he doesnt think its fair that i get everything but the only reason i want the house is so that i dont have to take my kids away from their friends and out of their school, should i fight for the house and how do i do that??
2007-11-19 01:13:15 · 12 answers · asked by shrree4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Get a lawyer, and FAST.
2007-11-19 01:18:17 · answer #1 · answered by cooter726 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come to an agreement, refinance the house into your name and work something out that way. It is fair if you are divorcing that he wants to separate himself completely from you, after all the only tie to the two of you should be the children. I whole heartedly understand your concern about not wanting to relocate, it is hard on the kids, they are innocent victims of divorce. With that said, you and your husband need to work out a way to live completely separately from each other...that includes all finances and property. Child support should come because they are his children. If for some reason you should have to move, please don't put the children in to the mind set that it is their fathers fault...both of you are divorcing and just because he is trying to do the right thing in this divorce by completely separating himself from you, doesn't mean that the divorce didn't take two to occur. children have the right to two parents, they should be allowed the freedom to love both unconditionally with out the baggage of the other parent being put upon their shoulders. I wish you well.
2007-11-19 09:28:43 · answer #2 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your married its 50/50
its sick how females use the system to get everything just because kids are involved. everyone says its not that way any more well BS.
sell the darn house, take the money 50/50 and take your 50% and put on a down payment toward another house in the same area and that way the kids will still have there friends.
Now you have a choice!
I don’t care why you broke up or want to hear a sad story, do what is right and move on.
Don’t try to “get one over on him” or let him get one over on you.
Split everything, please let him see his kids!
Best of luck.
2007-11-19 09:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by n00b420@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to keep the house you will have to buy him out!! I can see his point of wanting to sell the house, because that is where you both lived in matrimony with your children and you both should be starting fresh in something new for your fresh start. I can see your point about the kids and their friends and school, but will it bother you eventually living there with all the memories of your marriage to him??? What if you meet someone new that your serious about, will you move then into something new to start fresh with someone new??(if so why not move now?). If you do meet someone new they might not want to live where you lived with your husband!! So you have a big decision to make, take some time to think about it, and whether you can afford to buy your husband out, because that is what you will have to do if you want to keep the house. Best of Luck in Your New Beginnings!!!
2007-11-19 09:25:33 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to buy him out.
You would have to pay him half of what the house is worth.
Yes, I agree with you that it's important to keep the kids in their same school.
Especially when their parents are going through a divorce, it's enough for them to have to deal with, but to change their schools at the same time could be just too much to deal with, for them.
When I was going through that, I couldn't afford to buy out my ex...so I had to look for an apartment in the area so I could keep them in their school.
And they did very well through it all, and I think that's a big part of the reason why.
Do whatever you have to do to make things easier on the kids, that makes you a wonderful Mom ;)
2007-11-19 09:21:42 · answer #5 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact your attorney. Your soon to be ex husband will also need a place to live so it all depends on finances. If you have joint custody of the children he will need to have accommodations for the children so a studio apartment will not suffuse.
The families fiances need to be reviewed to see if it is possible to keep the house, if not you can sell or try to buy out your husband's portion.
Good luck.
2007-11-19 09:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer in most states it's 50/50, just divorced, after 31 years, everything was 50/50 I live in IL.
2007-11-19 09:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by kim t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on the state you are located in, you may have to sell the house and split the assets. Get an atty to help you get what you need for the kids.
2007-11-19 09:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by that judi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to hire an attorney and tell them you want the house. A court order can be issued to you giving you the house and there's not a damn thing your husband can do about it.
2007-11-19 09:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a lawyer usually, you can talk to them without paying untill after.
2007-11-19 09:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, your soon to be ex has to remember he still has kids who need their familiar surroundings...
2007-11-19 09:38:52 · answer #11 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋