my sister explained that her bf was really interested in doing it with her, but she isnt ready for it yet.
i explained to him when i first met him that if she told me anything that made him not look like an absolute angel, that id take him to the cleaners...and i did.
she came home crying and saying that she couldnt take it anymore, and that she wasnt ready. i asked where he was, she told me, i left and...lets keep it PG. ill just say that if you saw a before and after shot, you'd say, "is that REALLY the same guy?!"
im not sure how she would react, its been a couple of days and she doesnt know yet. i asked her if she was still going out with him, but she just said, "i deal with what's going on right now...i dont want to see him"
i just wondering if i sort of over did it. i know he had it coming, im very protective of my sister...just wondering if i went too far.
2007-11-17 21:18:32 · 14 answers · asked by Mr Giggity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my sister was raised im my family, so we are all real strong people emotionally. so if it got to the point that she was crying, it must have really been bad, last time she cried was 7 years ago. this isnt the first time she's had this happen to her, but she never cried over it. i didnt mean to be so rough but the guy was a sleeze anyway. my sis is way too kind for her own good. she aint no dummy either, she's smart, so whatever she saw in this guy, i sure couldnt.
2007-11-17 21:32:13 · update #1
awww i wish i had an older brother who would've done that exact same thing to my sleezy ex!!
2007-11-17 21:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by 1080 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I understand why you did it but what about if this guy goes to the police? You could be charged with assult and that would not help your sister at all. Violence is never the answer and anger should always be controlled. have you heard about the guy that was bashed and killed for using a hose in his frony garden? Well, the person that bashed him now is getting 20 years in jail for just a moment of loosing his temper. I am surprised the boyfriend not only didn't go to the police, but also that he didn't tell your sister what you did. Also, i don't understand why you became so angry - he may have been pressuring your sister but he didn't force her. She said no and he accepted it. I think you should have spoken to him and maybe warned him to stay away from your sister, but i think that was all you should have done. It is great that you are so protective of your sister though - but try not to break the law as I am sure she would be a lot more upset than now if you end up in jail.
2007-11-21 01:44:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, No, No. You should not have done anything. If your sister had a problem, then she should be speaking her mind. You can console her during or on after making her decisions, but not get involved. You potentially could have opened a can of worms here. You have possibly created more problems for your sister and yourself. You obviously need anger control management, as your first impulse was to beat him. It is not the possibility of having sex that was the problem here. It is your reaction. I don't know how old you are; but you sound immature...You are big noting yourself by mentioning the fact of disfiguring him after the belting you gave. That is pathetic. I have two big brothers and they would not think to do anything like that. They Love and respect me enough to let me handle my life. I suggest you are up front and honest with your sister. You need to tell her what you did. Just in case there are any repercussions.
2007-11-18 05:30:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At last, a brother that cares. But ya, dude, you over did it.
Its up to your sister, (I guess) she major, or make her own mind and not dump it on you, unless the guy was stalking her and ready to molest her at the slightest opportunity.
If she is a minor, you gave him a beating, now make sure you sister, also gets a earful (explain to her the basic nature of a man, and what he wants when he is with girl) and does not go out with the this boy.
She shouldn't be dumping this thing on you, if she is mature enough to go out alone with a man!
2007-11-18 05:28:56 · answer #4 · answered by mx. know it all 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hm probably expect the police to come visit you, is a good idea?
plus bashing the guy would have not helped much, you basically have shown how stupid you can act!
Nothing forced you to do it, you could have come and explain to the guy the situation and just show your rank and values, he would have been scared even more!
oh and its not being protective, but acting to satisfy your stupid ego. Not the guy will have even more hat tress against your sister and she might get caught in a middle of a new conflict, and get harmed.
well done!
2007-11-18 05:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by *Jiiize* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends, but only a little. Chances are you way overdid it. If it was really, really bad and your sister was in danger, you had more of a right. However, it sounds like she was just really upset and you would have been more of a help to her if you'd comforted her and given her a little advice. Your hearts in the right place, but I'd suggest apologizing, at least to your sister.
2007-11-18 05:25:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far to protective. You did over do it and it could have been handled a lot better then that. You could have helped her break up with him instead of you getting yourself in potential trouble and you really can't help your sister if you are in goal.
You need to calm down and learn to handle things without your fists.
2007-11-18 05:25:18 · answer #7 · answered by Rebjam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my sister was crying over something her boyfriend did to her, my dad and I would confront him like you have. Family always come first, man, and looking after your sister proves that.
2007-11-18 05:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by William C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you went to far... But you got to think who your sis going to take it... If she really likes this guy your going to be the bad guy in all this..
Plus the bf make take it to the police or something...
It sounds like you care for your sis alot, but i do get the feeling your going to be the bad guy when it all comes out.
2007-11-18 05:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by lizzibotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you did go a bit far. you should have used a less brutal scare tactic. like just pushing him around and maybe a couple slaps to let him know whos boss. but i dont think you should have all out bashed his face in. i mean after all, they didnt actually do it
2007-11-18 05:23:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are always so protective of her she knows you.if she didnt want you to react she would not have came to you but you should tell her and not let her hear it from someone else.also tell her you did it to stop the guy from trying to make her do something she dont wanna so he deserved it
2007-11-18 05:25:08 · answer #11 · answered by thesweetestpage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋