Basically im the only resposible one in my house and im 18.I dont really know what i want ot do with my life since i have to fix my parents problems.That being said at the moment im staying at my grandmas.(she lives in Illinois and we live in Texas) Im supposed to stay till jsut after thanksgiving but i decided im going to stay.I dont know if i should stay just till like the 15th of december and go bac kfor christams.Or if i should stay and get a job so i can go to omaha(where i went to highschool) and live there and go to school.Thanks for the help i really need it.
2007-11-18 15:49:16 · 8 answers · asked by Bookybell 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just turned 18 is why im trying to decide this now.
2007-11-18 17:03:00 · update #1
Here is my advice...and it's just that...an advice! ONLY you can decide what is best for you!
I am a mother of 5, the oldest child in my family, and at the time of being 18, was the only responsible on in my family!
1. Your parents need to handle their own problems...and if you are there, they will LET you do it!
2. Get a job, with the understanding that you already have plans for travel outside the state (even if you don't) and can't work during certain Christmas days.
3. OR...apply for jobs that would allow you to start after Christmas...then if you decide to stay...you can turn down the job.
4. Then, IF you want to go back to Texas, for Christmas, go...BUT...with a 2 way ticket...so you won't get roped into staying longer, by your parents.
It's tough to break away. They don't want to let go of their baby...even though you, technically, are an adult, and you are worried about growing up!
Be tough...but loving.
If your grandmother is okay with you staying...and that's what you want to do...then stay...after all, like my grandmother said, she won't be around forever and you can enjoy her love and extra attention...and she can enjoy yours!
You are only required to be responsible for ONE person, and that person is YOU!
TRUST YOUR FEELINGS!
GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-18 16:13:51 · answer #1 · answered by Halo...as in Angels have them 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a support system right now in your life. If grandma is that for you stay with her. If possible, I wouldn't even rush to get a job. You need to experience some emotional stability at this time. Just because you're 18 doesn't mean that the reasoning and decision-making part of your brain has developed. Stay with someone who can impart wisdom and who will help you avoid many of the pitfalls your parents experienced.
2007-11-18 15:59:23 · answer #2 · answered by DIVAPRINCIPAL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot fix your parents and you should not be expected to. If you want to stay that is what you need to do. I would get a job and start saving your money. Good luck.
2007-11-18 19:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18. Do what you need to do. If going back home will just stunt your growth as an adult go for christmas to visit but move on. Just don't cut your ties and step on your families emotions. You never know when you will need help. Trust me.
2007-11-18 15:53:36 · answer #4 · answered by M G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you really want a job and go to school, and that is probably the best choice anyways.
Good luck to you :)
2007-11-18 16:15:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Figure out what YOU really want to do. Our opinions aren't going to matter.
You're 18, legally an adult who can choose to do what you want. Take the path that is going to be best for you. Do not feel obligated to your parents. They are grown. They need to fix their own problems. You need to figure out what you are going to do with your own life without worrying about solving everyone else's problems.
Look inside yourself and figure out where you see your life going. Do whatever you choose to do. Don't let others influence. It is about doing what is best for you.
Good luck in whatever you decide.
2007-11-18 15:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Follow your heart and besssstttt of luck!
2007-11-18 18:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by Cherries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do whatever is best for you, your parnets can deal with their problems on their own, and if they can't theyll learn to
2007-11-18 16:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by Ange 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋