My DADS CHEATING ON MY MOM!!!?

Question

I found out that my parents were getting a divorce from accidentaly reading a txt message on my moms phone, so i thought i should invesigate, I found out my moms email password and looked through her emails and it turns out my parents have been planning a divorce since 2004, but havent told me and my siblings. My dad has been cheating on my mom since then too. She knows, but I had no clue. I am worried and sad they didn't tell me, .they are only together for financal reasons. My parents dont know that i know.

I want to know more about this. How do i get my mom to tell me about the divorce without explaining that i read her email?

i know i shouldnt have invaded their privacy but i didnt ask your opinion of me

it is my buisiness since they ARE my parents and their divorce WILL effect me!

i am sad they didnt tell me. I am fine with them getting divorced cause i will live with my mom and I know my dad is a bad guy

Answer 1

First of all you should not have invaded their privacy.
Secondly you should not force them to talk about this. I am sure it is difficult enough to deal with the whole situation and with time you will get the information.
What is important is that your parents love you individually.
You must show your Mama support by being a good student and making a better life for yourself.
If you want your Mama to talk about it, just tell her you've noticed some strange atmosphere between them and would like to know what has changed, but if she still does not want to talk, respect her decision.
concentrate on your own life and future.
good luck and hope all turns out well for you and your family

Answer 2

It sounds like your parents were doing their best to protect you. You need to confront them together and let them know that you are ready to know the truth. You don't have to tell them that you've seen her e-mail, just say that you know something is going on. I'm sure it makes you sad which is what they were trying to prevent. Look around for other signs (there should be some) to explain why you feel that something is going on. Don't press for details, this is an adult situation that the adults should be dealing with. Just find out about your future.

Answer 3

I'm sorry you have to go through this. I'm sure your mother would appreciate some support. I wouldn't tell her you looked through her emails, just let her know you over heard somethings and you want to help her get through this. if your parents are only together for financial reasons, that's not a healthy marriage. Your dad is cheating on her as well (idiot, sorry) you should glad to see them separate for your mothers sake. all in all love both of them through this whole ordeal, cause no matter how you look at it, it's gonna come to a hault. be strong and it's ok for you get upset, just be there for your mom and let her know you love her. everything happens for a reason, and what goes around comes around- your dad will learn! good luck my dear and keep praying, God will see your family through this.

Answer 4

Should you apologize for reading her email? I mean, suppose she tells you that you were dishonest and untrustworthy - wouldn't that be a little hypocritical?

I think you should get off on the right foot and show your parents what a little honesty looks like. Tell your mom you read her email, and tell her why. If you lie to her about that, you're kind of in the same boat, you know.

Answer 5

Good question. First Calm down. Its OK. Everyone does it once in a lifetime. I understand that you want your mother to be honest with you, but you have to be honest with your mother too! If you do not want to be honest with your mother about reading her emails, ask her a simple question. "Whats going on?" Less talking means a whole lot. Your curious about this situation you do not want to happen. Your scared. Its OK. Ask your mother and father to be honest. For the sake of yo and the rest of your siblings. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Your parents were doing their best to protect you and your siblings. Now that the secret is out, I would discuss it with your mother.

This is a secret that is not easy for your mother or father it may be time it is out in the open. Remember this is a matter between your mother and father and they did not involve the children.

Tread lightly, good luck.

Answer 7

What can you do other than learn from this painful lesson and don't go snooping anymore?

You need to worry about and take care of yourself. Find a support group for children with divorced/ separated parents.

This will be a difficult and painful experience. But it will not destroy or define your life unless you let it.

Good luck. I will pray for you.

Answer 8

your parents marriage is your business...but they didnt tell you b/c they know its stress enough on them...they dont want to stress you out too...they are trying to do what they thought was best for you...just come out and tell your mom you know...tell her you accidently read the text msg and you want to know what is going on...you have a right to know...

Answer 9

You shouldn't have read her mail. Your parents will tell you everything that you need to know, when you need to know it. By snooping in your Moms mail, you found out information that was personal to your parents; you violated their right to privacy. How would you feel if they snooped through you personal mail?

Answer 10

just tell her that you heard them speaking about it or you could ask her if they are splitting up because you have noticed the pair of them not acting normal. trust me it worked for me. hope your OK :)