What if a husband loves his wife but is no longer attracted to her?

Answer 1

find out what has changed. seek therapy. counseling. if it her looks? isn't she attractive anymore? if that is the problem how can you improve that in terms of physical fitness, beauty tips etc....
or is it you? are you having interest in another woman? why?
so as you see many things can be occurring.
the most important thing is you still care for her and if you look for help and a good solution I am sure you will be able to make your marriage complete again.
good luck

Answer 2

Could if be that you LOVE your wife .. but you are no longer IN LOVE with her ? There is a big difference.

When people have been married for a long time - things like this happen. And .. things like this can be mimicked when mates take each other for granted - and the marriage becomes boring. It is mimicked when the real love is still there .. the real love is just sleeping.

If you still love your wife for sure .. but not attracted to her .. do you have a roaming eye? If so, be careful .. because you could be a candidate to look at other women.

What choices do you have .. if you are not attracted to your wife any longer?

Your choices would be:
. * to do nothing
* to find out WHY you feel this way
* to talk with your wife about it
* to look at other women
* to stay married
* to get a divorce
* have affairs
* try to work on it to be happy again
* be unhappy about it

Decide what your choices are - then choose what you want to do about it.

Answer 3

Ask yourself the reason why you no longer are attracted to your wife. Are the reasons due to the fact that she has neglected herself physically, or are they because time has just naturally changed her? If her appearance has changed due to her neglect then this can be worked on. If you are no longer attracted to her because you are bored, then this can also be worked on. You both need to talk about these things because being intimate is important in a marriage and you don't want to lose it. Marriage goes through different stages. Sometimes you need to focus on other things that make her attractive, life the loving things she does for you. Try to focus on this as a way to open your heart and love her, the sexual feelings will follow.

Answer 4

You have to think back to why you got married, and what sparked the relationship.
We all arrive at that threshold at some point in marriage. I am sure she has days when you are pretty repulsive too.
We all mature. We become parents, shuttle drivers, etc.
We are more tired at the end of the day.

You need to find time to step out of your life, and reconnect. You will probably find you are just not attracted to some aspects of your life, and your wife is just fine. Try to preserve a date night, or go away together.

Remember, you got married for a reason. Think hard about those reasons. The same woman still exists. You need to bring her back out.

All women are beautiful. I believe that. Also, every woman has a reason for which men are attracted to her. There was a reason she hooked you.

Answer 5

Mine divorced me after 22 years of marriage for his pregnant g/f. Best thing that ever happened even though I would never have known I was unhappy if he hadn't cheated on me. I have moved on and am now in a very fulfilling relationship with my significant other. W/we have been together, happily, now for two years, while the ex is miserable with his g/f. Sometimes we have to thank God for Unanswered Prayers!

Answer 6

You have to ask yourself what is not attractive; is it looks, mannerisms, age, sex? You have to ask yourself, Can you have love without attraction?
You need to tell your wife how you feel, you may just find out that the feeling is mutual. Then you and your wife can decide if counseling is needed.

Answer 7

Then do something about it! Buy her some sexy things, romance her. Leave her secret notes on how hot she is. Do exotic things and this in turn will turn you on. Call her on the phone, tell her to meet you in the bathroom in some restaurant, and do your thing with her. Woo her. Getting a divorce is the easy way out, but it will just come up again with your next partner.

Answer 8

what part of his wife that he is no longer attracted too? that is the question...the problem might lied within himself?

Answer 9

Then you need to help her by telling her why you are not attracted to her and what she needs to work on to make you happy again you need to give her tips but before you do this look in the mirror and check yourself are you perfect.

Answer 10

discuss this with your wife possibly there is something you guys can come up with?>???