i have a sex fantasy about sleeping with a women but my husband would not understand would it be wrong to try it once and never do it again just to have the experience and settle the urge
2007-11-18 20:25:44 · 19 answers · asked by chancireese 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
1 GUYS + 2 GIRLS = YES FROM HIM
2007-11-18 21:11:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok well if you go ahead and do it to settle the urge you are cheating and things like that have a way of getting out. Talk it through with your husband. Most guys would be down with that but only if they are included in some way. But don't go behind his back as you would truly feel regret afterwards. But also remember it is just a fantasy and should probably stay that way.
2007-11-19 04:30:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kym M 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That sucks that he wouldn't go for it. Man that almost should be a crime. Well, if it's something you have to do, then keep in mind that morals don't belong to others, just you. Whatever you believe is what is important. If this is something you want to experience then do it and be sure not to let him find out. If you decide this is something you need in your life and your husband can't live with this lifestyle then obviously you will have to choose one or the other. If you decide it's out of your system and you want things to work with your husband, then I recommend never telling him about it and your relationship can continue uninterupted. I once cheated on my gf and then told her about it 3 years afterward and I really wish I hadn't because all it did was hurt her and the relationship. I haven't cheated since then because that's not what I want, and although our relationship has been strong even a year after me telling her, I still think it would have been best if I had just not said anything and went on with things. Either way, good luck!
2007-11-19 04:33:53 · answer #3 · answered by illunatic 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if your hpnestly considering this then its more than just a dream, its feelings that your repressing trying to bust free. problem is sweetie that its about 90% that your marriage wont survive after the experience because either you will have filled a hole that you needed to but then found you want to continue, or your husband will want to continue this behavior (possibly) and maybe you will find you dont want to. personally as a man if i am planning to be with someone the rest of my life i wouldnt want to share them in any other way with anyone despite the benefit to myself. now if you really feel you need to do this based on a dream then your just admitting that you want to do this, because you went from a dream to saying it was a urge. how much is your marriage worth to you, because trust me if it works for a bit even, it wont last and your marriage will crumble. you just need to decide what is more important.
2007-11-19 10:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by adam s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SORRY: Your husband lives in a mis-informed world.
Although it is true that as a male he would not understand,
he is not aware that there is more to the female human
than our common thoughts as men.
If he learn about his sexuality, there is a chance that he will
grow to understand that all humans have thoughts and
feelings that are repressed by our moral rules of life.
I would not encourage you experimenting, but understanding
that the urges and thoughts are normal is important.
2007-11-19 16:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by whatevit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-11-19 05:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone i think has been curious at least once about these kind of urges. if you try it youd have to tell your husband. you cant cheat on him that would be wrong. if you tell your husband like suggesting a threesome or like ask him before you guys get into it if he's ever had any strange fantasies it would be an easier time to bring it up. itd be like story time :D
2007-11-19 04:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by CaitliOn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many women have that fantasy. It is because women are so much more emotional that we would like to have that emotion in our sexual relationships. You probably would not even enjoy it, if you are not gay. More than likely, it is a passing thing due to something missing in your relationship. Try talking to your husband about showing more emotion. You may also need some marriage counseling.
2007-11-19 04:30:59 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is an unwise door to open your relationship may never be the same don't do it keep it a fantasy who's to say we have to have all of our fantasies fulfilled
2007-11-19 09:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Paul H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you ask consent from your husband. Convince him it would help you become active sexually and promise him it's must be the first and the last. Who knows he wouild allowed you?
My hubby not only approved my fantasy last year but he worked for it real. he talked to his younger buddy and arranged a one night sex date for and his buddy. It was great and new wonderful sex I have had in my life. I did not ask for it but he gave as surprised present. Now, I respect my hubby not to ask for more.
2007-11-19 05:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
realistically, things would probably never be the same. I would bring it up not too seriously and see how he reacts...make sure its the right time though
2007-11-19 04:28:29 · answer #11 · answered by Mr. Right 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋