When answering, please give your first and second reaction. My husband and I haven't had sex for 2 months...(First reaction answer here...) He works 2 full time jobs. 1st and 3rd shift and he works everyday of the week...EVERYday. He goes in on Sunday at 7pm gets off at 7:30am goes to 2nd job 8am gets off at 2pm comes home goes to bed and gets up at 8 to be at work by 9 Tues-Fri. Mind you, I work 8-5 M-F so by the time I get home he's already asleep. Now, just recently, he's been listening to any and everybody (but me) and they are saying that if you haven't had sex then SOMEbody is cheating. So now I'm being accused of cheating. Since we got married a little over a year ago, my husband doesn't touch me, kiss me or anything until he wants to have sex. He doesn't tell me he loves me and certainly doesn't show it. It's hard for me to even get in the mood when i'm steadily bein accused of cheating. I love him with all my heart, but I can't take this anymore. Con't
2007-11-18 19:08:58 · 8 answers · asked by Morlo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have never cheated on him nor have I wanted to. He keeps telling me that he's the best man I've ever had and the best I'll EVER have. I ask him all the time if he really wants to be married and his response is always the same. "If I didn't want to be here, I wouldn't". But my thing is, is if you really wanted to be with me you would show me that you love me. I've asked him time and time again to be affectionate with me but he still isn't. I've asked if he was still attracted to me and he says yes. I seriously don't understand why he is accusing me all the time. Please help! My marriage if falling apart right before my eyes. FYI we have discussed marriage counseling and will be making an appointment for as soon as possible.
2007-11-18 19:14:55 · update #1
First reaction, 2 months, a long time, but not that long. You said " I love him with all my heart, but I can't take this anymore." I would start a conversation with your husband with that sentence and go from there. If no one is cheating, then you can work this out. Sometimes if you go to long without sex the other person is a little nervous to initiate anything because they are afraid they will get rejected. If you have to set aside a specific time for sex that you both agree on then do it, not the most romantic thing I know, but it can help lead you back to where you both want to be and that is in each others arms and not fighting. Good luck
2007-11-18 19:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by All Knowing 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First reaction: Bummer.
Second reaction: He works a lot! I can definitely understand how frustrating it must be for you to feel that he is not interested in sex. But imagine how tired he must feel after working hours like that. It seems like quite some responsibility. Maybe you could talk to him and see if he can cut back his hours here and there so the two of you can spend some more quality time together. Talk to him and let him know how this all makes you feel. He might be feeling the same way, ya never know!
About the cheating thing... that doesn't sound like a fair accusation on his part. I would just let him know how you really feel and try to reassure him that you are not cheating. But let him know how important your intimate life together is to you. Maybe there's just some communication issues going on here. At any rate, best of luck to you!
2007-11-19 03:16:07 · answer #2 · answered by sundance_0083 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st is ofcourse that long?my god...n u live in the same house?
2nd is look hes tired from working hard for your future day in day out....men find it hard to get a hard on after stress or fatigue...u need to arrange me n u time once a week minimum where u stay up for eachother..show him how much u want him..whilst hes sleepin...kiss him on thew neck hold him from behind etc...leave notes for eachother...its only been one year u need to make more effort2.
2007-11-19 03:23:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have been married for 3 years and I never in my life thought that our sex life would slow down....well guess what it did and it does and will happen to most couples ...know your not cheating...he is not cheating you just dont need it as much and the love never goes away
2007-11-19 03:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a exsperte at this .. but .. put ur self in his skin ..
would u be the same way if u had 2 full time jobs?
2007-11-19 03:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st reaction: wow.
Try to make an effort to have sex with him, then talk of the issue afterwards, he may be more loving and willing to talk.
2007-11-19 03:17:42 · answer #6 · answered by Maxy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st reaction damn... second... maybe if he showed a little interest in you other than when he wanted a little maybe he wouldn't have to always be the one to want it... at least that is how it seems to always go for me!
2007-11-19 03:13:35 · answer #7 · answered by grayeyeddame 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wait I have to ask my wife if I can answer this opinion. just kidding you married the wrong person so I say get out now for your own happiness.
2007-11-19 03:13:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋