If a man is married, And after eight years with his wife, She tell's him that she doesn't want to have sex .

Question

Should he go out and find a new partner?
Or should he stay in a none sex marriage with his wife?

Answer 1

Don't cheat...oh and don't divorce. If you have kids stay in that relationship, and talk it out.

Answer 2

Obviously there is a serious problem in this relationship.

His first obligation is to his relationship with his wife and getting to the root of the problem - perhaps with the help of a counsellor. If this doesn't resolve the issue, and the situation looks like it may be permanent, the man has to take a deep look at what his own abilities and needs are.

Regardless of his feelings of love and commitment to his wife he needs to take a very honest and realistic look at his own needs and feelings. Is he able to be happy and satisfied in this type of relationship? Can he happily live with a significant other where there is no sexual intimacy? Can he be sure that he will not end up resenting his wife in the future?

He should not, at any time, feel guilty for saying no. You have to be true to yourself and honourable with others.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Try to get some counseling. Maybe she already has another lover and doesn't need any more sex from you. (joking I hope)

If she doesn't want to work on the problem I would certainly move on and tell her that this is just not acceptable. And I would assume you do not want to start hunting sex outside the marriage. It's not mentally healthy and definitely not physically healthy Scary even in this day.

You are better finding a partner who is more compatible,Life is too short to spend time miserable.

Answer 4

Usually that's a sign of a much bigger problem in the relationship. Don't just go out and find a substitute. That's not fair to you or the other person. You can either get some counseling to help you work it out or leave the marriage. Cheating is never an answer. It's just pouring fuel on a fire.

Answer 5

There should be good reason(s) why the wife says she doesn't want sex. Has she undergone some medical operation that has affected her sexual wants? Or does she suspect her husband of being unfaithful? Whatever the reason, the husband should talk the matter over with the wife. Cheating, however, should never be an option.

Answer 6

Listen.

I know people mean well with all this "talk to her" and "get counseling" horsesh*t. But it doesn't work. You can talk to her and listen to her and have someone else talk to her until you are all blue in the face. Nothing will change. You can get more romantic, less romantic, music, flowers, dates, never bring it up again, always bring it up, write notes, don't write notes, blah blah blah. None of it it works.

These women never liked sex. It has nothing to do with how good of a lover you are. That's bullsh*t. She *acted* like she enjoyed sex to get you - now that she has you, she can stop acting.

And brother when they are done with sex they are done with sex.

It's up to you to decide if it's a deal-breaker for you. Legally I think it is. I've gone 12 years with no sex whatsoever, and I am goddamned sick and tired of waiting to see a change.

And whatever you do, don't let the thumbs-down candy-a$s whining baby bible thumping naysayers here tell you to stick it out no matter what. Believe me if it was happening to them somehow magic sky-man jebus would be telling them to leave. In many ways I wish I had those12 years back, to spend with a woman who likes sex and wants me in her life and in her bed.

Answer 7

he should try to find out why she doesn't want to have sex anymore. perhaps it's because she has to do all the chores around the house and you're not helping out enough - besides going to work that is.
there is probably a reason for this... don't let this destroy your marriage without even attempting to fix this!! my guess is that - if you can find the reason - you can sort things out...

by the way: DO NOT - i repeat, do NOT - threaten her with a divorce if she refuses to "put out". this would make her feel as if you only want to be with her for sex. and i'm assuming that's wrong, right? this is most definitely the part of your marriage where "for better and for worse" comes in... try to talk about it and sort things out.

Answer 8

The first thing is to find out why....usually it is because one of the partners no longer loves the other and wants the other to do the dirty work of starting a divorce. No sex to me is a deal breaker and a chicken sh1t way of getting out of a marriage.

Answer 9

D I V O R C E
If she is saying she will not have sex, she is not commited to the relationship. Spouses have responsibilities to one another. Meeting each others needs is a top priority. I f she chooses not to meet her husbands needs, then she is not a good wife to begin with and there is no real marriage

Answer 10

Firstly, understand the reason from his wife why she doesn't want to have sex. Problems can be spoken out and discuss calmly. I believe that both of them are still loving each others as eight years of marriage is not easy to maintain. If you have children, they should be thought of as a reason to be together too. I know its hard not to have sex, but if he truly love her from his heart i believe problems can be solved easily. ( If you know what i mean)

Answer 11

Your wife needs to see a doctor! It is more to it then her not wanting sex. Or see a marriage counselor?
Some women go through a depression. Their is something bothering her. If you love her try and stick with her to find out what is wrong!