfair that the woman in an affair gets rewarded while the man has to pay out the nose. Thoughts or opinions?

Let's say the woman knew he was married. Does that change anyone's opinion? I'm not saying he shouldn't pay support. Whether a woman decides to stay w/ her spouse if he screws up is her bussiness. Both parties are wrong in an affair. Not just the man.

I find it interesting that if a woman has an affair, gets pregnant by another man and her husband finds out everyone yells sue the other guy for child support. Even if the married couple decides to work it out. Why don't you tell the husband to sue the wife? Maybe the guy had no idea she was married.

Answer 1

Great idea. I think if she simply slept with him and that's all that happened, then you're just out of luck. However, if she goes and gets pregnant, then I can see how that is grounds for penalty or punishment. In the wild, some male animals will kill the young of their new mate. They will only let their own young survive. In our civilized society, we do not practice killing a woman's children from a previous marriage. I believe that women have a greater level of respect and power in our society. I think it would be great for a woman to have control over her husband's offspring. If he wants more children, he can have them with her if she allows. If he has sex outside of their relationship, he should not get another woman pregnant. If this other woman allows herself to become pregnant, she should be punished for creating a financial responsibility from another woman's husband.

Answer 2

No, only because the husband cheated and needs to be held to his own errors, and the CHILD is more important. Given, she'll be taking away from the father's family, however he took it out of his own hide by having an affair.
Keep in mind, CS is for the CHILD, not the woman. And kids are expensive enough to raise.
EDIT---Ok, the issue you presented was suing her because she's taking money away from his existing family. The problem there is that being entitled to CS and getting it basically negated because of a lawsuit takes away from the child, not her, and would basically be used as a method to offset the child support that was being paid out. And no, if she knew or not, doesn't matter a bit, he knew too. He slightly remembered at some point being married and having kids, unless he's brain-dead.
To Your second addition, it's not about suing anyone. It's about making sure that the 2 parties that brought a child into the world both pay for the child's upbringing. The reason not to "sue the wife" is because usually the woman keeps the child and bears a majority of responsibility and expense in reasing the child. Come on, I'm a guy saying this. It's again, NOT ABOUT THE ADULTS!!!

Answer 3

Am I understanding that? You feel sorry for the guy? Sure the woman has no class, or morals to get pregnant by a married man, but he is the one stepping outside the marriage. If he has to pay out the nose for child support to support all of his children, then that is what he has to do. It could have all been avoided if he kept it in his pants for everyone except his wife.

Answer 4

My opinion on your question, suing the other woman because he having a baby by a married man is not a good ideal. For one this should teach the guy for not sleeping around and make more babies that he can afford to take care of in the first place. Next thing is because its his child that he have to support like the one(s) he have in his marriage. Why hurt the child for something that the married man and another woman did (having an affair). First of all him might have mislead her into believing that he is single or getting a divorce from his wife. Like many women would like to have a child from a guy whom she have strong feeling for.

Answer 5

Then she should be able to sue your husband for getting her pregnant. It takes 2 people to cheat.

How is she rewarded when her child has to grow up knowing mommy is a slut and daddy is a cheating bastard? So what if she gets some money, she is still stuck raising this child on her own.

What about the women who are married and sleep with another man and become pregnant? Should he get to sue her or should her husband take him out for a beer and thank him for the added income.

Also, what if she didn't know he was married? Or, if it was a one-night stand. What if they were both married?

Answer 6

Sweetie, the other woman has no obligation to honor a comittment other than the ones she has made personally.....I don't understand why the Other Woman is the one who the Wife/GF goes after when it's the Man who broke the promise/vow of fidelity,the Other Woman has made no promise or vow to the Wife/GF......the unfaithfull Man should pay as he could have honored his partner and kept his pants zipped...or made darn sure he didn't make any babies with a woman who was not his wife....he's the one responsible after all there can be no Other Woman or children by her if there wasn't a man willing to cheat.
.....and how is getting child support for one's child a reward? The support is for the kid, not the parent.....and it seems to me having to raise a child as a Single is a punishment, not a reward.....
....so you would take money away from the Other Woman, monies that should go to her children, in other words punish the children of the other woman for what their mother and their father did....is that fair? Why should they be the ones to pay when their parents were the ones who played...A man should help support All his children. Period.
The adults should be held responsible...and if that means a man supporting all the children he's help to create, then that's what he should do...morally & legally. If he needs a second job to do so, so be it.

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I read your additional details and I still repeat..morally wrong for a woman to sleep with a man in a comitted relationship to another-yes. But there is no monetary restitution for breaking moral laws. In the way you worded your question I got the distinct impression that the Man who cheated should not be held responsible for the fruits of his infidelity.....the woman who was his partner in cheating is the one who should be responsible for herself and the man both.....
...you create a child you are responsible for the child. Period. Why is it okay to take food out of the mouth of one child to feed another to let the philandering Man off the hook? If he can spread his seed then he better be prepared to do what it takes to take care of what ever sprouts....and if he has to take a second job so his pre-existing children do not suffer for his cheatng than so be it....
....the other Woman has no responsibility to keep intact the marriage vows or comittments of another...it is the responsibility of the ones in the comitted relationship. Shame on her if she's trying to break up a marriage...but double shame on the man who agrees to go along with it.....he shouldn't...he doesn't have to.....and I don't hold with him being so weak he had no willpower to resist...bah. And I never held with alienation of affection....you can't have your affection alienated from the one you love by another unless you're more than willing....all that is IMO is monetary revenge.
And in the scenario you've created, the one who suffers the revenge is the Love Child. An Innocent.

Answer 7

The man should have to pay because he fathered the child. Men should always be financially responsible for the children they father, whether in a marriage or another relationship. You can't sue the woman because her child has a right to be supported by his father.

Answer 8

The one problem I have with that is that it takes a man to get a woman pregnant. So while you may be projecting all of your anger to her, the fact of the matter is that it would've never happened had he wore a condom, or better yet have kept it in his pants. So, why are you going to punish 1/2 of the parties involved?

Answer 9

I think you should be able to. Not say it is lawful, but I wish it was a law that stated that. It would make the home weaker think twice before she mess with your man. I have even heard cases of home weakers beening sued, not because they got pregnant, but because they husband left the wife high and dry. Dont worry girl I am in the same posistion, my husband left me and got another girl pregnant, now we yes we because we are married are looking at pay child support to her.

Answer 10

The man is wrong, and if the woman knew he was married she is wrong as well, but taking money from an innocent child is even more cruel. Divorce the man, drain him, but taking money away from the child is wrong.