i really need help?

Question

My bf and i have only been together a few weeks anyway we used a condom but obviously something happened to it and i am now pregnant only 4 wks i know we should have waited. but whats done is done
i already have a 17 month old active son and i dont know what to do,
i looked into a termination but they are $225, in melbourne and i cannot come up with the money in time, it was just me looking into my options, but if i cannot afford one of those i definately cannot afford another baby,
the other thing is my family are strict catholics and i dont want them to be po'd at me for getting pregnant again because i could not raise my son without my family support which was what i would have to do if they found out i was pregnant again.
i just need some advice on what to do but i guess i need some further guidance coz i am not 100%sure what to do and it will be hard for him to get the money also as he doesnt start his new job till mid dec.

Answer 1

it's either you come up with a way to raise $ 225 or you spend a WHOLE lot more money than that raising another child. do whatever it takes to raise the money, sell some of your things, get a loan from someone. if you cant afford to have another child please don't, adoption is also and option for you if you are comfortable with that.

Answer 2

If you want an abortion, then you'll need to find a way to raise the money. Borrow it from someone, go find a place that sends you out on jobs daily and pays daily, have your bf help with this. Between you, you should be able to raise 225 in a week or two, tops.

Either that or your choice is to go through with the pregnancy and either keep the baby and raise it, or else give it up for adoption.

Answer 3

I would talk to your parents to see if you can borrow the money...and I know that catholics are very strict about abortions, but at the same time they dont believe in children out of wed-lock. You are right at admiting that if you cannot afford an abortion, how can you afford another baby...but terminating a pregnancy takes a bad toll on you...some people it doesnt but it sounds like it would stick in the back of your mind for a long time. If you really cannot raise this baby look into adoption, or open adoption. You have a lot of thinking to do, Good Luck.

Answer 4

There are different options; many couple wanting children will gladly adopt your baby and pay for your medical costs plus other expenses too. There are agencies to help you terminate the pregnancy, like Planned Parenthood.

I am concerned about a couple of things here; your inability to respect yourself and control your animal urges and the fact that this bf isn't helping with expenses for whatever you decide to do. Sounds like you have a real winner there.

This could be a real wake up call to you young lady, get your act together and start living mindfully from now on. I feel for your children, really, more than I do for you. They are the innocent ones in this irresponsible lifestyle you have chosen.

Answer 5

when you play with fire you often times get burned.why don't you have a better form of birth control? ultimately you will have to make this decision for yourself. what would be more upsetting to your family another baby or an abortion. and could you live with the after fact of an abortion?

Answer 6

adoption... but arent there any "free clinics" around?? if you dont have the money you should be able to get financial help... you and your boyfriend need to discuss together what the best plan is.. how does he feel about abortion??? its his decision too.

Answer 7

i'm mother of 3 to be exact 5.but because of my health cautious i gave up both of my babies for adoptions.infect i really ay ease cause i did not do anymore sins cause i've gone for more than 2 aborts.i really felt guilty 4 wat tht i had done.bt god loves me n gave me another 2 but knowing my weakness,willingly tht i gave them for adopt.cause i feel by doimg this they will have a proper lifestyle n mentally they will not be too effected in liifestyle tht their elder sibilings going through rite now.also tht i feel happy i gave innoccent lifes a chance to explore the world by not feeling guilty.