my girlfreind and i just had a beautifull baby boy 2 months ago, and i think she is starting to suffer from post pardem depression, she has had appointments with therapists but she keeps canceling, how can i help her without hurting her, its a little frustrating and its almost to the point to where its bringing me down. Im a patient person who offers nothing but support but she dosent seem care what i think.
2007-11-18 01:40:05 · 10 answers · asked by nate r 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
this type of depression is very common. She has hormones that are going crazy right now, the reality of having a baby is setting in and it's a lot for the both of you.
She does care what you think but when you're depressed you just want to hide under a rock. You sound like you're doing all the right things. Hang in there!
Is there any way you can take her to an appointment? Make an appointment for her and take her that way she can't cancel it.
2007-11-18 01:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by jstchel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nate,
Former PPD mother here,
Call the OBGYN, and make an Appointment, and HE will prescribe the ZOLOFT for her,
The only thing is that she may decide to stop nursing,
as their is no documentation on the side effects it could have on the baby,
Remember, this is VERY common,
and only the doctor can diagnos PPD, or if its Baby blues,
also very common,
basically you drive her there and she has to talk honestly with the doctor, they make her take a 5 question test and then write up the script,
NO biggie,
But your responsible for making sure she gets there,
Don't tell her about it, just make the appt, get her in the car, drive her there and then thats it,
Her hormones are out of control, Raiseing and falling constantly
I often think that Breast feeding alone can make matters worse, because of the homone triggers,
Do me a favor, just call and handle this,
she isn't capable obviously,
There are many factors that can make her depressed, like feeling like her whole life is OVER, Not knowing if your gonna marry her, What the future holds, Money MONEY MONEY,
and EXternal forces such as family, and work
So seeing as how your so supportive,
I know your gonna, call the doctor and schedule the appt,
YOU could even just drive there and wait to be seen,
Bring her and the baby, and yourself, and sit there and wait,
its the ONLY option you have,
Please take care of your GF , and help her out,
Meg
2007-11-18 01:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had PPD after our son was born.
I was breastfeeding and I took Prozac as well as did therapy. Meds alone are not enough- the combination of the meds and the therapy is what really helped to turn it around.
Make the appt. with her. GO with her. Tell the therapist you would like to be there- and bring a list of questions. As well, she may be feeling awful about herself and embarrassed- I was. I should have been happy to have a baby and I was crying all the time, not able to take care of the basic things. It was horrible.
Good luck to you and I am keeping you guys in my prayers!
2007-11-18 02:11:53 · answer #3 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ok as others said make her an appointment this could go two ways she may accept the doctors help and get better or she may resent you dragging her there. You are going to have to make a deicison. I had post natal depression and my husband at the time was in the same situation as you he couldnt win for trying. I think once she has the help medication and counselling she will be fine but it wont happen over night.
2007-11-18 02:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by sexiebum 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If shes doesnt want help there is not much you can do at this point. But I have been in her shoes. You dont care about yourself, sometimes your baby, much less you trying to be a good friend.
However, she will CRASH one day and need you there. I found myself in the front yard begging God to give Brayden another mother. This was a wake up call for me. I called my friend from Arizona who I kept telling I was ok and she was there in a few days. (I live in Texas)
Please keep offering her help and stay with her. She will need you.
Bless you for being such a good friend thus far.
Good luck
2007-11-18 02:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she does have depression she probably does care what you think but pro bally feels "numb" in a way, kinda emotionless. Why dont you make her an appointment, and drive her yourself? Hang in there, once she gets treatment she will be fine.
2007-11-18 01:45:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I like the one before make her and appt and take her. Don't tell her just say lets go for a ride. If that does not work call your family Dr or even the theripist and see what they say.
2007-11-18 01:49:29 · answer #7 · answered by JustAsk'n 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She can't help it. It's the disease. Try and talk to her. Explain that you know she doesn't feel good and you want her to feel better. She might feel like she's a failure because she needs help. Let her know it's ok and you don't want her to go through it alone. Talking to her midwife is a good start, but she probably needs a counselor that has experience with PPD.
2007-11-18 02:05:46 · answer #8 · answered by Kat H 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i suffered from this myself. 3 times. her regular ob can help with this too. go with her to her next appt and talk to the doc yourself. if not the ob, do the same with the psychiatrist she chooses.
2007-11-18 01:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can also try getting her a book on it if she won't go to the appointments.
I heard great things about Brooke Sheilds book "Down Came the Rain.
http://www.amazon.com/Down-Came-Rain-Postpartum-Depression/dp/1401301894
2007-11-18 01:56:43 · answer #10 · answered by Mommafig 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋