why is my life like this??

Question

ok soo im 12 and you'd think i would be the happest girl in the world i have alot of friends and best friends, i have a bf,i have a mom and dad, i have everything.... then why am i soo not happy???? yea i have everything now but the last four years has beeen like crazy.... my dad got evicted from his house when i was eight... then b4 we moved into our new apartment it burnt down... then we ended up for the next year living in motels and hotels... then my grandma had a heart attack and my dad and brother had to leave me in nj and go to flordia to go help her.... i switched schools like crazy... i went to public then private for one year than i hated it so i went back to public which is where i am now.... right now i feel like my life is cursed and i dont want it to get worse yea it's good right now but how long do i know it will be good?????????? i am sometimes afraid to live...but i dont want to die... help?!?!?!?!!?!?!?

Answer 1

My Dear Young Lady,
You are not alone! There are too many children out there that come from broken homes,dysfunctional families, even the perfect home and all feel the way you do, especially at this time in your life, were you go through many changes, emotional and physical. So, it is not so uncommon for someone to feel the way you do. I do admit that you have gone through a lot in your short period of life, but, in each situation, it has made you a stronger, better person., otherwise, you wouldn't be around to have written this cry for help. You are stronger now because one day you will be able to help someone overcome the same feelings you are having now because you have been there and you know how it person feels.
There are many obstacles throughout life, big and small, but each one we past makes us stronger and better person ready for for the next one.
You,my dear, are caught in awkward time in your life. A time between childhood and adulthood. You will be fine, even if it doesn't seem like it now.
PUT YOUR HEAD & SMILE!

YOU ARE NEVER ALONE!
LOOK WITH-IN!

Answer 2

Maybe you should talk to your parents about this feeling.
You are only 12 life may seem like its falling down all around you and your cant get anything stable going on for yourself. But I have been where you have been at. When I was younger we lost our house, we had no place to stay, we had no heat, no food, no shelter and this lasted from when I was about 10 until I was about 13. And things were always kinda tough but you know what im now in my twenties and Im grateful for everything we went through it taught me alot and I learned how to be smart about things, cope and not let worlds struggles get me down because there was always a way to keep going. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger.
Cheer up and don't be afraid to live life. I have tons of friends I had to leave behind, switched school every 6 months to a year and now that i look back. It wasn't all that bad. I am where I am now because of it all and im grateful.

Answer 3

HI! First, close your eyes and take a deep breath. Seriously. I read your story and I am so impressed. You sound like a very strong person. You have done an amazing job handling the challenges in your life. You will do very well as an adult.
I don't want to give advice too casually. I have great respect for how delicate your situation may be. When and if you are ready, there is a theory that involves positive thinking and as much of a skeptic as I am...it seriously has worked! Freaked me out, but it worked. It doesn't make every challenge go away in life, but it can greatly improve the happiness in your own. But that's only if a person is "ready" to hear it...and who knows when that is for someone else.
I'm no pyschotherapist, minister, teacher or anything like that. Just another person on this earth who has struggled with similar issues.
If you want to check it out it is called "The Secret". It talks about the "Laws of Attraction". Basically that by focusing postivie thinking...in time, it will be. Patience and peace are very important and unfortunately our society does not encourage these practices.
I have shared this DVD with my 12 year old who is also very lucky to have family and friends but still has challenges, and she said that it made her think differently about her ability to impact her life positively (my words, her thoughts!)
Please do one thing more, do not shut out your parents. They sound great! They have been through much too and would want to be there for you. Sometimes us adults get caught up in our "physical" world of all of the endless tasks that we have to do, but we remember going through teen years when the world was so "emotional". When everything felt 10 times more intense than it does now. Try not to block them out. Use their experiences as a resource. It doesn't have to be some intense sit down convo. Just casually ask them what it was like when they were 12. What was going on? How did they feel? Sometimes we need to be reminded that we were young too!
I do hope that whatever means you use to overcome your feelings of sadness, that you find it soon. Life and all things in it want you to be happy! There is joy in everything. You can find it!!!!!!!!

Answer 4

This all sounds very normal to me. Good stuff mixed up with bad stuff is just the way life is.

Focus on the good things, deal with the bad things and then let them go. If there are bad things you can't change or affect, stop thinking about them because that will only make you miserable. Focus on the good things, conciously, and you will feel better. Sounds like you actually have it pretty good, try comparing your life to that of people your age in other countries to put things into perspective.

Being happy isn't about being lucky or the actual events in your life (although good events can add to happiness) - it's about attitude. And the really good part is that you get to CHOOSE to have a good attitude. It isn't easy all the time to have a good attitude and focus on good things, sometimes you have to work on it.

Try this for a week, I promise you will notice results and want to keep at it.

Best wishes!

Answer 5

Relax and enjoy the good times. Life can get pretty messed up at times. It is not easy at any age never mind your age.
Yes there is always the risk things turn upside down again. That is why now is the time to live in the moment and enjoy. Don't waste your time worrying how long it will last. Keep a journal and write down your fears. That sometimes helps. Write down the good times too so you can go back and read them when things are not as bright.
Hugs and lots of good karma

Answer 6

Wow i feel srry for you (I really do). It seems like you have really had some hard times and we can only wish you the best and sooner or later everything will work out and it seems like you have already had a good look at the real world at only 12 years old. But thats life it has ups and downs and it is sometimes not always fair.

Answer 7

There are alot of good things in life. Nothing is worth dying for. Sounds like you have just had some bad luck. Things will get better, it takes time. You need to focus on the good in your life. It is a thing called "life" that we all go through. It just makes you a stronger person.
Take a time out, and try to do something fun for yourself.
I would also talk to your school counselor about your feelings. They are there to help you and you really need someone to bounce things off of. Hang in there kiddo!

Answer 8

Stay strong, girl. No one said life was going to be easy. :) -hugs- Just stay positive and confident in yourself. It's going to be a long journey, filled with both good and bad. I'm also sorry about your grandmother, schools and everything. It should be hard on you, considering you're only 12. But like I said, stay strong and don't let all the bad things in life ruin you...stay focused on the blessings you have. At this time in your life, it might be harder for you to count your blessings. But just look up at the starry night sky and remember that you are special and God is watching over us, all of us, especially you. I wish you luck on the road of life.
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Cookie M

Answer 9

Hun, sometimes bad stuff happens just because. You can't understand it because there's no real reason to it...it just is. Life is like that. Sometimes really bad things happen, sometimes really great things happen. The universe doesn't hate you and you're not cursed.

Its hard sometimes but you deal. You're young and it really worries me that you're so jaded already. It seems that though bad stuff has happened, your parents have found ways to take care of it all. It may not be the most amazin solution right now and hard to go through but they're taking care of you. Have faith they will do what needs to be done to give you a stable life.

Answer 10

It is ok to feel unhappy. You have been through a lot for a girl your age. You need to focus on how things are better now than they were. Sometimes bad things happen, but because of them you will appreciate what you have more than someone who has not endured your life experience. You will be a stronger and more adaptable person. All in all you will probably find yourself a happier individual in life.