Children of Divorce, help answer, your doin society a favour?

Question

1. How old were you when your parents got divorced?
2. If you were too young to remember. Did you feel any difference between yourself and others from a non-divorce home of two parents?
3. How do you feel growing up in a broken home has affected you academically?
4. Do you feel handicapped by the divorce?
5. Do you feel you have to do better than everyone else just to stay on par?
6. Are you an over achiever or an under achiever? Do you attribute this to the divorce?
7. Was it easy for you to make friends? If no; do you attribute this to divorce or the situations that arised out of divorce.
8. Did you take the role of the missing parent in your family?
9. In what way do you feel divorce has impacted your life as a grown-up, negatively or positively
10. How many other children did you know in your school or your area that were growing up in single-parent families because of divorce?
11. Do you have any objections toward marriage?
12. If you don’t, do you believe you will be married more than once in your lifetime?
13. What is the one thing that sticks out most about your childhood?
14. How did the parent you were left with treat you? With specific details if possible? Was there any negligence or did u feel anything was insufficient?
15. What are your feelings towards other children that grew up with both parents, are they privileged or are you underprivileged
16. What was the money situation like after one parent left; was this parent the primary breadwinner?
17. Did you feel that you were properly nurtured after one parent left; was the parent who left the primary caregiver?
18. What do you feel you lack in your life now as result of being a child in broken home and what did you lack back then?
19. Do/ did have extra responsibilities towards your family because of the divorce?
20. Do you blame yourself for the divorce?

Answer 1

I am not a child of divorce, but a child of a couple who should have gotten divorced.

So many times we hear about how a divorce has affected the children, which is a legitimate concern. However, it isn't always the best to stay married for the children either.

Food for thought.

Answer 2

My parents divorced when I was only 3 so I don't remember even having a father around so to me it didn't make a difference until I got older and all my friends had parents still together and I was the only one without two parents...always made me wish I had the same thing at home. My father wasn't in my life until I was in my 20's and we both made an effort to form a relationship. I didn't ever feel it was my fault they got divorced though, maybe because I was so young. I know older kids seem to feel they are to blame in some way, probably because the parents fight about the kids and they think they are the cause of the break up. I think the only negative impact is I got divorced myself because I didn't stick it out through the rough times...if my parents had been together I may have had the role models to see marriages go through good and bad times yet you still stay together and work it out.

Answer 3

Wow, there are a lot of questions!! This is good! My parents were divorced when I was 4. Although it may seem to young to remember much, I remember quite a bit about it. Honestly, it was a good thing that they got divorced. It may not have seemed like it at the time, but it was doing more damage then good by them staying together. To answer your other questions the best I can, YES I was raised better than I can ever imagine, by my father!! He taught us responsibility, always encouraged high academics, sports, social lives etc. We all played a big role in the house hold, until he remarried. They did have another child together and it was not at all wierd!!

Do not blame yourself for the divorce. You have nothing to do with the personal relationship of your parents! You can't make them stay together, not saying that you are trying. It may not seem like it right now, but if your parents don't want to be together it is best for everyone in the end.

Lastly, yes it still seem wierd at times when you talk to people whose parents have been together forever, but you need to be proud of who you are. Every family is different, but it doesn't mean you are!!

Keep your head up and good luck! It will get better!

Answer 4

1. 9
2. no
3. it hasnt
4. nope
5. nope
6. over-acheiver, nope, its because my parents still pushed me to do my best regardless if they were married or not
7. yes
8. nope still had both parents just not under one rof
9. not at all
10. alot
11. nope
12. i have already been married once, nothing lasts forever except death
13. being happy
14. my parent treated me wonderfully, my parents divorced each other not the children
15. i feel i am the same as kids that grew up with both parents
16. the parent that i lived with was financially fine. there were no financial struggles
17. i was nurtured by the parent that left.
18. i do not lack anything from my parents divorce
19. nope, i was a child and stayed a child, the divorce did not force me to get a job or take care of my younger siblings, i was a child,
20. nope, my parents couldnt get along with each other, that would have happened with or without me and my sisters
anything else?

Answer 5

i was 3 years old i had a large family my stepdad was more responsible than my dad and my dad was a alcoholic and i didn't have any problems really other than my stepbrothers who were always in trouble with the law and after i met my dad at 12 i didn't want my parents getting back together, my mom was great i have been married for 24 years my brothers and i have stuck to a rule we only marry once because my dad was irresponsible and my stepdad a wonderful man had terrible evil sons who just i swear came from the devil himself but my advice is i would rather see to people get a divorce than sit there in a marriage and make each miserable but i wish they would both sit down with the kids and let them know yes life will be different but you still have a mom and a dad but sometimes things are different when there is fighting and violence the important things is to help when needed do what you are told and love your parents i know they love you my mom was the best parent ever

Answer 6

i was 6 months old when my parents divorced so
i really dont think i was to blame for the split

my parents got a divorce because my dad treated woman like servants how do i know this because he did it to his next 2 wives ....2nd wife divorced him and he was lagally seperated from his 3rd living seperatly .....she ended up passing away ..now he is in a long term realtionship and this woman that with want to marry .....i told her turn in her car keys for an apron if you feel like marring my father ...

my 1 marriage has lasted longer then 2 of my fathers i need 3 years to pass his total number of years married

i look at my father and i say that is the man that i am not going to be ....

i didnt have any more responsibilities than any one else growing up my mom gave us kids a chore list of things to do around the house we all helped out around the house .

i dont lack anything in life , i did what all people should do take advantage of a free education ...i did so good in high school that i went to college for free too...not because i was a kid that grew up in a single parent household


its like anything in life you get out of it what you put into it

you can be a statistic thats fine thats the lazy way

or you can do something about it ....but do not complain about it because you had the right and the resources to change

Answer 7

1) 12
2)felt uncomfortable spending separate time with each parent. it just felt weird.
3) no
4)no
5)no
6)achiever
7) yes
8)sometimes i guess i did being the eldest
9)missed out on just sharing my childhood with both parents together. it used to hurt with i say my friends and cousins doing stuff with both parents or just their dads.
10)2
11)no
14) i don't know i can't predict the future
14)not having my father around.
15) my mum was a very good mother. she made up for not having my dad around.
16) my mum did the best she could. we never went without and what my mum couldn't do my grandmother being her mum would help. my dad never paid matience nor gave us a birthday present from the day they split.
17)looked after very well.
18)a father / a father
19)yes i guess i helped my mum a lot
20)no

Answer 8

I just got a divorce after 31 years, my daughter is 22, I waited till she was on her own feet before doing this. Divorce sucks to put it plainly!! I was not to blame, he was.

Answer 9

so many questions.

how many times have your spouse been married???
Is this U in this situation or just a TROUBLE maker of a couple going thro a messy situation???