Can someone tell me how to accept the prospect of living without my family next year ?

Question

I have never lived without 1 or another family member and my head is fighting this.

I am 60 and this will be permanent. My 2 kids want their own lives, understandably, but I feel like there is no further purpose in my life. I will be lost.

Answer 1

Do you mean living alone? If so, it can be a real freeing experience. Take care of your security, then get active. Try new activities, plan outings, consider a new hobby, a pet, bird watching, cards, a craft oh the possibilities are endless. Stay in touch with family, call and compute, drop a note or card, maybe alternate your means of staying in touch with the family and offer upbeat positive comments. You have the opportunity to do what is fun for you, whatever the mood strikes - go for it!

Answer 2

I stayed with your story the whole way. :) It sounds to me like you are doing everything right brother! Though you should not feel short changed by any means. You prayed each time, and each time you received an answer. My thoughts are this; that broken down car, that is in and out of the repair shop is just like life in this rotten old system which is ran by none other than Satan the Devil. Things will start to get a little bit better for us, and blam! Problems again! This does NOT mean that Jehovah has let us down. It means that just like Job, we are being tested. Don't assume that Jehovah is telling you to keep the car at this point either. Have you considered selling it and getting a newer used car? I don't know what your financial situation is, but there are many deals out there. Used car lots are hurting and anxious to make a deal! Why not pray in that direction? Also, never assume that people will not give you a ride. You may have to be like that widow that kept on nagging until she got relief. Life is difficult but we should never give up! Never let Satan win the battle for Everlasting Life. He knows he is going down; why should we let him drag us down too?

Answer 3

No one can tell you this. You must listen to your heart and your intuition. We are not all alike in our emotional needs. If you are strongly against this then don't do it. Only you can decide.
It is very hard to advise without details. There could be some very very good reasons that would require you to make the sacrifice.
Get out there and find some friends. TAke a dance or art class. Do some volunteer work. Get a part time job. There are a lot of lonely people out there who need friends. Get out there and find them. You may have a good time when you do.

Answer 4

When I got married and moved away from my family it was very hard at first. But this will be a good time for you to do some of the things you've always wanted to do. You can take a college course or exercise class. You'll meet new people where you live or work. You can do volunteer work, helping others is always rewarding.

You can keep in touch by phone, e-mail, or maybe get a web cam. I became even closer to my family, we really appreciated the time we visited or talked.
My best wishes to you!!!

Answer 5

I agree with getting a pet. Just before my sons moved out, we acquired Gracie. For 25 years I said "NO" to animals. I grew up with them and knew how they can tie you down. We like to travel and have a river cottage. When I was approached about this little cat, My oldest promised he would take care of her. Well the youngest went off to college a few months later, and the oldest decided to move out within the year. The boys were never around, the oldest worked 14 hour days. So, Gracie and Mama became best friends. When the oldest decided to move out, I wouldn't let him take Gracie. I'm her "person". She tolerates my husband, because he lives here:-) She's Mama's girl. Many times I've wished for the days I could just pick up and go, not worrying about Gracie freaking out because I'm gone for more than a day...but those times are few. The majority of the time, she is great comfort...She's always there for me.

Answer 6

I am not sure if you are talking about a loss in terms of death or moved away or what. I can totally relate in that as I have had to live alone off and on the last seven years as my kids were home and out, off and on, but both of them just married in the last three months and I realize that they will not be "coming home" again in that respect. I have a dog who is great company, and YAs who have been a great group of people to communicate with. I have two good friends that I try to see one of them one time a week. I have lived alone, when the kids have not lived here. I had to learn to live alone. It is hard at first, but with time I think one does get in touch with their inner self, and the Lord in the process. I have been depressed a great deal in the last year getting ready for the weddings of my children because they have been the greatest joy in this life, aside of the relationship I have with the Lord. If you think of Him, you really are never alone. That gets me through. Now that my two children are married, I find that I feel a certain amount of freedom in that I can now do some other things I could not do before and that is a good way to look at it I think. I also look forward to visiting them, in there homes!
In terms of losing family through death I can relate to that too as I lost all of my immediate family between the age of 20-30. I also lost my husband and had to raise my kids alone from the ages of 2 &31/2. It was really tough, and I think I made it through only by the grace of God!
In general, I would have to answer "Stay in the moment, replace every negative thought with two positive ones, get involved in helping others as you will get joy yourself in doing so, find your passions and enjoy the ones you can, and lean on the Lord for when you are weak, He is strong. God Bless.

Answer 7

Getting a pet is a good idea, but just saying 'get a pet' really trivializes the experience of having family around. I would encourage you to stay in touch and visit with your family whenever possible, and also to maybe look into some sort of volunteer job or community center activities. Maybe it would be a good idea for you to get a roommate, too, if you can find someone who is compatible with you. Nothing can ever really replace your family, but that doesn't mean there aren't other people out there who you can be close to.

Answer 8

You will enjoy being alone,once you stop thinking about it.Stay busy.Do as many functions as possible.Volunteer or just spend time with people you like.They will come and visit.Then there is a telephone to chat daily.If you are worried about security,check for flaws now.Dead bolts.Make sure someone has a spare key to all the locks.I have the safety gadget of all times.It is a 357.my children sent me to class for it and I done well.I know how to use it and will.Plus I have a great buddy to keep me company--CoCo my JRT/mix..Me and CoCo.You will be fine...

Answer 9

I'm not sure what you mean by living without your family. If they are living and you are not able to visit them, you could give them a phone call, IM or even email. I have a sister who I don't see but maybe once a year, and I love to go to the Hallmark store and find a card to send her that will make her chuckle. Many times I will also fill the card with confetti..... just to make her laugh and curse me for making a mess on her floor.

Answer 10

You didn't state the particulars. Is it only for a year, nor why, but I live 5000 from my family and it is a mind set. The computer and cell phone help a lot, but keep busy!!! Idle times will make you homesick, but trust me, and I'm not saying this to be mean or anything, you will make it and have stronger familial ties because of it! Best of luck in whatever you're doing!