How can I attract women?

Question

I am 31 years and haven't been in a relationship for 3 years. I am successful at my career and I'm well rounded. I am in decent shape. But women don't find me attractive. Most of them seem to view me from a diatance with fear and respect. Heck, I'm not even the "best friend" guy.
What do I do to remedy this?
I'm not religious, so church is out. I don't like volunteering or pets. My interests are mostly academic (philosophy, politics) and sports, and groups that deal with these are mostly dominated by men.

I'm a teetotaler, so I hate to go to bars as well.

Answer 1

you need to find a woman who shares the interests and posses the same talents as you do. It may be harder because you are into the intellectual type, but you really need that kind of woman, otherwise you will grow bored. Looks are NOT everything........

Answer 2

At 31, you still seem to be in the stage about focusing on who you are, that's gotta change at this age. if you're looking for someone in your life, you can't expect a perfect match all the time which is why you've gotta make a few sacrifices and accept the few differences you might have with a person.

its fine that you hate bars, i do too. church is up to you, and when you say you're not the "best friend" guy, is it that you don't have friends that are female, or you're incapable of such a relationship, because that would already be something you could've changed (with utmost respect)

you seem like a smart guy, ever tried a book store or a cafe? the fact that people are looking for books shows an interest in literature which, you never know, could involve an interest of yours. at a cafe, its just completely casual. you see someone, introduce yourself, and chat (word of the wise, start with what she likes to talk about first, don't make it about you, you're the one looking for another, remember?)

Answer 3

All I can say is that I pretty much had given up hope at times. I really thought I was too weird to find someone.

I just kept acting like myself, which didn't yield much in the way of results.

Then one day I met my wife, and I never guessed that we would end up getting married. I just acted like my weird annoying self and she did the same, and now 4 years later we've been married for 4 weeks.
She's very fond of telling me how "cute" or "handsome" I am, and I always tell her she's delusional, since no one else has ever said that about me. That's how much she cares about me.

All I can say is that if there is someone for me, there can be someone for anyone. You don't have to act like someone else, just keep looking.

Answer 4

An ideal men's body is definitely built by the loss of unwanted fat, and building muscle mass in the areas that require it to get a 1.618 ratio of shoulders to waist. Females are really obsessed with men that demonstrate the adonis ratio. Handy exercises consist of; pull ups, bench press, lunges, squats, sit ups and shoulder press.

Diet is definitely as crucial as exercising. The diet plan needs to provide plenty of healthy low fat proteins along with carbohydrates to help promote muscle growth.

Answer 5

Maybe some of your guy friends or guy friends' girlfriend know some charming, lovely ladies to get to meet you ;) you sound like a catch so I wouldn't be worried. Also smiling seems to lower the intimidation aspect. You could even start by chatting up some cute waitresses.

Answer 6

Maybe you just don't seem very approachable. Women usually like guys they can relax around and feel comfortable. If you have a tendency to be sarcastic or critical, most women will withdraw from you. Even if you think you're just being funny.

Answer 7

Get a spring clip and clamp your Gold Card onto your shirt pocket.
Just be aware that 6 months into the relationship, you'll be in Credit Counseling.

Answer 8

Women love goofy non-threatening types. The Zen way of getting in a woman's pants is not to want to get in a woman's pants. Works for me big time. Have a sense of humor, genuinely listen to women, and offer you input in a non-sexual way. Sounds like your trying way too hard.

Answer 9

Well very few if any share the same interests. You could try to like somthing else like films, walks on the beach, novels and disscuss them with her.

Answer 10

Your timing is perfect. With electioneering going on right now, get involved in your candidate's campaign - that's volunteering you can relate to - then pay attention to the women who are also involved in his campaign. You never know....