What to do if I am the custodial parent and I don't feel safe letting my 2 yr old go with his father?

Question

I have a 2 yr old son-now me and his dad split up when my son was 2 months.He did not want to work or help me out at all. after about a couple of months I moved out with my boyfriend whom I have known for 4 years, we use to date and started talking again.Well my boyfriend has been taking care of me and my son since he was 3 months old.He has been there for him and he considers him his own son. me and my son's biological father are not together I don't hear from him at all.My son knows my boyfriend as daddy and after about 2 years my son's father finally decided he wanted visitation rights.We went to court and he ended up having to pay back 2 years in back child support and getting visitation rights to see my son.My son went with him and he was scared cause he does not know him at all.He goes with him.He does not stay the night yet till he turns 3.My son calls him by his first name.Lately he has brought him back with scratches all over his face,pull up full of feces.wat do i do?

i have asked my sons father where the scratches came from...he tells me from his sisters daughter.He put his hands on me once and he has a temper on him.When we went to court we did not see the judge we saw a assistant attorney.Me and my current boyfriend are engaged to be married and he just wants to make sure my son is safe

Answer 1

While this is hard for you and probably not what you want to hear - he is the father. Keep a close eye on your son and if you expect any type of abuse - report it. This is physical abuse. Calling his father by his first name is not a bad thing in your situation. Ask your ex what happened in reference to the scratches and take pictures as documentation. Keep a record of the dates and times he picks up and returns your son. Be very detailed orientated. With this type of information, if you ever need child services - you can back up your claim and stop him from ever trying to seek joint custody.

Good luck.

Answer 2

First of all you should have asked the ex...WTF? Why is my son like this? What were the scratches from?
Tell him that if he cannot provide safe enviornment for your son that you will take him back to court and request that not only his visitations be scaled back but also request to have them supervised.
Tell your ex that this isn't to 'fight' but more so to protect your son. And this will allow your son to get to 'know' the man that donated the sperm.
But if your ex is trully trying then you need to take a step back and allow him to be a father to his son.
It's hard for us females to dismiss the '2years' that 'fathers' are gone. But give him the benefit of wantting to know his son. You already know what a great little guy he is now it's time for him to realize what an a$$ he was for two whole years.

I hope you told him to keep a better eye on him around the cousin. Or he told the sister to keep a better eye on her kid...maybe you should tell the sister :)

Answer 3

If your son comes home with scratches on his face and you believe that he is not well taken care of by his father, you must record the incident. Take him to your pediatrician and let the doctor record the time and date of any suspicious incidents.
However, do not accuse your son's father of abuse if he is not abusive toward his son. That may backfire on you in the future. The courts will look upon it as "you chose this man to be your child's father" so he could not have been that bad!
Children are resilient. Your son will son be used to visit with his father. Discourage your boy-friend from letting your son call him Daddy. Boyfriends come and go, and you should not let a man that you are not married to encourage your son to call him daddy.
I know that it must be hard for you to let your baby go with your ex, but in the long run it is what is best for him.

The best of luck to you and your son!

Answer 4

sure, you will would desire to consult with the decide and get him to spank the sperm-donor lower back. He needs to make her come decrease back domicile to you and end intense college... or daddy gets arrested for contributing to the delinquency of a minor. you could ask the decide to lecture your daughter on own duty and all that... according to probability he can contrive some properly-worded threats on her as properly. the element is... at 14 she had the main appropriate to p.c.. which discern she wanted to stay with. Now she is fairly much 18 and has yet to comprehend that there are outcomes for her movements... she thinks the international is a candy save. She is your duty purely till she hits 18, yet you have purely 6 months to coach her each little thing she would be able to would desire to correctly known with a view to make her way in life... duty, appreciate, ethics, morals... and you will desire to get the element throughout the time of any way you could, consisting of a belt around the fanny. attempt to recollect this word: "what would are transforming into via to me at this age?" you could not be acquaintances with your little ones. You supply for all of their needs, so on an analogous time as they're under your roof, the little ones would desire to obey your regulations. they might desire to flow to college, shop their grades up, do their homework, p.c.. up after themselves and do in spite of chores you ask of them. in the event that they gained't comply, the door is that-a-way. you will desire to deal with those little insurrections demanding and quickly. Your new mantra is, “If the mama ain’t happy, then no person is happy.” The mama is the appropriate authority. you may desire to step into your capability as such. get waiting to get rid of her transport and go away her flat-footed.

Answer 5

Take photos the next time you get your kid back. Have someone with you to witness the event as well. Also, you should contact your attorney immediately about this problem.