Anyone know of successfull relationships with SIL or BIL?

Question

We have known each other for 24yrs now, she knows my own relationship(of 24yrs) with her sister is deteriorating and 2 affairs her sister had while with me. I have been pure & truthful to my SIL and we have done a lot together. I have been there now and seen 3 long-term relationships end of hers. I can go on and on. We are very much alike in many ways and interests.

We also confide in each other, mostly me doing the talking. But she has come out and said I look good, and we would look fine as a couple and finally, she loves me.

Strange part is family peer pressure from others including our own children my son 14yrs and her daughter 18yrs. My own wife says, “its your second wife on the phone” the other SIL says “ oh we know you two are close”. The MIL says I do things other men didn't do with her. (flowers on mothers day when she was single, assisting her to move many time etc.

But now I honestly do love her.

Sooo, has anyone herd of a successful SIL or BIL relationship?

Answer 1

Family & friends are or should be, "Off Limits".
You should "Always complete one relationship, before starting another".

Answer 2

If you have been confiding in each other, then you have been having an emotional affair with your sister in law, so don't try to make yourself out to be the hero here. You're just as bad as your wife.

Sounds like none of you have enough maturity to establish mature, ADULT boundaries.

I'd tell you to stay away from her, but you won't listen to reason anyway.

Answer 3

You are looking like the good guy for being so kind...but you continue any further with this and run to her...you won't be the good guy anymore and will tear a family apart.

Answer 4

you're looking for trouble. If you are so loyal and faithful, spend the energy on your wife and children