I go to a church function every sunday. It's hard for me to go, because I have a hard time talking to people. I have this one girl friend that I talk to, but other than that it's sooooo hard for me.
Well Imagine; 8 or 9 guys crowding around you and your friend, talking amongst eachother and to you. You freeze up, and want to get out of there, fast. You can't think of anything to say and look like a complete dumbass. You have done things like this repeatedly and feel like you will never change...and also you have already had the shy, quiet "status" going on, so it's no like you can get a fresh start.
I don't know what to ask for, maybe just some consolation for being socially awkward?...I feel like I'm in a constant panic because I just can't deal with all these social things.
I'm almost 18, so I think i'm pretty set in my ways with socializing. Anyone else feel this torture?
2007-11-18 17:53:37 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Set in your ways at 18???? Oh honey...no. Good Heavens, *I* can change and I'm 50!! It is NOT TOO LATE for you to learn how to be less shy and to handle social situations. The problem is -- you have to WANT to change.
You can seek counseling, it might help. You might need some anti-anxiety drugs at first. But you will still have to do the work.
You need to take baby steps. You need to FORCE yourself to smile at the people you pass. When you are comfortable doing that, the next step is to make eye contact. When you can look people in the eyes without panicking, then you need to start saying 'Hello.' Go slow but go forward.
Read some books on developing self confidence.
Good luck!
2007-11-18 18:02:50 · answer #1 · answered by luvrats 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem when I was younger. U have to take things easy at a time, it takes time to get to know people. How big is your congregation? Try making an effort to get in conversation with different people each time so that it will lessen the social anxiety and that people can get a general idea of u as a person. You said u are pretty set in your ways with socialising, so I assumed that isn't a problem.
2007-11-18 19:21:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be that your just shy or you could have social anxiety. It is a medical condition and they have treatments for it. It doesnt hurt to look it up on the internet and see if you have it.
2007-11-21 16:43:32 · answer #3 · answered by southernyankee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well im a quiet person too. how do you talk to your friends? i talk to them normally but then, when i talk to boys and stuff, i just get soo shy around them and i hate it to. you might just want to break out of the shell your in. try new stuff. you might like it.
2016-04-04 21:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by April 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem and im 18... liek my firned is so outgoing and it makes me so mad casue i wish i could just go up to someone and start talking....... i need help withthis to
2007-11-18 17:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by ashily<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're on a quest for God, as you mention religion, maybe you need a hermitage
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hermitage_%28religious_retreat%29
perhaps social religious gathering is not as suited to some aspects of your personal worship
>wink<
2007-11-18 18:07:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have the same problem.
2007-11-22 12:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋