Should I get an abortion because I feel "too young" to have a child?

Question

Okay I am 24 my baby is scheduled to be due July 3 2008. I will be almost 25 by then (my b-day is July 31st). The thing is, I feel too young to be a mother. There are so many things I still want to do and see like travel to Europe, Mexico, etc. I live with my boyfriend and we've been together for 2 years now, but have not made any plans of marriage yet or anything. Ideally we both would like to have children at around age 32. I know lots of women have children by my age, but I feel for me it's too young. I feel like my youth will be stolen away from me and I want to hang onto my youth as long as possible. I know some of you will say "well you should've not had sex" but I mistakenly thought I was in the clear bc my period had literally just ended and so though I was aware of the risk of pregnancy of having unprotected sex with my boyfriend this ONE TIME by the way (as other times I was either on the shot or on the pill and when I quit that he wore condoms), i thought the risk was LOW.

I feel like once you have a kid your youth is pretty much gone. I keep thinking how when I am going to be just 27 my kid will already be 2 years old.

Answer 1

While I respect your right to feel this way, I must admit that there are several other options here for your unborn child. You can easily put the child up for adoption or decide that putting yourself last and doing what is in the best interest for your child to be is the right thing for you. It is my personal belief, and this is NOT to pass judgment, that abortion should not be used for people who just want more out of life before a child comes into the world.

I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first child, granted that is young, I made a choice to do what was in the best interest of my child. My son is now going on 7 years old, and I am pregnant with my second child. There were many things that I went without, I will not try to sugar coat it, but the ends by FAR justified the means when I watched that child grow into the wonderful boy he is today. We make decisions in life every day that affect us in our every day lives. It helps mold and shape us into who we will continue to grow to be. Please do look at all of your alternatives before deciding to get an abortion, you could be missing out on so very many priceless moments that will be lost forever. Best of luck!

Answer 2

consider this, nowadays girls are pregnant at 13! now that is taking away their youth and they still have their kid. you and your bf are the only people that can decide what to do. i personally would not abort if i was to get pregnant right now (im 19) even though i know my life will completely change. you are 24 and have had a chance to live, maybe not as much as you want to, but you have. now having your child will change your life and it may be for the best, make you mature and have more responsibilities, you will be maturing with your child and you will not be having hot flashes while your kid is a teen and having to deal with both. if this is something you do not want to deal with you just dont want to have a child right now then you can always give it up for adoption, there are so many families that can't have children and would love the opportunity to have yours. i dont know how you would feel but if i was ever to have an abortion i would think about it all the time, i would wonder what would have been of myself, how old my child would be. just talk it over with your bf and then decide what is best for both, i think you should not abort and just give it up for adoption, i mean hold your child in your arms and see if you feel you can take that responsibility, if you can't or dont want to then give it to someone who will. abortion does have many risks, infections , etc etc etc

Answer 3

You are absolutely correct. There is NO reason those children should be starving to death. NONE! And, we have enough to feed those children AND the aborted babies, if we really tried. The problem lies with those governments, WAYF, they are the ones starving those children. Most aid sent gets confiscated for the military. So to blame pro-lifers for this is a bit of a stretch I would say. Need I remind you Christian charities send the most help? Also, those parents aren't intentionally killing those children, while abortion is an intentional act. Although we don't see eye to eye on this issue, this little rant was pretty good, I hope some people were listening.

Answer 4

wow... how easily people are to judge you!!!
I was in your situation at your exact same age and I had an abortion...I am not saying that it was the right thing to do...and there is not a day that goes by where I don't think about it.....
the thing is.... most of the people on here have used contraception... which prevents conception...am I right????
So where do you draw the line between freedom to live or not????
Do what is right for you...and I am not saying that lightly. Should you choose to have this baby then you will learn to live and love that child... If you choose not to, then you will continue to live and wonder about how that child will have grown to be....
Either way... you will always ponder about it.
My honest advice is to listen to non judge mental people around you.... hear their stories...then decide for yourself.
Best of luck...

Answer 5

Ok you're 24, goin on 25, yes it is kinda young but u cannot worry about that now,and having a child does not take away your youth, it tells u that u have to start being more responsible yes but it does not take away your youth,you're as young as u want to feel. U cannot be thinking of yourself alone right now , because that would be very selfish of u, u have to think about your child and your boyfriend, abortion would be like murder of a baby and i strongly doubt that u agree with that, and if u give it up 4 adoption, u might not b sure about the ppl you're giving it up to , they may appear nice , but they can b totally different from who u think they r.My advice would be to keep the child, and forget about everything else, cause when that child is born, it would b like a new beginning, and I'm sure you'll be a great mother, that child would bring more joy to u than any trips u have planned to take, but a good idea would b to take the trips when the child gets a little older so the three of you all could see the beauties of different places and have wonderful memories. Live for today and the fact is that today u r pregnant and that will change your entire life, have no doubts about the child and bless him/her with all the love that u can give.
U might not take my advice but whatever u do, do it with the child's future in mind and not only about yourself. I hope u make the right decision and not one that you would regret.
Take care:)
I'm sure you'll, b a great mom
GOOD LUCK

Answer 6

Well, your not very far along. A chemical abortion could still be preformed. It isn't as invasive as a surgical abortion.

Just because your knocked up doesn't mean you have to keep the baby. You could give it up for adoption. There are TONS of infertile couples out there who would LOVE the opportunity to be a parent. You could deliver Christmas in July and make someone's wishes come true!

Think before you act. Whatever you decide will impact your life. Be sure you chose a path that you can live with. Best of luck.

Answer 7

Well, if you feel your not ready to be a mom, then get an abortion. You can give the child up for adoption, but there are consequences from that too (like increase in the number of children wating to be adopted) and the emotional suffering you may experience (like spending ever night wondering about that child that you brought into this world)

Every action has its consquence, so go with the action with the consequence that you can face (easily) If you decide to get an abortion, do it right now cuz its still early.

Answer 8

You know that you made a "mistake" by what has occurred, but only you can answer this. If you feel that you cannot cope with having a child at the age you are then it maybe selfish to the child to bring it into this world. Others really shouldn't be telling you no as its not themselves that are going through this dilemma even if they are against abortion. I'm not 100% for it but I really believe that you should be the one to decide weather you are ready to be a parent.
Good luck and all the best for what you decide to do.
xxx

Answer 9

Oh boy, I know you'll get a lot of answers on this one, but if I can speak from experience... Please have the baby. I "lost" a baby when I was young, now that I have two kids I look at their faces and feel so, sooo sad at what I lost! The guilt really hurts my heart late at night when I'm alone with myself. I didn't think I was the "Mom" type. I didn't want to feel tied down either, but please believe me, once you have your baby, your entire World will be Rocked for the better! You will not know what hit you! It'll be the most wonderful thing in the whole world! Life changing yes, BUT only in a great way! It will only enhance your life, not detract from it! I promise! You are being Blessed by a treasure right now, don't toss it away!

Answer 10

One of my friends growing up was adopted. Her birth mother was raped and considered aborting her baby (my friend) but chose adoption. Look into giving up your baby for adoption. There are a lot of couples out there that want to have children but can't and want to adopt. They try to make adoption as easy as possible for the mother. I also worked with a young woman who got pregnant from a one night stand, and yes, the one time she didn't use a form or birth control. She gave up her baby for adoption.