Do you put others down to make yourself feel better?

Question

I have never gotten so many answers.. thank you

Answer 1

Shamefully, yes I do. I only do it on special occasions, however.

I have found that a lot of people like to put others down to make themselves feel better. I really hate that, and it annoys me to no end. One of the skills I have developed over the years is the ability to read people fairly quickly. For some reason, I am able to intuit their weak spots and insecurities with a great deal of accuracy. When someone is busy putting people down and making everyone miserable, I generally offer up a gentle reminder that that is not civilized and decent behavior. I usually give a few warnings, and if they ignore them, then I let loose. My brains, which are pretty good, coupled with my intuition about their weak spots, allows me to launch verbal attacks which strike home and do a lot of damage. It doesn't make me feel better in the same way it makes them feel better, but it does make me satisfied, in a sick kind of way, once I am able to wound them into shutting up and leaving others alone.

If the person is only picking on me, I generally let it slide off my back. I figure no harm, no foul, since I am smart enough to know what they are doing and their reason for doing it. But when they start in on other people, I quickly lose my patience, so that's when I start launching verbal attacks of my own.

The fact that I do it in defense of others doesn't make it right. It is still reprehensible behavior, and I should, and do, know better. I don't offer up excuses for myself, because I know it's wrong. But yes, I feel better once I have made them shut up and go away. And I do generally feel bad later. Unfortunately, I don't feel bad or guilty about it when I am doing it. I guess I need to work on that.

Answer 2

ok i flow to easily be straightforward ideal here, specific I do. i do now not evaluate myself a recommend guy or lady and that i very hardly insult people yet each and each so often on an analogous time as your life has only long long previous to hell in a hand basket now not some thing feels better effective than only staring at somebody else and saying, wow i'm happy i'm now not them.

Answer 3

Ok I am going to actually be honest here, yes I do. I don't consider myself a mean person and I very rarely insult people but sometimes when your life has just gone to hell in a hand basket nothing feels better than just looking at someone else and saying, wow I am glad I am not them.

Answer 4

No, thats is degrading in a person.
I do the opposite....
Putting others down to make yourself feel good just is a sure sign that you are worst then that person... so really you are getting that opposite reaction then you wanted.
~Me

Answer 5

That's a really lousy thing to do to another person. And it won't make you feel better in the long run because when there's no one else to put down you feel terrible.

Answer 6

No. I have been in that situation where others have and I know it hurts...a lot. The people who do have low self esteem and generally make fun of others because that's how they feel deep down about themselves.

Answer 7

No actually I don't. I used to have two friends that did and it made me feel really bad. They said it made them feel good inside when they were mean to people. Their not my friends anymore and I made new ones. I try very hard not to make fun of people because I know what it feels like and it sucks.

Answer 8

No I would never plus it is others that put me down. It doesn't matter if I retaliate or not as it makes no difference to the jerk hassling me.

Answer 9

Never..it would just make me feel bad..people that have to put other people down just to boost their own self esteem are pretty weak!!

Answer 10

NO i feel worst rather better it is embarrassing only to think of it ,but it is very common i know,people who are good for nothing usualy do the same only to satisfy and justify their EGO