My dad told me something the other night, which really upset me, and made me think. I'm 17. He told me that after i was born, my mother fell pregnant again, at her second scan, the baby wasn't moving, at the time i think my mother was 4-5 months along. The baby was covered in cancer, and had died. My mother had to have treatment for the cancer she had in her womb. I didnt ask anything else, i didnt go into detail, it upset me to much, that i could of had a little brother or sister. I already have two older brothers. It really got to me this news, my mother can't have children anymore either.
Im just wondering whether it is ok to be upset by this news? It's really got to me, how can i think of something else?
2007-11-19 02:45:51 · 14 answers · asked by ItsMe. 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It is upsetting to hear and such a shame, bad things happen to everyone and there is nothing you can do to stop it :( I lost a baby this year because I had an ectopic pregnancy (also lost my fallopian tube), it was devastating and it truly broke my heart as well as almost killed me. I started to sink lower in to what could have developed into depression but I soon realised that I am lucky to already have a beautiful healthy daughter and it could have been worse I could have died and left my 2 year old daughter without a mummy. Yes it was a horrible thing for your poor mum but thankfully she survived it and got to bring you and your brothers up. Try and hold on to that :)
2007-11-19 06:59:56 · answer #1 · answered by Hayley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww that is awful news an of course its ok for you to be upset. That baby would have your brother or sister an because your dad has just told you its fresh in your head an gonna stay there for a while. Times a healer. Every day will get easier. Is there a grave for the baby? If so it might help you to go there an lay some flowers every now an again. Good luck an i hope you feel better soon.
2007-11-19 13:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by Love my family =] 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you are upset! For one, a baby died, for another, your mother suffered the loss and third, you are now suffering the loss of a sibling you may have had. You will get over it though you will never be the same.
So honor this child. And honor yourself too because you were able to be born and got to know your mom and also honor your brothers. Its terrible that these horrible things happen. It's nobodys fault. It just happens right or wrong. Count your blessings.
2007-11-19 10:53:46 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I suppose it really depends on the person. I mean you can be upset if that is what you want. Me personally, I wouldn't be upset. I mean eevrything happens for a reason! I was not upset when my mother told me she had had 2 abortions 1 before and 1 after I was born. And that was something she decided...I see no need in fretting over what could have been...just live for today. It was not something your mother or father could control anyhow...it just happened. Call up some friends and go out for awhile, maybe that will cheer you up!!!!!
2007-11-19 10:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by LosersSuck 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is a sad story but you have to look at it in a positive way- your mother survived cancer, which is amazing- you are lucky she is still here.
I would talk things over with your parents instead of trying to take your mind off this. Its better to get things out in the open and I am sure they will be really supportive. Perhaps hearing all about it from your mother will help you to understand things and answer questions you may have.
Life is precious and fragile- be thankful you and your family are here and healthy, and try to be positive about this
2007-11-19 10:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by billy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is OK to be upset. it was a tragic event and you lost a brother or sister. You just found out so you have feelings about it. At the same time as you are sad you can also find things to be thankful for like your other brothers or anything,this will help you feel better.
2007-11-19 10:50:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's ok to be upset by the news, but just be glad they were able to treat your mother and you still have her. Yes your life would have been different with a little brother or sister, but it would have been REALLY different without a mother.
2007-11-19 10:51:12 · answer #7 · answered by simply_me 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for the loss. I am sorry you just found out. I also respect your dad for sharing this with you. This is information that will be useful to you in your future.When you are working with Dr.s in the future this is a part of your history that should be shared with them.
It does not mean it will happen to you but you are safer knowing than not knowing.
Best wishes
2007-11-19 10:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by Linda S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to feel upset its a really tragic thing that your parents had to go through .find someone to talk to .get your feelings out and you will be able to stop thinking about it all the time ,your parents are very blessed you sound like a very caring young girl.xx
2007-11-19 11:28:08 · answer #9 · answered by twinkle78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to be concerned and saddened by that news. There is a sibling of yours that you will not get to know while here on this earth. However, the good news is that your sibling lives on. The spirit of that sibling continues to live in the spirit world. The day will come when that sibling will have its spirit body and mortal physical body reunited again, never to be separated. that comes to all of us. It is due to the atoning sacrifice of one Jesus Christ.
2007-11-19 10:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋