Been going through a weird break-up with a girlfriend of almost 3 years. She ended the relationship, but sure doesnt act like it. She talks to me everyday, and whenever were out somewhere together she gets pretty hands on with physical contact, with poking, tickling, lil small kicks here and there, and even laying on me in the car. She's 22 and I'm 20 and this doesn't make sense. She knows my dying love for her, but she says its too late I'm not going to get another chance. The reason we broke-up was I didnt show her any attention in the relationship and I feel so horrible about it now. I'm starting to make some changes and even last night she said she's noticed some, but that it doesn't mean I get another chance. However, the phone calls, and text messages everyday are all started on her end, the same with the flirting and the physical contact. I really dont believe her words that we won't get back together, because to me her actions are way too strong. Would u believe her?
2007-11-19 01:29:26 · 22 answers · asked by Mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is called playing games and I don't like them. Tell her to figure out what she wants because you are not going to have her occupying all of your time and not have her for your girlfriend. I can't stand this type of thing...it is mean...it is wrong and it can drive you crazy if you let some one play this with your head. Are you sure that you know what you want? Are you certain that you want a woman who will twist your head like this? I wouldn't.
2007-11-19 01:34:42 · answer #1 · answered by Rein 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds exactly my situation. i didnt show enough attention, didnt say i love you, 2.5yr relationship. I didnt tickle her back enough or say nice things. I really showed more through actions than words. I however chased her for 3-4 weeks and tryed each weekend to show her i changed. Its probably good i did show her but she lost repect for me and i did for myself when i would cry in front of her sometimes. i took a stand and said enough is enough, i cant keep doing this to myself. next morning she realized what she has lost, and said she wrote alot of stuff down she wants to tell me and she believes she cant see her future without me but cant say anything right now. shes gone for the week with her family in another area for the holiday and i have no idea what to expect when she gets back. i texted her twice after 4 days but you have to stop calling, going out, and make her miss you. i dont know if it will work when she gets back in 6 days but if she dosnt come back excited and ready to go then im not sure if ill take her back. if she cheated on me during this time then my decision will be easier to make.
2007-11-19 01:38:29 · answer #2 · answered by Hello2u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you are really sorry for the lack of attention you gave her and are willing to make it up to her, but she is holding back. I can understand her holding back a bit because she truly does not believe yet that you will change. But for her to bluntly come out and say to you that there is no chance of getting back together and then she continues to see you and call you, sounds like manipulation on her part. It is as if she broke up but still does not want to cut off the relationship with you completely. If you want her to commit to you then you need to cut all lines of communications with her. She must be faced with the reality of not being able to have it both ways. Otherwise, her behaviour will continue to keep you in a confused state of mind, and with not being able to move on.
2007-11-19 01:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's playing you!!! She knows how much you love her and she feels comfortable enough to break it off with you but yet she's afraid that she might lose the Love you feel for her, so she keeps you hanging on a string, and gives you false hope, by teasing you. Just let her go, it dosen't sound like a healthy relationship, if she keeps being a player. Meet someone new that dosen't play you, you don't need that drama.
2007-11-19 01:51:11 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Game player, that's what she is! Stay away from her for awhile and maybe only answer a couple of text's because if there will be something between you it will happen when she has to miss you, if shes with you every day and you are going along with it she has the best of both worlds because she has you but can have someone else to! right now she is just being stupid!
2007-11-19 01:45:12 · answer #5 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cut her off and then she should start to get real. if she calls don't pick up, if she texts don't text back. Stop meeting with her. I know it's difficult considering you have strong feelings for her but the only way you're going to find out where her feelings truly lie is if you cut her off. Right now she's semi-confused and semi-"I don't want him to move on from me." When she realizes you're not up for her shenanigans..she'll fess up. Good luck. I'm sorry you're going through this right now. I wish girls would just be more honest.
2007-11-19 01:42:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok yoyo she's got you on a string. now its up to you need to decide if your gonna play her game and let her call the shots or if you want to cut that string and play a new game. you can let her keep playing games with your mind and heart or you can call her bluff and move on then as your moving on and she sees that she screwed up you have the opportunity to tell her she has made you believe there is no future for your relationship! at that point her game ends and you find out how serious she is! good luck Yo Yo!
2007-11-19 01:51:32 · answer #7 · answered by fishinbum 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with it - keep your mind open and see what happens.
It sounds like you are inches away from getting yoruselves back together but you shouldnt be asking her for commitment as it will only scare her off.
Give it time - pretty sure on this one you'll end up in bed one night and that'll be it, back together! Just don't mess it up when it happens!!!
2007-11-19 01:34:40 · answer #8 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's being manipulative and controlling...and she doesn't know what she wants. And you are letting her. And that keeps people in limbo and unable to move on. Cut her off and move on and you will see this rather quickly. Lots of good answers here - to a very common situation.
ps. she also feels guilty about leaving you - and maybe you are working that angle - but her guilt isn't genuine - it is self serving.
2007-11-19 01:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by Delay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She`s messing with your mind. This is a classic control manouver . She wants you to feel guilty about no attention, yet leads you on, in a manner that is conducive to you being a little puppy dog with his tongue hanging out , doing everything for her , and her judging your actions by a performance review.
This is a load of **** , dump her and forget about her.
2007-11-19 01:43:29 · answer #10 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋