It seems all you know-it-alls on the Answers board either answer "get a divorce" or "stay sexually deprived for better or worse" when questions of infidelity arise. So here's a tough one.
Say your spouse suddenly became quadriplegic? Would it be okay to have an affair then? Or should you divorce him/her and leave that person in the cold?
2007-11-19 01:16:04 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm confounded that most people on here seem to think that getting a divorce is a better option than even thinking of sex with someone else. That's the big paradox of this board.
2007-11-19 01:27:14 · update #1
I'm confounded that most people on here seem to think that getting a divorce is a better option than even thinking of sex with someone else. That's the big paradox of this board.
2007-11-19 01:27:23 · update #2
I don't see why not, it's not fair to you that you would have to suffer, because your spouse can't fulfill your needs. The marriage vows say in sickness and in health, but where does it say, that you have to suffer the rest of your life because your spouse can't fulfill your needs!!! You can still fulfill their needs, but they can't fulfill yours, now that's not fair to you even though it's not there fault. So my answer would be yes, have an affair and still care for your marriage partner if you wish to.
2007-11-19 02:20:51 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
i would say that you were a very disturbed individual, and yeah ppl do tend to say get a divorce or be sexually deprived, because for one if you weren't planning on staying loyal to the person for better or worse, then why did you get married. Infidelity is never okay. The fact that they recently became quadriplegic is enough of a tragedy without you worrying about where you're going to get sex now..i really hope this is just another stupid question that ppl get laughs out of, because if this is a serious question god help us all...
2007-11-19 01:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by o0okaylieo0o 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if I became a quad, and my husband had an affair, I would divorce him... I'd rather be alone than to have to share my man w/ anyone! fooey... I don't want someone taking care of me while he's gettin' taken care of by someone else, too! forget that... I'd rather die alone... the vow states to forsake all others... it does not say to forsake all others except or but or when you feel like it, etc...!!!!!!! in sickness and in health!!! if my man became a quad, and he could not do anything, I would not cheat... I would be too busy taking care of him... plain and simple... such people now a days... sigh! Christopher Reeves and his Wife made an example out of this issue... she did not cheat, she stated there are creative ways to attack this issue w/ each other! I also want to add that my Father is alone right now, his wife (my mom) is in the nursing home... w/ the last stages of Alzheimer's... is he cheatin' on her??? Nope!!!!!
2007-11-19 01:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd just like to say, if it has been confirmed that I am quad and will not be able to function on my own, then put a bullet in my madula. I cannot see myself being happy after this diagnosis. I would prefer this bullet at night as I sleep....spouse or no spouse just do it! To quads who are out there surviving and fighting, I salute your strength and resilience.
2015-11-01 13:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a friend that can help you sexually and you staying with your wife is the best way. I know that most women and guys in here always take the high moral road but thats only because they have never had to travel in those kind of shoes. Go get some lovin and help the wife. Screw what people think.
2007-11-19 02:07:02 · answer #5 · answered by reinformer 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
When I married my wife I took vows saying for better or worse, for richer for poorer, in SICKNESS & in HEALTH!!!!
Meaning if my wife was injured and was confined to a wheelchair and we were not able to make love to each other the rest of our lives, I WOULD NEVER have an affair, and there is NO acceptable reason to cheat, no matter what the circumstances. Just because they are not able to do anything sexually with you, doesn't mean that their feelings are dead.
When a person has an affair, they are being selfish and thinking ONLY of themselves and what they want. If something happened to my wife where she was confined to a wheelchair, I would never have sex again the rest of my life, because my wife means more to me than sex.
2007-11-19 01:22:31 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to say yes or no, but put yourself in their situation. Woud it be okay with you if your spouse had an affair or divorced you after it happened? How would you feel? You should really base your decision off of that.
2007-11-19 01:22:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It seems the right thing to say would be to stay true to your spouse. But i have to be real with myself i think that after a wile i would miss the sex. So i don't know and Ive never been married but it's a thinker
2007-11-19 01:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by mcdonaldsnuggetaustin 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! That is a tough one! I would think he would be saying something about this. I was with someone that was impotent - due to illness and meds. He told me he would understand, tho he didn't want to hear about it. I chose not to. I was never sorry for my decision, but I always had the option. He is now deceased
2007-11-19 01:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by misselie1 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not. this would nicely be a ordinary misunterpretation of the Bible, in all likelihood presented by way of an English king that had to divoirce his spouse. I say to you, whoever divorces his spouse (till the marriage is unlawful) and marries yet another commits adultery." --Matt 19: 9 "It grew to become into additionally stated, 'Whoever divorces his spouse would desire to furnish her a bill of divorce.' yet I say to you, whoever divorces his spouse (till the marriage is unlawful) reasons her to devote adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. Matt 5: 31-32 The previous testomony commandment that a bill of divorce settle for to the girl assumes the legitimacy of divorce itself. that's that this that Jesus denies. There are different sayings of Jesus approximately divorce that limit it definitely (see Mark 10:11-12; Luke sixteen:18; cf a million Cor 7:10, 11b), and maximum pupils agree that they signify the stand of Jesus. Matthew's "exceptive clauses" are understood by way of a few as a substitute of definitely the prohibition. it form of feels, even with the undeniable fact that, that the unlawfulness that Matthew provides as a clarification why a marriage would desire to be broken refers to a topic abnormal to his community: the violation of Mosaic regulation forbidding marriage between persons of particular blood and/or criminal dating (Lev 18:6-18). Marriages of that type have been recognized as incest (porneia), yet some rabbis allowed Gentile converts to Judaism who had shriveled such marriages to proceed to be in them. Matthew's "exceptive clause" is against such permissiveness for Gentile converts to Christianity; cf an identical prohibition of porneia in Acts 15:20, 29. in this interpretation, the clause constitutes no exception to definitely the prohibition of divorce whilst the marriage is lawful.
2016-12-09 01:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋