im 22 my BF is 23. been dating 2 years.
i read his email today ( i know, i know) and i found a lot of subscriptions to porn??
should i be worried about this. would you care if your significant other subscribed to a lot of porn??
2007-11-18 11:16:26 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not against porn but I would be angry if he had "a lot" of subscriptions to porn sites.
2007-11-18 11:20:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You should be worried, both about his porn and you reading his e-mail. IF you want to know what kind of problem you are looking at, go to focus on the family web sight, the material on this and trust in a relationship is amazing. What is startling is the effects of porn. Check this out, fess up to looking at his e-mail, then have a serious heart to heart, in that order.
2007-11-18 18:00:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, porn you either hate it or love it. the only problems start when a couple think different about it... & dont respect each others opinion on it
I use porn, my wife uses porn. we are ok with it its just fantasy. dont read into it that you are not enough for him, its nothing to do with that.
do you like porn ?
the reason I ask is if you dont, you need to tell him asap. sometimes its used on your own as a masturbation aid, other times it can just be funny watching a cheesy film together.
my wife & i watched one & a woman dressed as a nun was in it, we joked about how much a turn on it was & why. now she thinks I have this thing about nuns, I dont but its always a laugh wenever a nun apears on tv or something like that, & for my birthday in front of all my mates she got me a nun stripper as a joke.
sometimes it can inhance a relationship, its when you take it all too seriously its not good anymore.
So discuss with him why he likes it, & tell him your views.
2007-11-18 11:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Subscribing to porn does not automatically condemn someone as a degenerate. As long as it is not paedophile stuff. If it is, dump him fast and report him to the proper authorities. Otherwise, just be careful! If he is into porn in a big way, it could mean something is not quite right.
2007-11-18 11:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The excessive watching of porn would be a problem for me. However we must figure out why he is interested in porn. Are the two of you sexual active? Maybe he is just trying to get ideas on things he can do for you when you are finally intimate. Otherwise if he is just watching and getting something extra from it then that is sick and not good. I would talk to him about it personally because there is no need for him to be watching it unless he has a valid reason.
2007-11-18 11:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something about him makes you suspicious, and that's probably why you read his email in the first place. Think about what that is, first. And yes, if he has a problem with porn, then that would be something you would have to worry about. Maybe you two have run your course, you might be out growing him.
2007-11-18 11:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Lovebug123 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's just 22years that's a time where young guys do this. I wouldn't worry about it. when i first met my husband he use to watch a lot of porn but now he has no time for that (kids, house and a crazy a** wife).lol most likely he will get over it. i have watched porn with him, it doesn't bother me. I am a very confident woman.
you didn't say whether he has to pay for it, if he does then that would bother me cuz he would be spending money we can use for ourselves. if it's FREE don't bother
2007-11-18 11:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK now before you jump to any conclusion make sure that he has subscribed and is not just receiving spam. Once you've determined that it is the case he is looking at porn ask yourself whether it hurts you if it does confront him, if not don't worry about it.
2007-11-18 11:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by witofatwit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to monitor the situation. At 23 expolring that area is common; but it you are extremely uncomfortable you should discuss it with your bf. Also, don't make it a habit to go through other's things b/c you will always find more than what you're looking for!
2007-11-18 11:25:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys I know watch porn. I would not worry too much. Hubby says that if you sign up for one porn site, your email is bombarded with ads!
2007-11-18 12:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by MK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband looks at porn once in a while and I don't mind. I know he's in my bed at night.
However, I think each marriage is differently. If it bothers you, then he should be respectful of that.
Talk to him about it, honey. Don't scream, don't yell, don't nag.
Just say, "Hon, we need to talk," and let him know exactly how you feel and exactly what you want to happen (guys need to be told, they're not great at picking up on hints).
If he doesn't respect you about this, what else will he do regardless of your feelings? This may be a good time to evaluate your relationship and decide if some counseling is in order.
2007-11-18 11:20:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋