will it be wrong if a girl takes the decision to be a house wife in this generation?

Question

is it a right decision to be a house wife now in these times though the girls is having a professional degree?

Answer 1

At the end of the day whatever the husband and wife decide will work best for their family as a joint decision is up to them.

I give great respect to women who stay at home to raise their children. But think of the following:

1 - kids don't stay at home forever. By the time they are 7 they are in school full time. Make sure that you have a plan for once they are back in school. Be this starting a small business, taking courses to re-enter the job market or having a hobby/charity to fill up your time

2- we all feel that our marriage will last forever, but in reality almost 50% don't. Set an amount to put aside each month to go into a bank account with only your name on it. This is your emergency fund should God forbid something happen (divorced, widowed) If you don't need it then hey when the kids go to university you have money already saved. This account should grow to min. 1 year living expenses at your current lifestyle

3 - make sure you seek out and make friends with other SAHMs (stay at home moms). You need adult conversation, they can provide babysitting for when you have to go to the doctor or something where kids cant tag along

4 - with your husband sit and discuss that though you may be staying at home you will be working, and that your work day doesn't end at 5pm either! trust me the minute he says..well I work all day, what do you do? You will lose it on him lol.

5 - become a very organized person. I don't know why but I lose huge gaps of time if I am not organized when staying at home. I have set days for laundry, a cleaning rotation etc.

6 - put something in place to stay healthy. A mom and tots walking club, swimming - anything to ensure you are getting enough exercise

And finally -

Know that by staying at home you will be incredibly active in your children's lives and this will create a strong bond and will (it has been proven, sorry folks) prevent many concerns such as your kids getting into sex, drugs and drinking.

Answer 2

Do you know what a housewife is? It is pretty much everything except being an astronaut! This is a personal decision that has to be made by a couple. I firmly believe that if you have children, the children will benefit from one of their parents being a stay at home parent. I suspect that a lot of autism is caused by either illness or neglect in daycare. There are hundreds of reasons why it is a good thing to be a stay at home, and hundreds of reasons why not to. You will be poorer, but can also economize better. You can still run a business out of your home, but then, sometimes that is also a burden. Like I said, this is a decision that BOTH have to make. Good Luck!

PS I have been a stay at home for 35 years, don't regret it at all, run a business, and have a very close family. And I have a very fullfilled life outside the home!

Answer 3

I'm a housewife and mother, although I have an empty nest now. The only aspiration I had was being a wife and mother, that's all I wanted even as a teenager. I would tell your friends that, this is your dream, and they have theirs. Were not all the same, we have different dreams and aspirations. With your collage in pharmacy, martial arts, and dancing, where are they coming from with those remarks? I think you are to be commended. It may be a jealously thing on their parts. The main thing is to live your life the way you want, and not to let others influence it. Do you have kids now? I felt blessed that I was able to stay home and raise and be with my kids, than to have them in daycare or some stranger with them. I knew where they were and how they were being treated. The greatest success I think for a woman, is to raise good, caring, law abiding citizens. This can not be measured in dollars. No amount of money can buy that. The greatest compliment I was given, or ever will be given..is that I was a good mother. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

It is totally decision of her. Why she wants to be a house wife is the question after having a good professional degree. It is wise to respect her decision. I think she should be given proper time to understand the family circumstances. As she is having a professional degree, she can get into the job whenever she wants. So, give her time to understand and respect her decision.

Answer 5

It is not wrong. If the family is well off with only one spouse working, then congrats! The only reason that women work and have degrees is because the cost of living has gone up dramatically and need two jobs to support a family. I wish I would be a housewife!

The explanation of women having degrees now is simple. Most of the women that went to school was to attend "Mrs." University (aka find a husband that will get a good job). Some women never got married by the time they graduated and others followed in their footsteps of graduating.

Answer 6

its noble to want to be a house wife if you have kids, if not then its a dumb idea especially with having a degree. are you ready to give up who you are individually, i dont think anyone should and i do not discourage you housewives out there, but everyone should try and fulfill they're lives outside of the home, cuz even all you housewives know that eventually somewhere down the line maybe you'll find something that peaks your curiosity. so while your young dont do it, again, wonderful if you have kids to want to, but if not your just putting your self into a submissive position of your other half, you obviously had to work for that degree, dont deny the world of who you are.

Answer 7

Hey being a good home-maker is the toughest job of all. It is multi-task and every event, fun and the welfare of the entire family revolves around the special person - The homemaker.

So there is nothing wrong. Infact, the children grow up naturally better with the woman being around to cuddle and cajole.

Answer 8

If she wants to, why not?
I have a degree. I've been a housewife for the last 6 years and it's great! I get loads of time with the children which I love!

Answer 9

i think its up to her... I've been married a year and i work. Never went to college,( why spend the money if your not gonna use it) aside from that i really want to be a house wife after we have a baby. Why have a child if your not gonna be there for them, you miss so many moments of joy and you really get satisfaction from seeing them grow and you have a better relationship with them in the end. I think its sad when children get neglected.

Answer 10

it is up to the girl, but this generation is known for it's stay at home moms who have professional degrees and even their masters and so on, I have read many articles on it in my area. There is a new found respect for woman staying home because people are realizing just how much work it is. One article said that if you added up the salaries of all the jobs a stay at home mom has to do she would be making close to 150K/year, No Joke. Also I think that because we are a generation of googlers and dot com'ers we have figured out how to stay in the race and raise our kids...we can have it all and if you can figure out how to why wouldn't you want it all.