Will God really hate me if I am gay?

Question

I am not sure about me orientation right now, I'm still figuring it out, but I think I'm either lesbian or bisexual. I figured God would love me either way if I still followed His word and stayed a virgin until I got married (to a man or a woman).

Yesterday I was at my friends church for a youth crusade and they talked about how people who "choose" to be gay are doing an abomination against God. I felt like I was literally going to throw up. How could they be preaching such hatred?

So my question is this:will God really condemn me to hell if I am gay?

Answer 1

No He will not, you are his creation, if he created you to love other women than it is the way it was meant to be. Don't be ashamed to be who you are, there is nothing wrong with being a lesbian, gay, bisexual, or straight. It is a human loving a human and there is no sin in that.

Answer 2

No one can possible answer that question. God does not hate anyone he loves everyone even those who don’t believe in him. God may not agree with someone’s lifestyle but he still loves them. I’m sorry you had to experience that type of intolerance at this church service you went to. The fact is the bible is full of sins and thinks that are wrong in god’s eyes. However that’s just it being Gay is not the only sin, far from it. When it comes down to it a sin is a sin no matter how big or little it is.


All you can do is try and be the best Christian that you can be.

Answer 3

Ah, the answer is simple.
Not at all.

You see, people who tell you to read Leviticus 18 forget that the Old Testament is nearly outdated. The laws therein are no longer applicable, much like the laws which preach incestuous activities, and tell us to disallow divorce. In fact, there are laws in the Old Testament which state that husbands can kill anyone in their family for disobedience!

God, in the Old Testament, was angsty and emo. He was also Genocidal. In the New Testament, Jesus said that He was the way, the truth, and the light.

Jesus, oddly enough, never said anything against homosexuality. His disciples did, but even then the translation of the word homosexual is looked upon with distaste, as the translators are not one hundred percent sure if that is the correct word to use.

So, tell you what: if you are a Christian, then God will not hate you if you follow the most important commandment: Love.

I, personally, am not a Christian, so I don't worry about such things. But, never fear- Faith, to you, is important. As long as you trust that you are in the right.. then you should be okay. So, I hope this helps.

Ignore the doubters, love your neighbors: love.. as thou wilt- Eula.

Answer 4

Argument #1
Its all a matter of opinion really. I mean there are many churches and all have different opinions of what God will do or won't do. They all disagree. Being that there are so many religions and that each particular religion has so many different denominations because of petty differences it is really hard to know who has the truth or even partial truth. By this logic all religions have as much chance to being wrong as they are of being right. Being that they cannot know for certainty then it is equally valid to "choose" to be gay as it is to not "choose" to be gay because if you where following the wrong religion you will probably end up in hell anyways.

argument #2
You assume that there is a choice in the matter. IS it that people choose to be gay or that they are that way. For example, does someone born with down symdrome chooses to have that or are they born that way. Just as some people are born geniouses and have certain gifts a gay person may or may not have a choice in the matter. I don't know what the true answer is here but they say that 10% if the population is gay (give or take). So, if 10% of the population is going to be gay regardless then there is no choice. If you have no choice then how can you be wrong. Of course this assumes there is a choice or there isn't a choice. Religious folks assume that there is a choice but how would they know. They they chose not to be gay at one point in their life? I mean religious people are not exactly known for being the most scientific people here. So, how would they really know whether is a choice or not. All they know is that somebody told them is a choice but they them selves do not know for sure, unless they confronted that issue at some point in their life. I have met people that have confronted this issue and tried the church thing. Needles to say they did not lasted too long because they could not live a lie. Thats what they said.

Argument #3
All of this comes from the assumption that there is in fact a hell and that bad people do in fact go to hell. Problem is that nobody has any evidence that there is such a thing as hell. It is only a belief just as the lost city of atalntis is a belief. Maybe one day somebody will find atlantis or hell but untill that day then it is as real as Hogward in the Harry Potter series. I mean all the people that talked about the bible maybe except Jesus where all living when they talked about hell so, how could they possibly know about it if they haven't been there themselves. I mean one requirement of visiting hell is that you are dead. If they all where alive when they wrote about it then by contradiction they could have not possibly gone to hell to verify that such a place in fact does exists. There fore saying that a gay person will go to hell has as much truth as saying that a gay person will have a special VIP pass to heaven because it is all based on a belief and not facts. That is you could make up your own rules since they would be just as valids as anybody else due to the lack of evidense. If however, the evidence does come up then we are all screwed. But, until then .....

argument #4
This is really an extension of argument #1. Because there are so many religions and not one of them can prove that they are more right than the next then you could choose the church that fits your lifestyle better. I mean all churches have equal opportunity of making it to heaven so, why not choose the one where you feel more comfortable with. I mean, we do this for everything else. We do this when choosing a gym, buying a house, going on a date etc etc church is no difference. So, if you chooce a church that says that gays go to heaven then you will be saved.


Argument #5
No one trully knows what God will do and what is Gods opinion of things. If you have two persons. The first one says that all Gays go to hell and the second one says all gays go to heaven then they both have equal chance to be correct or to be wrong. In the end God decides not the person making the arguments. What I'm trying to get at is that a person who claim to know Gods will to the letter is full of it by their own definition and belief system. If it where true then have them do a simple experiments. Drive them around a city and have them point out to you which of the persons they see are going to hell and which ones are going to heaven. It is imposible to know. I mean you have to judge each person by their merits. You can't possibly know just by looking at somebody and not knowing anything about them if they are going to hell or not. Meaning that the person pointing fingers can be wrong. If it can be wrong then what is to say that they are also wrong on the gay issue.

Ponder these points and you will come to your own conclusion as to what to do.

Answer 5

If you're a Christian you should be aware that at no time and in no place did Jesus say one negative thing about being gay. The whole supposedly anti-gay thing was in the old testament ( sleep not with a man as with a woman- that works for me I'm a lesbian) I believe it was only to apply to the tribe of Levi; that is a priest could not be gay. The one with the clinker in his thinker was Saint Paul, he was homophobic, mysoginistic, and anti marriage for anyone. Practical advice for you: attend another church, check out United Church of Christ, Metropolitan Community Church , Episcopalians or Unitarians

Answer 6

If you believe in Heaven or Hell the God will only condemn you if you don't believe and trust in him. Period. Not for being gay. Ask your church friends where in the Bible it stays that homosexuality is the "ultimate sin" and therefore anyone who is gay will be automatically condemned to hell. answer is there isn't one. There is no one sin bigger than another. If they give you grief about it then its time to find a more uplifting, confirming and re-affirming church.

Answer 7

I suppose this depends on your religion. If you believe in god and the bible, then you can't deny it. However, if you do, you will probably end up like me and see through it. I seen now that the bible is comprised of hypocracy and double standards. I used to be christian but I rather not follow patriarchal bigotry.

So to answer your question. No, because there is no god. If you believe there is, just think about who and what you are and read the bible at the same time. Your feelings will lead you to my answer.

Answer 8

Just know that God loves you, and so do I. God hates the sin, and not the sinner. Baby it's no different form any other sin. Some will tell you that God's word doesn't fit in today's society. Believe me God's word is the same yesterday, today, and always. Anyone who hates you for being confused is not a christian. We hate the sin, but we must love the sinner.
Pray, and you will receive the answer. There are many sins of the flesh, such as adultery, in which people think is okay, but it's not.

God Bless!

Answer 9

No, there's no god and no hell. If there really is a god, he can't hate you for something you were born with. People don't choose their sexual orientation, they are born that way. Which means god would have had to make you gay, so how could he be mad at that.

Answer 10

Absolute nonsense, of course not. Unfortunately some so-called Christians are filled with bigotry and hatred but you can find churches which are tolerant. You could try the Society of Friends [Quakers] and the Unitarian Church. Best to avoid the evangelical and crusading sects and churches.

Answer 11

Gurl, I am in the exact same situation. I think that we will still be loved and that God knows we want to obey Him but there is a longing in us that pulls the homosexual direction. Now whether I am right or wrong I do not know, but that is my opinion.