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Im not great at making friends. I have made friends with a guy in work since aug. The thing is i cant tell if he sees me as a mate. Hes not great at emailing me first ie when organising stuff outside of work he wants u to phone him and in work hes not great at iniating emails hell reply but not great at emailing to say hi.
Hell reply to mine and be like hows u how was ur weekend but would be nice if he did it once in a while, When we go to lunch he seems to enjoy my company joking with me n stuff and ive been over his flat but am worried/paranoid that he is just being nice. The one time i emailed him and he didnt reply he did appologise for not replying and the only time hes iniated convo was when he thought hed offended me which was nice.
Deep down i see him as a friend but im still paranoid as hes not great at contact hell reply to my emails and seems interested more than others ive emailed but as he dont iniate much i get paranoid.
2007-11-17 23:35:02 · 7 answers · asked by josephine123446 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'd work harder on becoming his friend face-to-face than in cyber world. You could have more of a friendship and probably a better one. Maybe even something more in time
2007-11-17 23:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh..i took the time to answer your previous one..but i do have a change of heart on this one.
i think there's more to how you feel towards him..i mean there is some attraction that you feel for him, more then "Hi me mate, lets go out for some lager, what ya sayin' compadre?"
I say this because of your particular words:"..[I] am worried/paranoid that he is just being nice.."..i mean sounds like you want more from this guy then just be mates..look deep inside of you..try not to lie to urself and ask urself whats this dude to ya?
Or maybe do ya think that because ur not good at making friends,as u say u are, you are afraid that maybe ur just acquaintances? let it time..no pressure..if case might be, it will develop in to a friendship..but if you pressure the dude this will scare him off..friendship is really a sense of being secured, and not being judged by the other person..putting pressure right from the very start will not lead to that
2007-11-18 07:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Cipi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are obsessing on this man. chill out and find other interests beside him. go out with friends and family. if he was going to make a move , he would have by now. or maybe he doesnt want a relationship. my brother doesnt, he is quite happily divorced . everyone is different. there are other men out there you know.
2007-11-18 07:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by heavymetalbitch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he want to be friends or more than that. and is there anything that you like about him as a friend or a mate, sometimes you have to listen to your heart and follow it.
2007-11-18 07:39:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think hes just a coworker,,, I wouldn't really call him a friend.
2007-11-18 07:38:30 · answer #5 · answered by MissMonk 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with womens lib, you make the first move! tell him how
you feel. good luck.
2007-11-18 07:39:35 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so
2007-11-18 07:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋