Would it bother u?

Question

Yesterday me and my partner were mowing our front lawn and we had our 8 month old out with us, my partners parents and 2 sisters live across the street, so his little sis who is 13 came over and was playing with our daughter. Then when i turned around they were gone. The 13 yr old h ad taken my daughter across the street to her house. Without saying anything or even asking if it was ok. I then complained to my partner. He went across the street to get something from his dad and said NICELY to his lil sister to bring the baby back home. She did after 2 mins. Then a little later she went to do i t again when my partners mum was there but my partner stopped her and said leave the baby here while u go. So she did and no one said a word. Then this morning my parnter gets a message from his mum telling him to call her cos she need to talk to him. When he did she wanted to know if he had a problem with his sister holding the baby and why he didnt want her taking her anywhere? would it annoy u

Im the kinda mum that doesnt really let m baby out of my sight, i mean i dont just leave her with anyone or even my parents just so i can go out. She is always with me all day but in his family its not unusual for someone to leave their babies and kids with whoever says they will have them

Answer 1

dose she know that it could have caused you to call the cops and say your baby was kidnapped ? that would have caused alot of trouble in it self. first of all she has no right doing that. second of all she should have asked you if she could. third of all your the babies mother and you should have know about it. she could have caused alot of problems for everyone. if you would have called the cops to file a missing persons report then the cops could have called cps. and they could have brought you up of neglect charges for not watching your baby. and then how she would have felt if all that would have happened ? probley like crap. and yes it would have annoyed me

Answer 2

Yes, that would bother me. If nothing else because she didn't say anything to you or ask your permission! I'd have your partner tell his mother you don't have a problem with her holding the baby (if that is the case) but you don't want her taking her anywhere without asking permission first. And remind his mother that your baby is only 8 months old and you're not totally comfortable with a 13 year old taking her places (if that is the case). Good luck!

Answer 3

are u a first time mother? i think all first time moms are alot more worried with leaving there child with some else incase something is wrong.
i think that would bother me alot especailly cause she didnt ask if it were okay because anything could of gone wrong if u know what i mean even tho she is ur partners little sister she does not have the right of just taking ur daughter from u .
like my self i think i would consider myslef to be a worring mum because i dont jsut let anyone take my son i only let my mum and gran without me being there everyone else i need to watch them like a hawk or have some-one watch over them
but this is my opinion

Answer 4

No one has the right to take or hold your baby without your permission. You were right to be upset, and don't let them try to convince you otherwise.
Still, please let this be a lesson to you that you can't turn your back on your baby even for a minute, especially when you're outside. You said you're the type who never takes your eyes off your baby, which is good. But all it takes is one time for a minute. It seems like the famous last words of parents of abducted children always seem to be, "But I just turned around for a minute..." If your partner's sister could take the baby that quickly without you noticing, a stranger could have done it just as easily. The only difference is, you never would have seen your baby again.

Answer 5

i too am a first time mom and i think my son has been away from me about an hour total since i brought him home. you were not wrong in stopping her from taking your baby. and your guy's mom should have chosen a better way to discuss this with him. there is no reason the girl shouldn't be able to play with the baby, however, she should NOT be allowed to just take the baby with her. I don't blame you guys one bit for stopping her and remember this, YOU went through the difficulty of pregnancy and birth and YOU have been raising this baby. not anyone else and you have custody and nobody else has the right to make you do anything you dont wanna do or you dont think is right with your child.

Answer 6

tell the mother no problem at all, but you cannot take a child without asking, it is illegal, it is kidnapping, rude, and what if you did not see her cross the street , you turn around and the baby is gone, next time call the police, and when they find the baby across the street say how was i to know she was there

Answer 7

No one has the right to walk off with your baby without asking first...the girl is young so you can forgive her....but she must understand that she can not do this. Her Mother should know better too.

Only you or your husband can do this and even then you probably always tell each other where you are going....you are right...no ifs and no buts. EDIT...being a first time MOm is nothing to do with it....all Moms worth two cents would feel the same whether they have one or one hundred kids.

Answer 8

Your baby is still and young and should be with you when ever possible. Besides your her mother. I had a hard time letting my daughter go to her Grandmother's house, when I had to leave her with some one. His family also had a difficult time understanding that. Even though it's family you can't trust anyone like you trust yourself when it comes to your baby. Your in the right and shouldn't feel bad about wanting her with you.

Answer 9

Ya better believe it would bother me. I wouldn't be as calm as you was lol. They both could've got hit.