my husband after 5 years put up a profile of hisself on a singles page.he started talking to females on there and eventually gave them his cell phone number.i busted him out and now he has promised me that he put a stop to all of it.i contacted one of the girls on yahoo messenger and told her to leave my husband alone cause we worked our marriage out.see we had an arguement when he put the profile up.he deleted his profile i know that cause he sent me the email where it said his profile had been deleted,but should i trust that he's not still talking to them on yahoo messenger?cause he said he ignored all of them where they can't contact him anymore cause he loves me and wants only me what do i do?
2007-11-19 02:09:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no don't trust. He shouldnt be on the pc. He should be spending time with you. If he was looking on there then something is lackin in your relationship. You guys need to sit and talk.
2007-11-19 02:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by catdogpenny 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The bigger question should be why he did it in the first place? Are the two of you talking about why it happened and what can be done for it not to happen again.
Just taking his word for it and dropping the subject is only going to cause doubt in your mind every time the phone rings or he's running late coming home.
You guys should talk and I mean a heart to heart talk. I used to tell ppl. to go for a drive, but nowadays it's cheaper to go on vacation, thus I digress. Anyhow if he doesn't want to talk about whats going on you need to think long and hard about what your willing to put up with.
Hope this helps
2007-11-19 10:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by walker9842 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, be careful because from his side it is so addictive and alluring (not that it's good), but it is almost like drugs. If you start seeing he has deleted all history on the computer whenever he gets off, beware! He will have to earn your trust and that will take time. He will have to prove to you over and over again, that he means what he says, but stick with him, even good people sometimes slip!
2007-11-19 10:23:01 · answer #3 · answered by YankeeSouthernMama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't blindly trust him for a while.
I would be observant and if nothing else happens the trust will return.
I have a problem with you talking to those other women....your husband was the person who did something wrong....he should have been the one to tell them to back off.
2007-11-19 10:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him! To me, cheating is obviously bad but putting up a profile trying to cheat is even worse. If you really want to work on it, I would tell him that if he really wants to be with you then he is stripped of all privacy until he earns your trust again!
2007-11-19 10:16:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough call - the internet is a very addictive environment - the next time you have aan arguement or he feels that you are not there for him or not listening to him he'l be right back on line (speaking form my own experience)
once addicted its tough to get out of it!
someone figured that once on line a person is seven clicks away from porn (if they are not intentionally looking for it that is)
once a person has been caught in teh web of porn they are 7 clicks away from hard violence - rape, death, fetish, etc.
suggestion - you BOTH need to pull the plug on Y.a and the internet for awhile.
BT W_ its just as easy for YOU to get caught in hot chats as it is for your hubby! thats why I suggested you BOTH pull the plug - let him know you are on his side,m and with HIM! !
2007-11-19 10:16:27 · answer #6 · answered by HoHOho 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should find him on a dating site, get a pic of another girl, email him as her, set up a date. When you go to meet him, you will know. Then, file for divorce.
2007-11-19 10:24:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What sort of fight would warrant him to put himself out there in the first place? I would not believe him unless you truely believe he did it just so you would find out. When people put themselves out there that are already in a relationship it means that something is missing and they are trying to find it elsewhere.
2007-11-19 10:15:58 · answer #8 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Force him to give you all passwords and account information until you can build up trust again. Or take his computer and smash it.
2007-11-19 10:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Cassandra C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man is always like that. anyway, just be prepared of anything that might be happened.give him a chance but, keep on eyes...
2007-11-19 10:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by LadyAnis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋