2007-11-18 11:46:14 · 66 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
personally i dont think i could stay with a man who cheated on me..
2007-11-18 11:53:27 · update #1
How could they even touch a person in the same way they touched you!
It will always play on your mind, even if you try to accept it... like they say 'once a cheater, always a cheater'
You will never know 100% if they aren't going to do it again...
Dont give a person the chance to walk all over you, no one deserves that!
True love is when two people are in love with each other, and it will last forever... that also means if you truly loved someone you wouldnt even want to ever hurt the one you love in that way...
So why have anything less when there could be someone better out there for you :)
2007-11-18 11:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. All relationships has their ups and downs, but if he's done this before then I would suggest no. You can seek relationship counseling if you really want to make things work. Cheating is very difficult to deal with. You will always have issues with trusting him. You recognize the patterns now, and when those patterns should arise again, you will become anxious and you will feel betrayed again.
When a partner cheats the person in which was cheated on should show the cheater how bad they've hurt he/she.
2007-11-18 11:56:14 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things really,for one thing ,how long you had been 2gether.If you had only been 2gether a few weeks or months,then no way,he hasnt even had the time to get fed up with you,and if he had,well,you obviously havent kept him interested enough!!!On the other hand,if youve been 2gether for years and have lots of memories to share then you seriously have to ask yourself why he cheated ...something is quite obviously missing.Im a woman and women often give men a bad name but at the end of the day,keep him interested and excited,make it different and not predictable and dont be a wall flower,if you do all this beleive me ...he wont cheat,he wont want to,or have the energy to do so...not if your doing things right.
2007-11-18 12:08:03 · answer #3 · answered by BETTY L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people do make mistakes and learn from them.
I believe you have to consider a lot of factors. Is this a pattern with this person? Is there a history of cheating within the family? I believe these things are important when you consider forgiving someone...and staying with them.
If their attitude is, "...just get over it." or, "it's in the past now," "give me some credit for telling the truth..." they don't even understand the hurt they have caused and shouldn't expect to be forgiven...but they do...like it's theirs' for the asking.
Some people are sincere and truly should be forgiven, others...well it's best to forgive but move on. Just my opinion...wish I knew then what I know now...
2007-11-18 11:58:43 · answer #4 · answered by Choqs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are focused on the cheating, then it's not love is it?
That places a qualification, and a condition on what your partner must be and do. Nothing wrong with that, it's just not how you treat someone you love.
If you love, you forgive.
If you don't love, then dump the person and go to the online supermarket, Match.com, pay some money, and buy a product that suits your whim of the moment.
2007-11-18 11:54:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it depends on the reasons for cheeting. if your partner just got carryed away in the moment or was just really flattered by someone then no i couldn't stay with them, it would mean id never be able to trust it wouldnt happen again.
if there were much deeper reasons for straying for example if partner was an addict to something and you loved then but it all got to much and u grabbed at something more stable by having a fling then with time and talk i think a relationship could become so much more as the problems have been brought to the surface.
2007-11-18 22:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes but, I would forgive for me; so I could move on and not have a lot of bitterness. That doesn't mean I would stay with him. I would basically never trust someone again who did that to me, so I would have to end our relationship.
2007-11-18 11:50:17 · answer #7 · answered by kiddkosmic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Omg no. If they cheated on you that means he didn't care enough for you to use self restraint. Would use honestly be able to marry a guy you slept with someone else? Once a cheater..... always a cheater. You will never be able to fully trust the guy again. It will always be in theback of your mind. Is he REALLY at work.... or is he with a new lover.
2007-11-18 11:50:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've forgiven one person one time... It depends on a few variables, why, how long, with who, how it happened, and trust. I trusted my girlfriend and she really only cheated on me once... If I hadn't known her as well and knew that it wasn't like her then I would have broken up with her. So just ask the questions you need to ask and examine your feelings and make a decision based on that.
2007-11-18 11:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sean B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never forgive and i still don't...........
My EX husband cheated on me, i'm happy to say i'm no longer with him...
How can you ever forget something like that, i'll never understand people who stay with their partners after an affair.
How could u ever have sex with him again, without wondering if he were thinking of 'her'..............
2007-11-18 11:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋