My husband has been cheating on me for along time. I would like to end our marriage!
Though im in a professional workfield, Im still afraid of not being able to support my two daughters after a divorce.
2007-11-18 21:50:09 · 15 answers · asked by mell k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to hear that. That is horrible.
I think you will stand to gain a lot if you have proof of his adulterous life. That would help your case in the court room. -He would stand to loose his butt. -God Bless.
2007-11-18 21:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I can understand that, money isn't everything but living below the poverty line doesn't make sense either.
I was faced with much the same dilemma with my serial cheat ex husband. But, when push comes to shove, you will be able to support yourself and your daughters, and make ends meet. Fear is holding you back, you are afraid of the 'what ifs' that probably won't even come to pass.
If worst comes to worst, you can always lean on family and friends to give you a helping hand. However just look that fear in the face and tackle it dead on. It's easier said than done, but it's worth the effort.
Once you've made the move, it's amazing how things can fall into place. I barely earned enough money to keep a roof over my head, as the rent in this country has skyrocketed, but as soon as I moved out, I got an extra job, and was inundated with offers from family and friends to help out if needed. Turns out I'm doing a lot better that I ever imagined possible.
All the best to you, and look forward to a new life, having a life without having to worry about who your husband is sleeping with is a great life, I can assure you.
2007-11-18 22:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by Vanessa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is that. You're also dealing with somebody who already has baggage and will always put their kids first (for good reason). In my mind there is also a stigma associated with being a 2-time loser ... probably bitter about the exes, and either doesn't understand how to make a marriage work, doesn't take it seriously enough, or has really bad taste in guys. And lastly, guys most compatible with this woman (around 53, with kids, 2x divorced) are probably either broke or struggling, plus they have all the same problems I just mentioned. And women have standards too. Yeah, we prefer younger women by default, but there is so much to be said for maturity. The last woman I had a crush on was much older than myself. The problem is women who (like a lot of men) never grow up. Marriage is a big commitment for me. I'm all for getting married but I take it damn seriously and I will make as sure as possible I'm marrying the right one before I commit like that. In a nutshell, I'm wary of making a big mistake. If a woman mistakes that for fear of commitment in general, that's her problem.
2016-04-04 22:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for your daughters, is give them a Happy Home. My Father cheated on my Mother the entire time she was married to him, and she finally after 16 years of marriage and abuse, got the Guts to leave him. Your husband will have to pay Child Support and with you working also, you should be able to give them a secure home. Parents do not realize what damage they do to their Children by keeping them in such an unhappy enviroment.. Go see a Lawyer, if not for yourself, do it for the kids..
2007-11-18 21:58:01 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you willing to let your children grow up in a house where the love is little? are you really alright with the fact that he is cheating on you? these are the questions you need to ask yourself. if the answer is yes to both, then don't divorce. stay with a cheating jerk. if you work and make alright money, then you can support yourself and the two children. he will have to pay you child support for the kids and if you can prove that he is cheating, then he will also have to pay alimony to you. and there is a way for him to have to leave the house as well. you need to talk to a lawyer and find out all your choices here. life is way too short to live a lie....and hon, that is what you are doing.
2007-11-18 21:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First get allot of evidence on your husbands affair. that will be your bargaining chip in court. Plus you'll get child support. if your not going to leave him don't let your kids know about your affairs because they might have some issues. Plan your move well dont rush into things, whats a few months of planning compared to years of suffering.
2007-11-20 23:45:42 · answer #6 · answered by benjo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce the b@astard and demand child support through the courts..
2007-11-18 22:23:18 · answer #7 · answered by Fluffy ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get child support and since i have been through this it is better to leave than to stay it just hurts the children as they can sense things are not right get out and get on things will work out for the best and good luck
2007-11-18 22:04:46 · answer #8 · answered by handyman0731 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will survive, if you are intelligent and smart you will survive. You have a professional job? You will survive, millions do, and on less than you have. Using money as a reason to stay with someone would be cowardly, anyway.
2007-11-18 21:58:19 · answer #9 · answered by Paul M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to pay child support and there are more than likely other benefits you can claim even if you are working.
2007-11-18 22:16:37 · answer #10 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋