Don't understand why people don't date outside their race.?

Question

I just don't understand why people don't date outside their own race. Some say they aren't attracted to other races but all you're talking about is skin color. It doesn't matter if you're white/black/hispanic/asian or what, we all have different facial features so what is the problem? I'm not calling anyone racist but if you don't date outside your race then you are basing it soley on that person's skin color.

Some women are comparing this to how they think other women are attractive but it doesn't mean they want to date women. That's a dumb comparison becuz that has to do with being gay. Like i said, it doesn't mean anyone is racist but if you don't date outside your race then that decision is based on skin color. Thats the truth no matter how you try to spin it.

Answer 1

I would date outside of my race.
I am white...but am extremely attracted to asian guys.

Answer 2

When I dated (I am married) I did not date out side of my race and I am by no means racist. preference is an issue, while I now that there are attractive men of all races I am not sexually attracted to white men. I think white men are attractive the same way I think women are attractive (I acknowledge it but I don't want to sleep with them or date them).
It was also important for me that I marry a black man. People have their reasons and its nothing wrong with any of them.

Answer 3

actually that is not quite true. there are w/o question actual physical/anatomical differences among the diffrent kinds of humans. different ethnicities have distinctly different features. i'm not talking about genetalia either. a great example is the difference between a European's butt and an African's butt. you cannot honestly deny that there is generally visible difference there. lips are another great example. yet another example can be found in the amount of body hair a person may have. these things are clearly more prevalent in one ethnic group or another.

the problem that has generally been the case in European dominant culture is to suggest that these differences that naturally occur are somehow indications of superiority or inferiority. different does not indicate better or worse. different means not the same. i may not be the same as you in whatever way you can imagine, but none of those things that you can imagine makes either of us superior to the other. different, yes. superior, no.

so with all that out there, it would be irresponsible to suggest that racism is not a factor, but i find myself attracted to women built a certain way. w/o being suggestive or vulgar, i tend to find women w/butts attractive. European & Asian women tend not to be built like that. African, and in many cases, Latino women tend to be built more to my interests of physical appearance. for me this is not a racial or ethnic thing. yes, i do tend to more drawn to women with a certain tone or color to their skin, but if i see a female that fits what i find attractive, i'm going to acknowledge the beauty of nature. i don't care if she's African, Latino, Asian, or European.

obviously i don't speak for anyone but myself, but i don't agree that such decisions are based solely on skin color...

beauty is in the mind's eye...respect the nature of the universe...

Answer 4

Ever since age 16, my motto has always been "blond hair, blue eyes 6'3" or tall, black and afroed is ok by me".... why? cuz LOVE sees no color! I still believe that at age 46.

So why don't others see that? Well, some folks are too afraid to get out of their "comfort zone" or they worry far too much about what others will think...and they fear disapproval or losing some sort of social status. I know, how 1950s...but yeah, there's still folks out there like that. In face, I know some folks who go so far as to date only within their own ethnic group. Irish w/Irish, Jewish w/Jewish etc. and then criticize those who don't...

Dating interracial does NOT mean you are a "traitor" or self-loathing as some detractors like to put out there. At the end of the day, it's ok to choose the person who is right for you whether in or out of your specific ethnic group. Your life, your choice! It's just too bad people are sometimes missing out on perfectly great and compatible people just because they let others chain them up with "rules" and allow tired old pseudo-politics to control their lives.

After all, those who are dictating to others how to live their lives oftentimes do EXACTLY what they want...and they don't ask your approval, so why wait for theirs?

Answer 5

"Some say they aren't attracted to other races but all you're talking about is skin color." -

The same can be said about people who do date out of their race. They can be dating just because of skin color.

Answer 6

Some base on color, some base on common interests and some base it on personality. It all boils down to personal preference. I dont think anyone will waste time going out with someone who they are not attracted to or interested in.

Answer 7

That's not true, I have dated outside my race but the main reason I don't often is because of their personalities, I mean this isn't for everyone outside my race and goes for some people inside my race, I look more at personality and attitude, most of the time it is easier for me to relate to someone of my race.

Answer 8

I married outside of my race. I had to divorce him due to his poor choices. It wasn't his color, it was his upbringing, following his parents' footsteps (drug and alcohol abuse), that led him astray.

Otherwise I am attracted to guys with a great sense of humor, respect, ambition, and integrity.

Answer 9

Yeah that is true. I am attracted to like all races... maybe its ignorance or people are just scared to try something new.

Answer 10

......And some folk won't date; skinny people, chubby people, the opposite sex, the same sex, baldies, the wrong color hair, people with glasses, people without glasses ...........date who you want, draw your own hangups and don't worry about other folks.