when thy have really done something very evil to you,
2007-11-18 11:01:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
when a person is not who they really are .
2007-11-18 11:11:59 · update #1
I couldn't forgive someone that hurt you !
2007-11-18 13:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by lenzix5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how evil it was? But you sound like it was a very bad thing so if you think it is appropriate to never forgive them then don't!
Sometimes you have to make a stand for what you consider to be right and if somebody abuses that the punishment should be great!
PS - Don't let all these do-gooders tell you to 'forgive & forget', because thats a load of bollocks, if you forgive something quite bad people are just going to carry on treating you the same way.
You do what you think is RIGHT! Good Luck!
2007-11-18 19:10:10 · answer #2 · answered by Badass 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep! My brother tried to seduce my wife. Then he got caught and blamed the whole thing on her, saying she was obsessed. After 18 years he still hasn't spoken the truth, but, he can't or his wife will divorce him. As for me, he hasn't spoken a word in this entire time. Yes, I miss my brother. We had a good relationship toward this end. In fact because of this, the family has chosen to believe this ridiculous story he has concocted. So I am basically an outcast from my own family. Now after 18 years, would I accept his request for forgiveness? Yes, but only after everyone was informed! Including his wife. Forgiveness doesn't just require asking, but it needs the wrong to be exposed. I don't expect an eye for an eye, just that the story is set straight.
2007-11-18 19:13:17 · answer #3 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know that it is human nature to say f*** u a*ss hole!!! and get your satisfaction and revenge and all that.......but does it really solve anything? i have had TONS of ppl hurt me...ive been beaten in pretty much every way...physically..mentally...emotionally......but the one thing that keeps me from having a crazy psycho mental breakdown is to let it go and realize that holding on to things only makes current situations worse....i dont feel good about it and neither does anyone else.......to live in peace with everyone is extremely difficult....but it can be done....you must forgive all things regardless of how hard...and you should try to forget the offense but not necessarily the lesson learned from it.......the peace you feel within will be worth letting go of your hate and pain...it is the first step to healing and it just makes the world a better place.....quite often i must stop myself and look at the big picture of life and continually remind myself of every days potential....every morning you wake up and have a choice....will you make someones day and bring new light to the world with a simple smile? or will you continue in the beaten path of black souless ppl fighting for a decent living? one person living for peace and love WILL make a difference....each person counts and every act of forgiveness counts.....i hope this helps you to see more clearly and i wish you the best in your struggles :)
2007-11-18 19:18:58 · answer #4 · answered by I love banana peppers! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband was abusive- he beat me several times. I believe the source of his abusive nature was his dependency on drugs. The abuse started about the time he "upgraded" to heavier stuff than what he was using previously (He was a potsmoker when I met him, I thought he was quitting).
I can't live near him anymore. I had to take our child and run away. I never want to see him again. I will never forget how he treated me.
But I've forgiven him, and I hope every day he gets his act together so that, someday, when our child wants to find him- he'll be ready for the relationship.
2007-11-18 19:06:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
forgive, forget and get some gas and move on alone.
And for the answer given by delux... forgiveness is grand but there are still consequences for the actions to happen.
2007-11-18 19:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure I could. But do not confuse forgiveness with forgetfulness of consequences.
2007-11-18 19:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can u have to rise up & b a better person rather than perpetrate evil.unforgiveness causes resenment, bitterness,which has been said is a budern to the soul and makes one ill.forgive go on with yo life and enjoy!
2007-11-18 19:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by bravo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you just like the abuse? why would you forgive someone evil?
2007-11-18 19:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're cute! How could someone be evil to you! Shame on Them!
2007-11-18 19:15:56 · answer #10 · answered by remoserjr107 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋