why is it so much easier for a man?

Question

Men leave there wives easy. It seems like and it doesn't bother them. You'll see them a month later with another women or a lot of times their with them sooner but of course don't reveal it. Like their marriage meant nothing They don't write or call did they never care at all? Some even treat their kids really bad or forget them altogether. Explain this to me guys. Especially the part of why a lot of you neglect your children after a divorce. After all if you hate your x-wife or wife seperated from why treat your INNOCENT kids bad by not calling them ect.

obviously i have kinda been left twice the first one wanted to get back with me and i filed for divorce,but he left me the minute he cheated. The second after i gave him everything i had he grabbed his greencard and went out the door on mothers day Begged me not to divorce him. Then ignored & forgot me and his daughters for about four months while in the military i'm filing for a divorce this time but i consider he left me first. I'm not saying all men are like this. But all men get over relationships a lot faster it seems why?

Answer 1

Trust me its not as easy for men as your probable anecdotal exp. might lead you to think. The courts still overwhelmingly favor women in divorce settlements and custody cases. Women, on the whole (every stereotype has some basis in fact), still are rotten at forgiveness and cannot communicate except with game playing hints, while men have been, on the majority, working hard for the past two decades or so to be more and more clear and open in their communication and more and more emotionally expressive. Again, there are many exceptions to this, but overall women do have the advantage in such situations. What starts as a harsh attitude towards an ex-spouse can easily be deflected towards the children by the other, and both genders have done that. I am formerly divorced myself and my wife left me- so why shouldn't I ask why it was so easy for my ex to leave me?

Answer 2

In a case I know of, the mother's values and morals were so low, the father felt he could never impact the child (daughter)in any other direction. You can't exactly tell your daughter at a young age, that her Mother does illegal drugs, sleeps around, etc. You will only be the bad guy no matter how good a father you are. The court isn't going to give the man custody the majority of the time, so sometimes it is easier to just step away and start a new life. A life that 100% excludes the awful ex-wife even if that means cutting ties with the child. In this case, it was the woman's fault he didn't stay in touch with the child. You have to forget you were ever married and do only what is best for the child. If BOTH parents can't do that, it's not going to work out for the child.

I'm in NO WAY saying that applies to you- you asked in general and this is one perspective.

Answer 3

My husband and i also nearly divorced for few times, eveytime was because he had another woman outside. Everytime he treated me like a nobody, thou i've done so much for him, so many sacrifices, given him 2 beautiful daughters. But one thing is he still does care about our kids, thou he doesnt want the custody. Men can just walk out the family very easily, with no sense of guilt or responsibilities. I think to them, outside women are more important than their wives.

Answer 4

i think you're WAY wrong on this. Men generally put up with an ENORMOUS amount of crap before they leave. Women who feel they've collared a man think they can do whatever they like and yank him around by the balls all day long. The children are INNOCENT pawns ALSO being jerked around in this bitchy game, and there's no way to win until they grow up and realize what a nightmare their mother made out of their happy home.

Answer 5

I have no idea about why men leave their wife and kids but personally speaking in my relationship ive seen spending years with a man he can just emotionally switch off and act like a stranger when he has to meet to commit marry when its time.
I guess a man can be aemotional but women are emotional i hate only this thing about my man seriously hes the best man otherwise just that sometimes he can switch off so easily while im crying sad bad condition tortured in pain sometimes i think to myself how can someone be that heartless but i know and he says he loves me but i feel if he does love me why is it not easy to commit marry then i get scared as hes acting this way now to commit marry tomorrow after commitment marriage what if he acts like its nothing leaves frankly its my worst nightmare.Its one of the mysteries about my man.

Answer 6

You are so wrong about this. This is a stereotype. Just because it is happening to you doesn't mean it happens to everyone. You've described a lot of women that I have run into. When you ask questions like this, you may want to rethink putting all men into the same category. The more I re-read the question, the more I realize why your ex found it easy to distance himself...

Answer 7

I am sure that some men are the way you describe. But...I know many men who are the exact opposite. So...I think your question might have some bias towards it.

Answer 8

Its because the routine of marriage gets so old...then it starts feeling like a cell. You'd do ANYTHING to break free from that cell.

Answer 9

My thing is...why get married at all if "SOME" men treat their wives as disposable objects?

Answer 10

I can tell this question is from a very prejudiced person. Maybe men just know when it is time to get on with their lives.