Is it a sin if you're married?
2007-11-18 10:25:01 · 15 answers · asked by Jonesy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very personal question and the answer will be different for just about every women.
There is great debate about wether it's a sin or not after marriage. I think it's one of those things that a person should pray on and talk about with the spouse and decide from there.
Some men find sex in marriage to be awakward for many reasons. Maybe he gets up early for work and he doesn't feel good about waking his wife just to fill his own needs. Or he works long hours and honestly can't find time to give his wife what he feels she deserves in bed. Maybe he is not capable of getting her to climax and feels bad. This and many other things can lead a man to masterbate without ill intent. The problem with it can be that although he feels that he is being "polite" the wife can feel neglected. She might feel he is thinking of other women or other "naughty" thoughts that don't inclued her. She is hurt and feels ignored and often the hubby who meant no harm has no clue that this has happened.
It really is best to have much open conversation within marriage to avoid these issues. Many women might not be so put off by an occasional "session in the shower" if they were getting the chance to service their man first. It's good to know you are always desired but not required.
2007-11-18 10:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Blue7 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I used to pride myself on being very informed and in the current about every issue. I've found that I've backed off quite a bit more and feel a more happy person because of it. New York Times Week in Review tells me what I need to know. I take a daily glance at headlines, maybe skim the article but find that nothing really changes when you get down to it. Also, due to the area I live in at this time I am unable to watch television and the pricing is outrageous for cable. However, I have a feeling if I was able to watch it then I'd at least hear what the major stories are. Other than that, it's paper and online
2016-05-24 02:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by kaitlyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not a sin. I think some women take issue with it because they think it means that somehow they are not satisfying their significant other and they think there is some criticism implied. Which is not the case. This is just something that guys do that does not reflect at all on the quality of their relationship with their wifes.
2007-11-18 10:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This really depends. If it bothers your significant other, you need to ask her why. There could be so many answers - she feels inadequate (not pleasing you enough), shut out (you don't want to share this with her), etc. Once you know why, then it's up to you to look at your behavior. If you know it's hurting her but you can't stop, you may have a sexual addiction.
My first husband was a sex addict - he would go for months without touching me, but would masturbate constantly. I felt so rejected and unloved that I was profoundly depressed. He couldn't / wouldn't change, and didn't address my concerns or needs.
It's important to ask the question to the person who really matters - your significant other - and then address the answer inside yourself.
Is it a sin? Only if you believe the Catholic interpretation of the story of Onan, who was punished by God for refusing to impregnate his dead brother's wife.
2007-11-18 10:45:32 · answer #4 · answered by soliver 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not a sin, and for the scripture that was quoted in the previous post, it mentions nothing about sex, perversion, or masturbation. Oddly enough masturbation is not mentioned anywhere in the Bible. With all the rape, murder, and everything else going on in the world, I highly doubt that the Lord would send you to hell for masturbating.
2007-11-18 10:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by Odie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's basic insecurity. Some women (not all mind you) think that they should be everything sexually for a man. They can't wrap their mind around the fact that he has a personal relationship with his penis and has known it longer than them. They also can't stand the fact that he might have a fantasy without them or look at another naked woman while they do this. It's no sin. Wack all ya want. :)
2007-11-18 10:40:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it isn't a sin. If my husband was doing it to the exclusion of "doing" me then I would have HUGE issues with it. If I'm satisfied, then there is nothing wrong with it at all.
2007-11-18 10:29:04 · answer #7 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is a sin. You are not suppose to masturbate because that is why gave you a husband or a wife. This is a form of sexual perversion. Let me back it up with scripture 1Corinthians 3:16-17.
2007-11-18 10:32:08 · answer #8 · answered by b n real 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
I doubt if it is a sin, in and of itself: I think it is the THOUGHTS that go with it that may be the sin.
As to your first question, because they feel the man is "cheating" on them!
2007-11-18 10:30:50 · answer #9 · answered by Nothingusefullearnedinschool 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't care less. He tells me about it. I don't particulary get turned on or anything, but at least he'll be satisfied and I can get a break!
2007-11-18 13:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋