left me to live with some other woman, to live "off of her", and i heard its a pigstye. wel i am miserable, in general, and wish i had someone to love, to make my life happier. How can i do that?
2007-11-18 16:06:22 · 12 answers · asked by Diana S 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I'm going through the same thing and its hard...Sometimes you just have to re-evaluate your goals and ambitions in life and ask yourself if he is going to help you get there. if not...it'll be easier to do what benefits you. You are the only one who determines your happiness
2007-11-18 16:10:44 · answer #1 · answered by pritty_wings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds cliche but you must learn to love yourself. How do you expect to ever find someone and get out there if you have no confidence or faith in yourself.
Its also properly best to steer away from relationships at this time until you figure out your wayward emotions. We all spend time feeling alone in our lives but we do have friends and family with us. Why not spend time cathing up with them.
They are bound to help your mood and could also help you open up doors to new people you can meet. And who knows maybe the next person you meet is someone you dont want to miss out on.
But if you spend your time alone being miserable you will miss the chance. You just have to know that not having a snignifcant other in you life isnt an end all. And this last guy didnt deserve your love other wise he would still be with you. Someone better is waiting for you out there but in order to find him you must stop putting so much pressure on yourself.
Hope it Helps
2007-11-18 16:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all want some one to love, we don't need it we just want it. This girl your x-thing is living with now did you a favor by taking him in and allowing him to live off her. It could have been you, so save your money. Go ahead cry a little than laugh a lot. Pick your self up and learn to love your self. When that's done you'll be able to spot the difference between bad love and real honest good love.
2007-11-18 16:22:22 · answer #3 · answered by dizzymom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a fact that constantly thinking about negative events is linked to depression. I don't mean to sound all zen but we do attract what we focus on. If you believe you are suffering then your perception becomes reality.
You have the power to change what you think about and focus on. Try a change of tack and focus on positives (I'm assuming you are not disabled, disfigured, homeless, or have some chronic disease) so you obviously have many things to be grateful for.
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2007-11-18 16:20:30 · answer #4 · answered by Delphi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that get's me through life is planning my future. I know this sounds "geeky" but just knowing that I could possibly be someone different in the future makes me happy. I know this has nothing to do with your problem but I don't know.. Just realize that you are your own person. No one can tell you who you are. You will find the perfect person..just don't rush it. It will come when you least expect it. Good luck.
2007-11-18 16:19:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
making your life better is a decision...you decide that you're worth more and that you only have one life to live so you better make the most of it.....
work out at a gym, get a make over, start a new hobby, just get up, get out there and live....do good things for others and help improve somebody else's life and that karma will come back to you
2007-11-18 16:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by saraJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot depend on other people to make you happy...you have to find a way to create happiness for yourself...then others will be attracted to you because you're a fun person with or without a man in your life. No one is responsible for making you happy...just YOU
2007-11-18 16:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For someone to love you....you have to first love yourself. Nobody wants to be with someone who complains and nags about how sad and miserable they are to only make them suffer. Do something for yourself, work out, go back to school, pick up a hobby and enjoy yourself. When you realize how great your life is, how beautiful you are someone will also notice it. Trust me depression and sadness can be smelled miles away
2016-05-24 03:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, maybe you should take a break from dating for awhile and learn to enjoy your own company at your own pace instead of depending on someone else to make you happy.
2007-11-18 16:11:30 · answer #9 · answered by Digital Age 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i bought a karma book. lame i know, but reading its simple tips helped me. it made me feel happy too. a psychological tip= smiling at yourself in the mirror everyday or even wearing a smile when you don't feel like it will make you an overall happier person. don't believe me? look it up. and from personal experience, its fabulous!
2007-11-18 16:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by heartbreaker23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋