2007-11-18 15:35:47 · 11 answers · asked by wendy h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no cheating no physical abuse only mental on my part and I said some pretty bad things to him over a course of 11 yrs.. I just need a second chance to show him that I have changed. I have done anger mgt and everything.. I think we just need God back in our marriage.
2007-11-18 16:12:18 · update #1
telling him is a good start
some people need and deserve a second chance.
i Hope to god you can fix your marriage. all i can say is PRAY and hope that he comes back.
but if he doesn't at least you are a better person now and you will make someone happy because you have learned from your mistakes. some of us gotta learn the hard way(unfortunately) sometimes is too late. keep your head up!! and ask god to help you. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-11-18 15:40:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say this, but you sound a lot like my wife...the one I'm contemplating leaving. I doubt that a conviction to change expressed whilst unhappy would translate into a permanent change, and if I were in his shoes I would wish truly wish you all the best, but would be very skittish about getting back together.
If you really think you have changed for good, I would recommend that you avoid "trying to get back together" and instead try to simply be his friend and companion. If you get together again, great! Good luck! But I wouldn't try and push him back into the relationship. Leaving a marriage is a long and difficult process, and he'd be reticent to try again if he is not given time and opportunity to reflect on it all, and to come to that decision by himself, without doing it only to make you feel better. I guarantee that if you "get" him to come back, and if things don't work out, he will resent you. If however he comes back because HE wants to, then he will feel empowered with his choice.
I'm waffling now, but you get the jist.
2007-11-19 00:24:23 · answer #2 · answered by flashdench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite him to a luncheon or a coffee to talk, but keep the conversation light at first to get him to relax. Ask him how he's doing... And tell him you've been way busy... (stay confident, dress in something irresistably fab...) then as he's leaving... give him a lingering hug or hold his hand and then of course, the puppy dog eyes. But don't beg him to come back because when we act desperate, it's never attractive. Just simply tell him you miss him. Good luck, honey.
2007-11-18 23:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have killed any feelings he had for you. Words can do that after 11 yrs. Sorry but if I were him I wouldn't go home. You will have to prove to him that he can trust that you have changed. Keep up the anger management, and learn how to keep your mouth closed.
2007-11-19 00:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by witchywoman 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. If you think its worth ir, try counseling. If you are scared to call and tell him, write him. Send a text, but tell him.
2007-11-18 23:53:40 · answer #5 · answered by SR 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him. that's the only way to have a healthy marriage
BE HONEST
2007-11-18 23:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Jonesy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him
2007-11-18 23:40:05 · answer #7 · answered by natasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you split? cheating? don't take him back. abuse? don't take him back. anything else? counseling.
2007-11-18 23:48:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't bother ..if its over its over ...Move on it will be happier for you....
2007-11-18 23:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sorry...hope it works out...
2007-11-18 23:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by meaniemobeeney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋