I Need some Really good advice Please?

Question

This is really difficult to explain in such a short way , I am 31 yrs old I have a 6 yr old daughter my husband passed away 3 yrs ago (the father of my daughter ) my father in law since my husbands passing has helped me so so so much words cannot explain he has been such a good role model for my daughter and Has helped me through out with my daughter especially when i am sick ( I have MS ) right now I am down with my disease , I have no feeling in my legs and am stuck in a hospital bed in my home , this man my father in law is 79 yrs old and for the past mnth has taken my daughter to and from school , after school stuff and its just soooo awesome what advice i am looking for is What do I get my father in law to say to him how much I care and How thankfull that I am for all that he does and will do in the future this man seems to have everything he is my angel , Please any advice on what i could get him would help me so much

Ty
take care and god bless

Answer 1

He sounds like a truly wonderful man. You should try get him a really heartfelt gift, if you don't have the money to splash out a little, try taking him out for a family meal just to show he's appreciated.

Answer 2

Your little daughter is BLESSED to have such a wonderful roll model in her life!! She will have good advice and a lot of love from the sound of things. Wow, what a real blessing.

The mere fact that he has stepped in to aid you and your daughter (his grandchild) is because he is genuinely a good man with a big heart......caring and loving. He also lost his own son 3 years ago. Maybe this is fulfilling the loss. If I were him, I'd surely be doing the same exact thing that he is doing.... coming to someones aid.......someone that he cares so much about. I think a simple honest "thank you" with the same words you expressed here with us on YA, would be most appropriate. Let him know from the bottom of your sweet heart that you appreciate him in yours and your daughters life, and than him for being involved in the life of his grandaughter. I truly believe that a good grandparent (or grandparents) is/are the very best thing in a childs life. Wow, how blessed you and your daughter are!!!!! So, just be honest and appreciative..........that is all that is needed, from the bottom of your heart. I'm sure he is quite aware of our MS conditions and just how hard it is to function at times.

He may need your help someday, and maybe when your daughter is grown, she will know and love her grandfather very well. I would have to say.....remind her to always tell him that she loves him and to give him lots of hugs! What a wonderful grandfather your daughter has!!! Blessings to you all!! =)

Answer 3

I know exactly where you are. I am 22 with two kids (oldest almost 6 and a 2 1/2 year old.) I also have many health probs. Back in '05 when my children were only 3 1/2 and 4 months I left my husband and moved back me and the kids back in with my parents. I was going into the hospital for brain surgery. I was only supposse to be in the hospital for 3-5 days. It ended up being 6 weeks! The whole time my parents, sister, and her bf took care of my kids. I have been very sick since. On days that I cannot do most things my sister and mom do them. My son has grown up with a bond to my sister that he should have had with me. It does not really bother me though I am just happy that he had someone to make the motherly bond with. One week ago I had the first of 2 hip surgeries. So once again they are doing everything for my kids.

I too have often wondered how I could ever repay them and show them how thankful I am. I have not found anything. Allthough I hope that when my mom gets elderly and needs taken care of I can take as good a care of her as she has me and my kids. As for thanking my sister. The only way that I could ever repay her is to take care of her if she should ever need it ( I hope not)

I think that you should let him know that to the best of your ability if he ever needs anything you will do your best to give it to him. Also many ppl that age are grateful to have someone to talk to regularly. So quiet possibly your companionship may mean more than you could ever know.

Answer 4

I would definitely print this out and start by glueing your question to the inside of a card on the left hand side. I know this might sound distatseful as it sounds like he will die soon but i promise he will love it so much older people love this stuff you could tell him you will add this to you or your husbands gravestone or his. How your leaving this word in peace because they have such a wonderful grandpa and put his name beside it on the stone and tell him you will do this and buy it for him! Or you could have a marker at your husbands feet that reads the question above on it and put his name & a thankyou with you and your husbands name on it!

Answer 5

The nicest thank you that you could give your father in law for all that he has done for you would probably be in the form of a hand made card and personal letter telling him how much his caring kindness and consideration means to you. His generosity of spirit and the time he spends taking your daughter to and from school is admirable and a gift from the heart is something that would certainly make his day. The satisfaction of helping others is a gift in itself, God bless him for the help that he is able to give you.

Answer 6

OH~you both sound like angels to me.
I just know he knows how grateful you are to him. And he knows how much you need him.
He loves you and his grand daughter very much. You are very necessary to his happiness too.
Is it possible to take a vacation together, the 3 of you? Somewhere warm and sandy maybe?
Anyplace he talks about? Or maybe somewhere he has been before?
It doesn't necessarily have to be a long way away from home
Maybe just a day or a week of toes in the sand , room service and each other.
Maybe spring break.
I hope you feel better soon.

Answer 7

First of all, I'm sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you're ill right now.

I would simply write your father in law a nice letter telling him. Nothing you buy can express what you've written so beautifully here.

If you want to get him a gift, then I suggest some photos of him with your daughter, and even some photos of him with his son, and pictures of all of you together. Put them in a scrapbook for him. I'm sure it's something he'll treasure. He sounds like a wonderful man, I'm sure your husband was wonderful as well, since his father is so giving.

Answer 8

Just show love and appreciation by not taking for granted what he does. Never expect it. If he does it, that is great, and if you have to ask for help, don't feel bad. But as long as he knows that he is helping you and not in vain I don't see any reason why someone like the person you describe would "want" anything in return.

Don't feel guilty that this man is helping you, it probably does as much for him as it does you. Remember, that is his sons daughter, his grand daughter. :) He is suppose to love her and help her.

Good luck, you and your daughter could take him out to dinner or to a movie... Involve him in more than the duties, ya know?

Answer 9

I'm so sorry to hear of your predicament....what a great guy!!! You don't say too much about him (such as...have a wife, drink?) or what you want to spend. You can get something like a gift basket...wine, or ???, or if you want to spend more, I tried searching under "monthly gift"...there's various types of "gift of the month", including wines, cheeses, cheese cakes, etc. Good luck!!! and I hope you feel better....

Answer 10

Wow, to have a such a paragon for a father-in-law. From the sounds of it you are in no position to make grand gestures, and from the sounds of it, he isn't the kind to need them. I don't know what you can do to say thank-you to him, except by making sure you do say it every day.
"Thank you Dad, I really appreciate everything you do for us."

Answer 11

Since he is such an inspiration in your daughters life...seems like he is a great grandfather and she is one of his top priority's. My mom made a scrap book for my grandpa with hair locks, pictures of us, drawings, fingerprints, et cetera....even a note to grandpa from me....I was 5 I think so it was short. My grandpa cried like a baby when he got it because he said he had something to look at when he was away from me....something with meaning would be great for him. Hope that helped. Best of Luck