I just found out that my brother is cheating on his wife. I am not in real good terms with his wife, but this really sucks. I don't know whether to confront my brother or to just mind my business.
2007-11-18 17:50:31 · 27 answers · asked by Loli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
MYOB
2007-11-18 17:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
If you're close with your brother talk to him. Tell him you know he's cheating and what you think of it. (Respectfully) Tell him he can not expect you to hide or cover for him. If he refuses to stop it there really isn't anything you can do. The wife will think you're causing trouble because you're not on good terms with her. I have been in the a couple of times and the best advice I can give is MYOB. That's the one that worked the best for me. The person eventually found out anyway and I didn't have to be involved.
2007-11-18 17:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by MISS H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really does suck for your brother's wife. She will find out sooner or later. She can then decide if she wants to stay with him and work things out if the marriage is worth working on. If you tell him and she finds out, he will swear that the only way that she could have known is because you told her. Although that might not be true, that will be his thought process. If you tell her that will only hurt her, and it sure is something that no woman wants to hear. Your best bet would to not say anything about it, because if you do and they stay together they will resent you for it.
2007-11-18 18:12:48 · answer #3 · answered by Doc_Holliday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loli,
It is not easy, I guess whatever you do is not going to be nice and fun.
I usually say that when someone is doing something like this, he did it to you too, because now you know something that changed your life, without your permission.
but...
If you say nothing, it'll be hard for you to talk to him or his wife and pretend nothing happen
If you say something, he might avoid meeting you again and you might lose him as a brother.
either way, you've lost!
and because of it, do the thing that will be less damaging to you, remember, to you, not to him, he already damaged his life.
If you decide to MYOB, do it and forget about it and that's it (good luck, I wish I knew how to do that)
If you decide to go and talk to him, do it and don't even think of what would he say or do, just do it for yourself and get it off our back.
Good luck!
Ronit
http://www.behappyinlife.com/relationshipcoaching.php
2007-11-18 18:00:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is messed up. If I were you I wouldn't want to talk to his wife and screw up your brother's second marriage though. If you can't beat some sense into your brother than there really isn't much you can do.
2016-05-24 03:52:20 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your brother he is a being a loser whether he is your brother or not. You need to call him on thsi as it seems he is getting by with it I wouldn't be nice i would make him feel bad so he can wake up! You need to tell her too Just be really sure he is cheating first. I hope you don't have neices and nephews. Godbless you.
2007-11-18 17:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would you hope to accomplish if you DID confront your brother?
Unless you know the answer to that, my advice is to let it be.
Another thought: how do you KNOW he is cheating? Unless you've physically seen him in the act, or unless he's told you, you DON'T REALLY KNOW.
Don't make assumptions. Things aren't always as they appear.
2007-11-18 18:23:46 · answer #7 · answered by kyeri y 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your brother is a grown man and you should mind your own business no matter how close you are to him.
2007-11-18 18:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by beamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could mention to him that you feel that he should think about how he would feel if she was doing that to him. Otherwise, it is really none of your business. Never get between him and his wife.
2007-11-18 17:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should first talk to your bro & if there is no change, tell his wife.
i know blood is thicker than water .... right now be a woman !
come on she has the right to know ...
maybe she already knows but if she doesnt than this might be a big shock for her.
imagine if you were in her place ... this was happening to your marriage
2007-11-18 18:02:28 · answer #10 · answered by Pritee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he is your brother you need to talk to him and tell him that even though you and his wife may not get along that you think its wrong and just tell him, ya never know it could have an impact on him
2007-11-19 00:10:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋