we went out for a wile but we got really really serious fast. we both really young, i have just turned 20 and he is 22. we pretty much got to the point where we were a married couple, we were completely comfortable with each other and became each others best friends. we know each other better then anyone else dose and we really loved each other. but about a month ago he broke up with me cause he was confused and starting to freak out a bit. we talked about it and basicly, he feels he is too young to be married already, if we were to stay together we would finish varsity move in together and get married, he pretty much dosent want to be married at 22. if it was a few years later we would be perfect but its not. i agree we need to break up cause its not right that he feels this way. but now how do i get over him? he is the love of my life and im still going to be seeing him all the time for the next 2 yrs cause we at varsity together. how do i make sure i dont end up waiting for him?
2007-11-19 01:15:33 · 7 answers · asked by coffee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with waiting for someone you really love, just don't put your life on hold for him. What I mean is this, you love him, you say he is the one for you, the only thing is he is not ready for marriage at this time. You never know if one day he will look back and be ready for marriage and that he just might want this with you. It will be good for the both of you to date other people for I agree, you both are still way too young for a commitment such as marriage. Use this time to venture and grow, and if it was really meant to be, then one day fate will find you both back together, together when you both will then be ready to make that final step. You never know. Best of luck to you!
2007-11-19 01:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can probably do right now is concentrate on yourself. Take the time you need to grieve this loss. Don't keep the idea that "someday we will be together". All you know right now is that you are not together and won't be anytime soon. Once you accept that it is truly over you can begin to focus on your life and building it alone. Do things by yourself. Take up new hobbies and be open to meeting new friends. If you feel like staying home all weekend and watching movies, do it! If you want to go out, do it, whether you go alone or with friends. Hopefully, soon, you will feel content and happy being by yourself as well as with friends. The absence of your bf will eventually seem less important. Once you become comfortable being alone you'll realize that there are SO many opportunities for you that don't involve your ex and you can make clear choices for yourself and your future.
2007-11-19 01:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by laura1977 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first GF did that to me, she left me after 2 years cause she wanted to get married, to get out of her house she needed a change in life...... soooo i said it was way too early, so she left me. soo at 19 she married a 29 year old guy, had a baby at 20 and another at 22... the whole time she would call me and see what i was doing, like she was waiting for me or something.... so about 5 years into her marriage, we hooked up (had sex).. we did that a couple of times....
Anyway, it's over 10 years later and we are best of freinds, we go to clubs and bars together, she is seperated from her husband and has a new BF... she seems happy cause her kids are teenagers and are her Best friends, and help her, she is still young... and I always wonder what my life would be like if I stayed with her.... hummm
the point is, if you can help it, just enjoy life with him, do your thing, move in with him, if you want.... enjoy your life, stop rushing into things... you don't fall in love with a marragie licence, you fall in love with the guy.
2007-11-19 01:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Latin G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These is blessing in disguise for you. Be positive that he gave the actual reason for that broke up. You shouldn't wait for him or try to forget him. Take him as normal casual friend.
Be honest to yourself that he not ready to love you.....its not about marriage.
You both yet to complete your study,finish that and get your career and later think about marriage.
You are not pregnant and freaking him up for marriage right?....He just not ready for relationship,except Fast & Furious type.
Focus into your study and get busy with your social life....When you stop chasing and looking at him,He will realised what he lost. Let him wait for you for marriage,(if So) but you...enjoy you life without heartache.
2007-11-19 01:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw yourself into your studies and being with friends. If by chance you meet someone else, so be it. If not then maybe you two will end up together. You should take your cue from him and not rush into anything, you are young and have plenty of time.
2007-11-19 01:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best way to get over him is to start datng or living life like no tommorow chill with ur friends you should have thought about this before u got married if u knew u were moving quickly......
2007-11-19 01:31:05 · answer #6 · answered by Missy 09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You won't have to worry about that, because he's no longer interested in you. You'd better get over it now, before your heart gets broken when you see him with someone else!
2007-11-19 01:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋