i just found out that my ex boyfriend of a year and 20 day's got married last Saturday a day after his birthday!!
we made a year on august 5th of this year and on the 26 he just stoped talking to me...until this day i haven't talked to him only found out things through my friends and i found out that he got married yesterdy by the lady that does my eyebrows!! the chick is 20 and they only meet eachother for a month or two...the lady even asked him how long have you guys been together he said like a month or two...the same amount of time that we haven't been together!! i was shocked when i heard this news...i knw he had a gf like a week after he stoped talking to me, but that they lived together and got married that was just a schoker!! i feel bad..i feel empty...we always talked about marriage, but in out future he had his school to finish and i had my currer to finish as well...im guessing this girl got pregant! i just want advice...words of wisdom..to make me feel better!
2007-11-18 13:07:58 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thx u for all of ur advice is helping me a lot!! =P
2007-11-18 13:19:50 · update #1
Sweetie, believe me, it may not feel like it now, but you are better off. The hurt you feel now can not compare to the misery these two are going to cause each other. Right now you are thinking too hard. Take this time to re-discover who you are...when you find yourself thinking about this or feeling rejected go out and do something special for you....It will take some time, but I believe you will be great!
2007-11-18 13:14:43 · answer #1 · answered by lekeshia s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you had to find out this way, sweetheart. You are hurting right now because your ex got married and he never said anything to you about that. What a shame. The best thing that you can do for yourself is to give yourself time to heal. Keep yourself busy by doing the things that you enjoy such as taking a yoga class, shopping, getting a manicure and pedicure, whatever. You will find someone that is worthy of you and he is out there somewhere. Your ex is a loser because he stopped talking to you all of a sudden and he didn't even give you an explanation. He needs to man up and say something if it was an issue of you guys being together. Things will get better for you. In the meantime, don't go to the girl that does your eyebrows. Find somebody else. Healing takes time and this situation doesn't take a day to get over. Good luck and move foward and keep moving foward.
2007-11-18 13:19:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. What a shock. Feeling terrible is normal. I have no idea what the future holds for you, but I'm certain that your ex-boyfriend wasn't meant to be a part of your immediate future.
Maybe that girl did get pregnant. Maybe he just rebounded in a very strong way from breaking up with you.
I think the best thing you can do right now is to without knowing, tell yourself, "He wasn't supposed to be The One." And one thing, I tell myself alot. You just never know what lies right around the corner (that works positively and negatively.) I know you didn't forsee his marriage, but tomorrow you may meet a man who has far more qualities that you admire and who you will love far more than you ever cared for your ex-boyfriend. And you just never, ever know.
Start counting every single little blessing, that helps a lot. And if you find yourself preoccupied with this, I would just emerge myself in an activity. Do a sport, read, knit, watch movies, investigate your family tree, put together a scrapbook, draw, sew, just anything to force you to think about something else. One thing I did when my boyfriend and I broke up was knit. I knit so much I made a king-sized blanket. And every single stitch I thought about him, but it helped me find peace and remain calm. And the nice thing was, at the end of it, there was this beautiful product. So instead of doing something self-destructive while I was so sad, I did something that resulted in something beautiful. Good luck to you. Again, I'm so sorry, and even more, something wonderful may be just around the next corner for you.
2007-11-18 13:19:58 · answer #3 · answered by relandlukesmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was guilty of the same thing. I was dating a girl for approx 4 months. I was trying to set up a date for the weekend and she didn't return my calls. I met a woman that week, went out with her on the weekend. We just hit it off. First date was 28 hrs long. We just knew we were right for each other. Got married 5 weeks later. We met the ex gf at a Christmas party 2 months after that. She was in shock and showed it. But my wife and I have been married 41 yrs. Our instincts were correct.
2007-11-18 13:55:27 · answer #4 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find some one new to do your eye brows.
Know you did nothing wrong, and they probably 'DESERVE" each other, they are of a different species than most of us and he would have been unfaithful if you had married. You deserve better than he probably ever could be...
2007-11-18 13:14:55 · answer #5 · answered by Judy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DONT WORRIE IM REALIY SURE THAT HE GOT HER PREGANT AND DIDNT HAVE A CHOICE. BUT HE DID NOT DESEVER YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE MUCH BETTER THAN HIM OR HIS GIRL BECAUSE YOU HAVE ME TO GUIDE YOU THROUGH ALL THIS.
IM AN DR.LOVE
2007-11-18 13:17:09 · answer #6 · answered by halfadollar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's called a rebound honey...
he couldnt live without love because he missed you too much and thought having ANYONE was better than no one. obviously its because you're sooo amazing :s
2007-11-18 13:15:30 · answer #7 · answered by suni 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋