I can't STAND my friend?

Question

if you saw my other question then you know half the reason why. She's so friggen annoying!She always puts other people down,and i can tell it's cause she's insecure. When there's hot guys around,she constantly says things like"WOW, your an idiot"after every sentence i say. And she says it LOUD on purpose. Then on her myspace she put that she loves CLASSIC ROCK when she doesnt! and her about me section is basically identical to mine.I told her that I loved classic rock about a week before that.She likes TECHNO and this singer named BECK. shes such a COPYCAT it's not even funny.evertime i talk to some she says "he's ugly" or when we look through magzines and we look the teen models such as the ones in SEVENTEEN, she points and says things like "EW look at that fat B****, how is SHEa model?"She's so immature! i guess i grew up and she didn't? but anyways, i cant and wont talk to her cause i tried and cause of that we didnt talk all summer. Is there anything else i could do?

Answer 1

OMG i have the same problem maybe we should get together with our friends and do and intervention because pretty soon ill be strangling her!!!

Answer 2

She obviously views life from a totally different perspective than you.

I suggest writing her a long letter explaining how much you care about her but that her behavior has made it impossible for you to enjoy being around her any longer. Tell her you'd love to be friends still but you can't handle certain things she does. Be very specific and list them out. Make sure to praise her for the good things she is and does.

She will be hurt and offended. But, you will have made every effort to make the friendship work. Maybe she will surprise you and change just because she loves you so much. If not, you will not have to worry that you didn't give her a chance or let her know that her behavior is unacceptable in a fair way to give her the opportunity to change so that you could continue to be her friend and spend time together.

Clearly you feel bad about this or you wouldn't be writing this question! Let her know how much you miss her and that you really want to be able to be friends again.

Answer 3

Obviously, she is very insecure and jealous of you. So I would just say, the next time she calles someone in a magazine fat ugly etc... you should say "well I think she's really pritty" so if she is into copying you so much, maybe she will get it. The other stuff music, etc, as annoying as it is, be flattered, this girl looks up to you, she must think you are really something if she is trying so hard to be like you. she will grow out of that, she just doesn't know who she is yet. As for the boy thing, most guys will see how rediculous she sounds when she's talling you you your an idiot. Thy can think for themselves. maybe just tell her to stop calling you an idiot. She's your friend and friends tend to do some things aike when they hang out. Lighten up a bit, she is obviously very insecure and she amires you and your personal taste. She thinks this will make others see her as she sees you, and she must see you in a very good way if she wants to be like you.

Answer 4

Well, the way you describe her she certainly sounds annoying, but here's the question: Why do you bother considering her a friend if she bugs you so much? I mean, the part about the music she says she likes (but according to you, actually doesn't)....what do you care? If she's such a pain, why not just cease to hang around her and be done with it?

Answer 5

It sounds as though your friend has issues. She is trying to figure out who she is, but apparently has slipped into a negative slot in the meantime.

People grow, people change and some never mature. It takes some years and years, even well into adulthood to finally let go of childhood and adolescent issues.

Not worth spending a big portion of your life on. Leave her behind, move along and surround yourself with more positive people. You'll be glad you did.

Answer 6

Sabrina,

Ask yourself this: Why are you still her friend if she's such a **** to be around?

A TRUE friend is someone who can be truthful to you, but knows how to be nice about it at the same time, and she obviously isn't either! Maybe it's time to clean your closet of friends out . . .

As for not talking to her, just try to be polite to her, but don't go out of your way for her and she should get the hint soon enough.

HTH

e_f
:o)

Answer 7

Maybe she tries to emulate, or copy the things you do because she admires you. But ultimately, it sounds as though she isn't the only one who puts others down. And, if you haven't talked all summer, what else do you want of her? What do you want to do? Do you want the relationship to continue? Are you trying to control her behaviors with your silence? It may be that the two of you need to have open communication... tell her how you really feel, and let her do the same!!!

Answer 8

When she says stuff in front of people you can tell her that you don't appreciate it & walk off. Eventually you guys will either work it out or become mortal enemies with mostly her causing all of the drama & you just reacting. You can try to find ways to just drift off, it happens all of the time. Try finding ways to be busy all of the time when she wants to hang out with you. Hopefully after a while she'll get the message. Good luck!

Answer 9

I had this problem to! lucky for me, she failed a grade again so I only see her in the hall ways now. And I think my "friend" was a lot worse than yours because she used to actually call ME fat (and I'm about 40 lbs lighter than her lol).

She used to like hip-hop and then she found out I like punk and so she became gothic.

And about a couple weeks I told her who I liked because I thought she was my friend and she went and told everyone. even a teacher. "Mrs. Beth, Lauren loves ______ and she needs help not looking so ugly to get his attention" (That's probably not what she said but I can see her saying that).


Well anyway just tell her you don't want to be friends with her and when she follows you around, just reject her in public and see how she likes it.

Answer 10

Okay it sounds like she is trying to make herself feel better and what it s doing is hurting you. You should pray for her, and tell her that she is beautiful and that she's not those things she says about the models because she is just looking at them and saying what she thinks she is and she really wants some attention but if she acts like this she's going to get bad attention so just make her feel good take her shopping and have her pick out an outfit and you pick one out and trade. See what she says.

Answer 11

well i am srry but i think u 2 should not b friends anymore because like u said u have tryed to talk to her and everything u could do to make her stop. if she is copycatin u then that means that she thinks of u as someone to look up to and if the guys always come and talk to u and all that then that is prob another reson. but really i would not want a friend who copycats me on everything.