I already spent my first Thanksgiving and Christmas without my ex-husband and his relatives last year. But I'm hearing Christmas songs on the radio today at work and I'm feeling this overwhelming sadness. I miss my ex-husband (he left me) and his parents and siblings - we had such fun traditions for 5 years and then all of a sudden it was over. All of my friends are married and some have kids so they all have their own families to go back and forth to on holidays. I love my own family, but it is not the same hustle and bustle that it used to be. Help!
2007-11-19 02:34:13 · 8 answers · asked by alyanna99 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To lu92649: I appreciated your advice up to the point where you said "quit your whining." You have no idea what I went through last year, and I find it insulting that you would make a comment like that.
2007-11-19 02:52:45 · update #1
I know, it can be hard at this time of year. Why not try getting involved with helping others by donating your time; it will bring back the meaning of the holidays and make you feel great inside.
2007-11-19 02:48:25 · answer #1 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, create your own hustle and bustle with your family - plan some games or bring some new music or cook new dishes. Also, volunteer at a childrens home or soup kitchen over the holidays - you will be doing necessary work AND you will probably quit your whining
2007-11-19 10:46:07 · answer #2 · answered by lu92649 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love "your" family, so why not celebrate it with them? I think you are still hurt about the divorce, and that will take time. In answer to your question though, I spend the holidays with my children. Very low key. I also don't put these days on such a high pedestal, and don't rely on others presence for my own self worth.
2007-11-19 11:01:12 · answer #3 · answered by Johanna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel honey. It is a time of year that I don't look forward to at all. I just tell myself that it will get better and know that there are others who are feeling the same way. Just be thankful that you have a family to go to on these great holidays, some people don't even have that. Keep your head up, it will getter easier. Just remember and be thankful of the time you got to spend with them.
2007-11-19 10:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by jmc24 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a GROUP of people you can hang out with who have had the same experience....check online for support groups. Join a club. Volunteer at the local seniors home or anywhere you can be with people. Make some NEW traditions and find emotional support in the bargain.
2007-11-19 10:46:05 · answer #5 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You atleast had 5 years with your ex im not married no bf no partner all my life and 25 almost
2007-11-19 10:47:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It get's easier...trust me. You love your family...then spend some time with them and make your own traditions...it's worth a try :)
2007-11-19 15:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Who Knew? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hated the hustle and bustle, so it was a welcome change just to only have to go to one family function for the holidays.
2007-11-19 10:40:33 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋