Sex before or after marriage?

Question

Do you think it morally wrong to have sex before marriage? What do you think of people that do or don't have sex before marriage?

im asking for religious reasons im just curious on what other people think

i also want to say that i am not judging people by what ever there choice is im just wondering what other people think about it.

Answer 1

Its a matter of choice. I feel if you are in a commited relationship, there's no problem. But you still have a choice whether you want strictly courtship or sexual relationship. As long as you dont feel guilty and stuff afterwards.

I havent a certain connection/relationship with God and his blessings are amazing. And i have a certain relationship with my boyfriend, we acknowledge the presence of God but at the same time we can make love once in a while.

We know we have to be in courtship, but all we can do now is pray for God to guide, not for us to pressurise ourselves. All will fall into God'd plan.


And SEX is not immoral, its natural. It just depends on how and the motive behind doing it.

Answer 2

It really depends how YOU feel. Do not go by what other people say or do, they cannot judge you.

Here is how I feel,,, sex is great but risky.

I had sex before marriage,, and did have much when I was married... Now that I am single and dating we have a lot.... Like the old saying goes,,, you have more sex while dating and when you marry it stops... The problem is that while you are dating there is a rush and excitement to see each other,, when you get married you lose that, because you now see each other all the time and have bills, kids, and other stresses,, it get routine and boring

However, if you wait until after marriage, the excitement can be there, you can learn new things from each other.. that is what makes the sex exciting,,, not the act but the enjoyment and exploration of each others needs and feelings... If you wait until you get married, you will desire it more when you are around each other. If you do it now,, the excitement will die and it will get boring... so wait

I dont know your situation, if you have ever had sex before or not..... I had a friend in college who was a virgin and so was his girlfriend,,, they were waiting until they got married... they played around but no intecourse...well one weekend they had an arguement and they broke up... well he went out and partied and hooked up,, and started having sex with this one girl. (just a couple times).. his ex found out and wanted him back,, but to late he crossed the line with the other girl,,, she begged to work it out,,, he loved her so he took her back... well she worked it out all right,, now they have been together for over 10 years, and happily married.. one of the best couples I know

Answer 3

I dont think its morally wrong but it also depends on the religion. I also beleive that its up to each person whether or not to have sex before or after marriage... and no matter what some people think sex doesnt stop after marriage. I think that sex should wait until you find that right person and it should be special whether its before or after marriage

Answer 4

i don't think it is morally wrong. and I'm sure a lot of people would give me a big thumbs down for this answer lol. my belief in life is that if you don't do anything to harm a person, then do whatever anything. sex before marriage, why not i guess, it doesn't make the person a horrible person. but for religious purposes, if they were brought up that way, to not have sex before marriage, then fine. we have to respect that. just as people should respect the choice to have sex before marriage.

Answer 5

Good credit for the guys and immorals for the girl. Having sex before mariage is like a trial and error. What happens with the girl after many session of sexual encounters when later on you found out that the relationship doesn't work? well.. definitely the girl is the loser and the next guy she will be with also having a 2nd hand girl. Then the 2nd relationship doesn't prosper,too. but practiced the sex before marriage. The girl soon become 3rd hand...and so on...Perhaps the guy finding the girl 3rd hand or 4th hand and so on...i think nobody will take her for good.

Keep your virginity in tact till after marriage. Your hubby will be very happy learning that in your honeymoon. He did not only won your heart buy won a precious trophy a man deserved for.

Answer 6

Sex before marriage is not wrong but if you have gotten around too much before hand that may be a different matter. I was engaged and my hubby to be was my first then I got pregnant a year later and got married in that time. We have now been married for 13 yrs. But each to their own. Every person is different.

Answer 7

I think people should just be responsible and never force anything on anyone else. If two people want to stay abstinent, that's great. However, I do not think they are better than anyone as a result of their choice.

Personally, my girlfriend and I have decided to remain abstinent until marriage. We are both virgins, and have made vows never to cheat on each other. We want to make sure that we don't go through a divorce and we want to avoid as much stress as possible.

As you can see, everyone has their opinions and beliefs. We are all different, and we should all respect that.

Answer 8

Current social norms dictate that sex before marriage is normal. You can tell that it is now considered fine just by looking at the T.V.

What IS wrong in my opinion is not protecting yourself during this process... If you protect yourself, you will have no regrets later.

Always use a condom, and enjoy, life is short, don't waste it following stupid traditions and norms that worked for people 1000 years ago, but no longer work for the rest of us living in today's world :)

Answer 9

Now there have been many changes in the world.
People can decide what did they do and or appropriate or not.
I have one Christian friend stayed with her boyfriend before marriage and only two in their house.

In my mind, I didn't believe they had no sex but now both of them got one child and stayed for 6 year.

I will tell you that for me it's not important if I had sex before marriage. Time will teach you how's your guy or girl? it you can walk together, then keep going on for your good life but
if not....you can find the other that make you're happy.

Answer 10

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